Love is not enough . . . there is responsibility that goes along with love. Why don't so many not see this ?

From my own past experience and others I've read on this site . . . why do so many talk of love...yet don't see the responsibility that comes with loving another or another loving you ?





Do you feel that love alone is enough or that there are other factors necessary for love to flourish? Or (do you feel that) I'm ' out of touch ' with the ' realities ' of love and relationships ?





I get frustrated with the seeming unknowingjness of the (joyful) responsibilities that go along with sharing love with another. Not just in the beginning...but for years into the relationship whether that be dating, courtship or marriage.





Your honest thoughts . . .


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Love is not enough . . . there is responsibility that goes along with love. Why don't so many not see this ?
No, love alone is not enough, although it seems there are many people who believe it should be.





You make an excellent point and I'm delighted to know that I am not the only one who thinks the issue is important enough to at least question what's happening.





If I had to make a guess as to the cause, I would say it is due to social conditioning. I know that is very general, but I've been around for a few years (I'm 41) and I tend to look at underlying messages, particularly when it comes to what we see and hear on television.





With all the different social trends of the past few decades, propagated by people who are more often than not, probably well-intentioned, I think many of us have traded our traditional values in for a more "modern" approach to relationships, including, but not limited to marriage. I believe that somewhere within those trends, selfishness has taken a front-row seat.





That's my honest opinion.
Reply:I agree. Just loving someone is never enough to make a relationship work. I used to think that just loving someone could somehow make everything work out alright, but it doesn't. You have to be able to work and let a little bit of your pride go. Love is a great and powerful thing, but it's never enough to make things work out. You have to be willing to take on some responsibilities.
Reply:Love is not enough.A relationship has to have loyalty,respect,honesty,trust and two people working together on the plateau towards the same goal like marriage as an example
Reply:Yeah, there are responsibilities, to be honest, past that honeymoon phase, it takes alot of communication and compromise to make things work. It's hard work, but worth it if you love them.
Reply:The best way i can descibe it would be





Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.


It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.


Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.


It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.


Love never fails.





(1 Corinthians 13)
Reply:U are so right and not out of touch at all, I'm right there with u all the way!!!
Reply:you hit the nail on the head, it is alot of responsibility, trust and forgiveness
Reply:I LOVED my ex-wife......and where did THAT get me?? You can take "love", and a dollar, and get you a cup of coffee. Love, in and of itself, is very little of ALL that it takes to make a marriage work. It takes a lot of hard work, determination, and forgiveness. LOVE, alone , is NOT enough!
Reply:You are right. When you love someone, it's not just because you enjoy being together. It's about building a foundation of trust, to be able to compromise, to build a future together. Love is very strong, but the responsibility of trust and having faith in each other is stronger.
Reply:You are absolutely right. Couples can not live off of love alone. It takes hard work to make a relationship last. Some people just wanna screw around and have one sexual encounter after another. I just can't see it.





Personally, I would rather have a relationship with that person that wants to learn and grow with me. Long term is where it's at.
Reply:I hate when people say the love a person after one or two encounters it is not love until you can't imagine being with out that special person, when you love the same things, when you want to be together and Love is such a misused word. I love my son unconditional since the day he was born and I love my finance unconditional but it took time to find that love