I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. and i love him very much...he knows that and i know he loves me. We took a small break couple of months ago and now we're back together. The problem is, he used to be very sweet and charming, and very open about how he feels...now that we're back again he seem very different from the guy i fell in love with 2 years ago. He doesnt really show affection anymore, he doesnt want me saying i love you all the time now, i think we used to be the sweetest couple ever and i love it that way...when we spend hours on the phone just letting eachother know how much we love eachother and planning our furture. He doesnt even do that anymore, he doesnt want me to be all sweet, he wants be to act tough and not act like the way we used to anymore...i really dont like how we are now but i really love him but he really change. i dont get him anymore and its tearing me apart! I miss the old him and I want that back. you think its worth to stay? :(
I love him but is it even worth it?? i need advice :(?
ya know? that one is hard. i have had the same situation. i say just let him know that you love him.
let me imagine u really fast:
youu lovee him alotttttt.
you know he loves youu.
i do say "stayy"
i think that's the best choice(:
Reply:No wonder he wants to run, you sound so clingy its even boring to hear even for a girl! Stop whining and give him space to breathe you sound so boring and demanding and telling sm1 u love him all the time gets boring and it's annoying.
I'm sure he met a cooler girl who doesn't whine like you do. So find sm1 who likes to hear the pukey "i love u" ALL the time. *barf*. You sound too needy and boys hate that and even girls like me hate seeing needy girls who whine all the time. Enjoy love and take it as it comes and if you don't like the way he is now then move on cos he won't be what you want him to be. You can't expect to stay the same all the time and do the things you did, times change people change feelings change as well. If you do the same ALL the time then it gets boring. Be creative and stop whining. Good luck. :-)
Reply:It gets really old. There is no reason to have to express your love every moment of the day, he probably really like the break from clingy i love you stuff.
i love my husband, but i don't hang on him, and text him and call him and just annoy him with my i love you's...
we used to be like this too, but the unspoken love it stronger than just saying it.
Reply:often people change. if he isn't being good to you it may be time to move on.
Reply:If you guys used to share things and be open to each other, how come you're posting this on yahoo answers and not telling your boyfriend? Maybe if you started to open up to him about yourself after the break he'll begin to relax and be comfortable around you again. However, if you think you've tried to get him to talk and be how he was before and it's not changing, I'd say move on. Don't waste your time, you never know when another guy is going to walk into your life. Someone better than him (:
Reply:Tell him how you feel, and if he doesn't care then leave him. Keep in mind that all couples go through what you are going through. Couples change from being lovey dovey into routine. It's part of the relationship process, don't stress it unless he's being a jerk or truly not treating you right.
Reply:you can take the chance that it may just be a phase or u can find some 1 new who u know and trust
Reply:Talk to him see what he says
But if he's changed you sure you still love him or just the idea of him %26amp; he used to be?
Reply:First of all what was the reason for the 2 months break? I mean was it mutual or was it due to some problem.
If it was due to some issue between you two, then may be all the words exchanged has made him change. Sometimes in anger we say off many things which might hurt the other person. Your BF might have taken those words seriously. Like you might have told him that you are not being a man and handling things yourself, so may be trying to be tough now.
If it was mutual then there may be some issue bothering him. Or may be he is looking for something.
Lastly you have answered your own question. As you love him more then other things and want to be with him then why you want to split from him?
Reply:tell him your feeling.try to go back to your normal life ,if it doesn't work .begin anew life .this is my opinion.i have come across a website which named seniorwoo..com .many people are finding their suit people .it may help you.good luck
Reply:Well may his feelings have changed the time you've been appart from each other ... Why don't you try talking to him ? Then you'll see if he still loves you and you'll decide if you'll stay with him ...
Reply:Truly, you never loved each other. More to claim loving each other, more to convey that you do not. Love does not need assurance every time, every second that how much one loves other. It was expected end of such love like this.
Reply:i think 2 yrs is enough he prolly found someone else sorry to say but i suggest u break it off if he would to be the speical one he would of never changed
Reply:where have i heard this before? oh yeah from me.....dont waste anymore of your time. he's changed, not worth being drug around. and he's probably cheated. sorry to say.
Reply:it's up to you..
I think he have another girlfriend yet..
He is playboy
Reply:I think he already has another one fresh like you was. So you need to give up!!
Reply:Was it a joint decision to have your break?
Sounds to me like he's still hurting...... love is one thing but without communication it just doesn't work %26amp; yes, that goes both ways.
Only time will give you the answer if he isnt open about how he feels %26amp; you're willing to give it a go.
Hope it works out for you
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Friday, April 16, 2010
FirSt LoVe!?!?
I'm 14, and I went on a mission trip to mexico with my church. I met this guy who was also going on the mission trip, and we became best friends. After the trip, I realized how perfect he is, and I really think that I'm in love with him. Does everyone have a childhood love? Who was your first love, and how old were you? Is it real love, or do you just think it's love? Cause this feels like real love to me, I love everything about him and I think we were meant to be together.
FirSt LoVe!?!?
it is probably just feels like love. everybody has a first love they think is their first love and than they have a real first love and realize their first love was not love at all. hope that makes since! but hey if you like him that much doesn't hurt to date and see where it takes you and who knows it could end up as love.
good luck
Reply:I am now 28 and miss my first love like crazy. He lives in another town far away. Everyone does have a first love. But for some, this is the ONE. Tell him how you feel, take things slow, and see where it goes. Live life to the fullest, and dance like no one's watching. Good luck! Report It
Reply:Love is what makes it real for you. I started dating when I was your age and I always look back at that experience as a great one, young and innocent love with no pressures. I think that you should contact this guy and tell him your feelings, rather live knowing you tried than to always wonder what couldve been. Good luck!
FirSt LoVe!?!?
it is probably just feels like love. everybody has a first love they think is their first love and than they have a real first love and realize their first love was not love at all. hope that makes since! but hey if you like him that much doesn't hurt to date and see where it takes you and who knows it could end up as love.
good luck
Reply:I am now 28 and miss my first love like crazy. He lives in another town far away. Everyone does have a first love. But for some, this is the ONE. Tell him how you feel, take things slow, and see where it goes. Live life to the fullest, and dance like no one's watching. Good luck! Report It
Reply:Love is what makes it real for you. I started dating when I was your age and I always look back at that experience as a great one, young and innocent love with no pressures. I think that you should contact this guy and tell him your feelings, rather live knowing you tried than to always wonder what couldve been. Good luck!
She Loves me, but she doesnt want me to marry her because of another guy she love most?
There is want girl, I expressed my love to her, she appreciated my love, welcomed my love and she even confessed that she loves me, but she cannot marry me, i asked her and she confessed yhat she has another guy that she loves most and precisely, she cannot leave the guy despite the fact that the guy has one girl friend before, but because of her, jes trying to dump the formal girl friend, hence, she cannot disapoint the guy.
I said can she make me as her friend, she said she cannot share her love with another man. but the funny situation is that, she always ask money for her feeding, hair dressing, shopping and other huge expenses. what should i do for this kind ugly situation?
She Loves me, but she doesnt want me to marry her because of another guy she love most?
Oh wow!!! You really have to ask what you should do about this situation that you've classified as ugly. She's claiming to love you because you spend money on her. You're supporting her by giving up your money. Now do you know for a fact that there is another guy or is this just a lie. Ask yourself this why would she be willing to let you go while she waits on another man to get rid of his girlfriend. Who's to say that this other man is ever going to give up his girlfriend to be with her. Man please, no real true female is going to put her life on hold while a man gets rid of his girlfriend. It's going to be put on the line it's either her or me make your choice. Her other man has made his choice to be with his girlfriend and not her. She's made her choice to not be with you. She told you already that she's not going to be with you. Now you need to make your choice. Either continue to be her sugar daddy who pays for her expensive expenses and that's it or leave her and let her other man pay her bills. If she really loved you she'd be with you since you're available and want to be with her. She wouldn't be telling you that she can't because she's waiting for another man to dump his current girlfriend so they can be together. Do yourself a favor and don't even be her friend. She's after your money and nothing else. Find someone that wants to be with you not for what you can buy for them but because they honestly love you.
I'm not saying she's a gold digger but if you were broke or stopped spending money on her she wouldn't deal with you.
Reply:Get away from her!There's a good chance she doesnt even love you and just see's your love as a window to get more from you.If she's in love with someone she's not for you.Don't lower yourself. Find someone that will love you and only you.No one deserves what you're going through.
Reply:Cut her off. SHe is not with you. SHe told you she is not going to be with you, it is a sad situation for you. Do not waste your time anymore. SHe has made it clear that there is no relationship with you. Do not give her money or anything anymore. She might think she has you by the finger and that is not right. She should not ask you for things. By cutting her off, you are showing her that you will not hang around. She has to make her decision. It seems you are being used and that angers me. Please do not give anything more to her. Find yourself someone who will love you the way you love, someone who will love you and only you.
Reply:She loves your MONEY, your ATTENTION, and your INABILITY TO SEE WHAT SHE REALLY IS!!
You are a very FOOLISH guy!! You have let yourself be taken by someone who has NO INTENTION of EVER being YOUR GIRL.
What should you do??? Get in touch with your SELF, grow some "cahonies" (don't know the spelling), and GET THIS USER out of your LIFE!!
Reply:She is using you for material items. Stop buying her food, and other expenses. Let the man that she loves so much do this stuff for her. You need to find someone who will care about you and forget about her. Again, she is using you!
Reply:She's using you for money. Stop paying for her "feeding" and other things and see if she sticks around.
Reply:You need to ask? Sheesh. Get on with your life...without HER!
Reply:She is USING YOU for your money.loose that girl.you r just gonna get hurt.
Reply:woman are cruel. i hope i dont hurt your feelings, but i think that she is using you. and she is doing this because you are letting her. you love her, and she knows it, and she is using it to stay close to you, but she loves someone else. so i think that you need to end that relationship. because its only going to get worse for your heart. her heart apparently belongs to someone else. but she comes back because you let her in with your heart, and she is using this to get what she wants from you. if she loves someone else, tell her to get her money from him. dont let her trick you that way. nothing is sincere about saying she loves you, but loves someone else more. thats a load of crap. dump her before it gets worse. and sorry for what she is doing. good luck.
Reply:Asks you for money for her feeding??????????????She is using you and it seem like you have no respect for her. Thats an easy one. Just think with your brain not your head.
I said can she make me as her friend, she said she cannot share her love with another man. but the funny situation is that, she always ask money for her feeding, hair dressing, shopping and other huge expenses. what should i do for this kind ugly situation?
She Loves me, but she doesnt want me to marry her because of another guy she love most?
Oh wow!!! You really have to ask what you should do about this situation that you've classified as ugly. She's claiming to love you because you spend money on her. You're supporting her by giving up your money. Now do you know for a fact that there is another guy or is this just a lie. Ask yourself this why would she be willing to let you go while she waits on another man to get rid of his girlfriend. Who's to say that this other man is ever going to give up his girlfriend to be with her. Man please, no real true female is going to put her life on hold while a man gets rid of his girlfriend. It's going to be put on the line it's either her or me make your choice. Her other man has made his choice to be with his girlfriend and not her. She's made her choice to not be with you. She told you already that she's not going to be with you. Now you need to make your choice. Either continue to be her sugar daddy who pays for her expensive expenses and that's it or leave her and let her other man pay her bills. If she really loved you she'd be with you since you're available and want to be with her. She wouldn't be telling you that she can't because she's waiting for another man to dump his current girlfriend so they can be together. Do yourself a favor and don't even be her friend. She's after your money and nothing else. Find someone that wants to be with you not for what you can buy for them but because they honestly love you.
I'm not saying she's a gold digger but if you were broke or stopped spending money on her she wouldn't deal with you.
Reply:Get away from her!There's a good chance she doesnt even love you and just see's your love as a window to get more from you.If she's in love with someone she's not for you.Don't lower yourself. Find someone that will love you and only you.No one deserves what you're going through.
Reply:Cut her off. SHe is not with you. SHe told you she is not going to be with you, it is a sad situation for you. Do not waste your time anymore. SHe has made it clear that there is no relationship with you. Do not give her money or anything anymore. She might think she has you by the finger and that is not right. She should not ask you for things. By cutting her off, you are showing her that you will not hang around. She has to make her decision. It seems you are being used and that angers me. Please do not give anything more to her. Find yourself someone who will love you the way you love, someone who will love you and only you.
Reply:She loves your MONEY, your ATTENTION, and your INABILITY TO SEE WHAT SHE REALLY IS!!
You are a very FOOLISH guy!! You have let yourself be taken by someone who has NO INTENTION of EVER being YOUR GIRL.
What should you do??? Get in touch with your SELF, grow some "cahonies" (don't know the spelling), and GET THIS USER out of your LIFE!!
Reply:She is using you for material items. Stop buying her food, and other expenses. Let the man that she loves so much do this stuff for her. You need to find someone who will care about you and forget about her. Again, she is using you!
Reply:She's using you for money. Stop paying for her "feeding" and other things and see if she sticks around.
Reply:You need to ask? Sheesh. Get on with your life...without HER!
Reply:She is USING YOU for your money.loose that girl.you r just gonna get hurt.
Reply:woman are cruel. i hope i dont hurt your feelings, but i think that she is using you. and she is doing this because you are letting her. you love her, and she knows it, and she is using it to stay close to you, but she loves someone else. so i think that you need to end that relationship. because its only going to get worse for your heart. her heart apparently belongs to someone else. but she comes back because you let her in with your heart, and she is using this to get what she wants from you. if she loves someone else, tell her to get her money from him. dont let her trick you that way. nothing is sincere about saying she loves you, but loves someone else more. thats a load of crap. dump her before it gets worse. and sorry for what she is doing. good luck.
Reply:Asks you for money for her feeding??????????????She is using you and it seem like you have no respect for her. Thats an easy one. Just think with your brain not your head.
How much love can you give and still have some left?
Does love grow stronger when it's given away?
Do you love each person in a new, special way?
Does loving more people make you better able to love?
If you love everyone you meet, does that mean that your love for your significant other isn't special?
If you love everyone, does that mean your love isn't worth anything?
How much love can you give and still have some left?
Love is infinite!
Love does grow stronger when given away because you get love back in return from the other person.
I do love each person in a new, special way, because everyone is different and can't be loved in the same way.
The more people you love, the better able you are to love because you've likely experienced loss as well and it makes you a stronger person.
If you love everyone you meet, the love for your significant other is just as strong as ever because they're your significant other. If it wasn't more special than your love for everyone else, then they wouldn't be your "significant other".
If you love everyone, your love is worth even more because it shows your a good person with a big heart!
You can also give love without "taking away" love from everyone else. But no two people can be loved in exactly the same way. Like, I love my mother in a different way than I love my sister or my boyfriend, and I love my boyfriend in a different way than I love my best friends or favorite teachers, I love my pets in a different way than other animals I meet, etc.
Love is powerful though, you can't just give it away to anyone you meet. They need to show that they're worthy of it and should be able to show you an equivelant level of love in return. But beware, the more you love, they more you're opening yourself up to being hurt when those people leave, die, move, etc. However, it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all!!
Reply:You're welcome! :-) Good luck! Report It
Reply:u can give as much love as u want it will never finish theres no end to it. u can give it to god, different ppl, and still have left for urself. how nice huh
Reply:Maybe you should pick one question and stick with it.
Reply:mann love is everyhing
Reply:This sounds like a song I never want to hear again.
Reply:love can make you a broken hearted idiot who feels real damn stupid right now, but love while it lasts is great
Do you love each person in a new, special way?
Does loving more people make you better able to love?
If you love everyone you meet, does that mean that your love for your significant other isn't special?
If you love everyone, does that mean your love isn't worth anything?
How much love can you give and still have some left?
Love is infinite!
Love does grow stronger when given away because you get love back in return from the other person.
I do love each person in a new, special way, because everyone is different and can't be loved in the same way.
The more people you love, the better able you are to love because you've likely experienced loss as well and it makes you a stronger person.
If you love everyone you meet, the love for your significant other is just as strong as ever because they're your significant other. If it wasn't more special than your love for everyone else, then they wouldn't be your "significant other".
If you love everyone, your love is worth even more because it shows your a good person with a big heart!
You can also give love without "taking away" love from everyone else. But no two people can be loved in exactly the same way. Like, I love my mother in a different way than I love my sister or my boyfriend, and I love my boyfriend in a different way than I love my best friends or favorite teachers, I love my pets in a different way than other animals I meet, etc.
Love is powerful though, you can't just give it away to anyone you meet. They need to show that they're worthy of it and should be able to show you an equivelant level of love in return. But beware, the more you love, they more you're opening yourself up to being hurt when those people leave, die, move, etc. However, it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all!!
Reply:You're welcome! :-) Good luck! Report It
Reply:u can give as much love as u want it will never finish theres no end to it. u can give it to god, different ppl, and still have left for urself. how nice huh
Reply:Maybe you should pick one question and stick with it.
Reply:mann love is everyhing
Reply:This sounds like a song I never want to hear again.
Reply:love can make you a broken hearted idiot who feels real damn stupid right now, but love while it lasts is great
Story of lost love. Opinions please?
Story of
Love Lost
I once had this man so handsome and true.
Everyday was bliss and our love grew and grew.
It was truly amazing the love that we shared.
It was something to cherish but I felt so scared.
Our love was undeniable and one of a kind.
True soul mates but I had been so blind.
The day had come when he knelt on one knee.
He declared his love and proposed to me.
As he said those words I began to feel ill.
The thought of marriage gave me a frightening chill.
I had dreamt of this day and it was as perfect as can be,
but to my dismay; worries got the best of me.
I told him I love you, but I don’t want to wed.
I’ll never forget the endless tears my man shed.
Shortly after he lost faith in our love.
He lost all the hopes of the life we dreamt of.
A year went by and I missed him so much.
I missed our long talks, I missed his soft touch.
I missed his smile and how he held me so tight.
I missed how much our love felt so right.
I knew in that moment I had made a mistake.
I had let him down I had given him heart ache.
As I walked to his house I didn’t know what I would say.
Did I mess up too bad because I pushed him away?
I arrived at his house scared and confused.
My heart longed for him, but his I abused.
But I got the courage to knock on his front door.
I would tell him I loved him I would hold back no more.
A women answered with a belly big and round.
I asked for him but she said he’s out of town.
She told me she missed him but soon he shall return.
My heart sank and I felt helpless and alone.
She asked for my name, but I told her a lie.
I am just an old friend, and then I said goodbye.
I ran away with tears streaming down my face.
I was so mad at my myself I felt such disgrace.
Have you ever been so scared that you made a mistake?
Did it ever take too long before you decided to awake?
If you ever have the chance to be happy for life.
don’t be scared, and become his wife.
Story of lost love. Opinions please?
hmm what do you want an opinion on?
If its on the poem itself well its straight forward and very simple rhyme. Its like a direct story with no metaphors and complicated symbolism. Its ok for yourself but as a poem itself does not really show greatness.
If you want an opinion on the story itself.
Its a sad but common case it seems. But untill you find someone who is right for you it will seem like a mistake i suppose. Everything happens for a reason since you cant change things regret is time wasted. Learn and dont let one choice mess with your future anymore.
Reply:Wow, such sorry. Frecks...It was really moving, and i understood it well. No One should have to feel the pain of heartache, but it happens to the best of us.
You did a great job on the rhyme scheme, I'm proud of you on that. You put actual emotions into this, bout made me cry. Your Poetry is a trus work of art, in a literature sense. Good job, Great job!
As Always Chica....You Rock!
Reply:This is how I feel about marriage too: scared and reluctant... I think it's a well-written poem, it teaches a very good lesson. So sad though... *sigh*
Reply:so sad, regretful and disappointing.....but beware of your grammar... 'women' part.........
Reply:that is sad
i get heartache just reading it
i know how that sort of thing feels
Reply:I love it!!!
And I completely disagree with the person above me, the length was appropriate, the poem was just great!
Loved the rhyming parts. The length was apprporiate because its a STORY of a lost love, not a poem.
Anyway, I give you 10/10, the poem was wonderful!
Reply:Very very true, I love the poem and I feel the tears. I hope I never make a similar mistake. Love lost is the worst, but sometimes its all for the best reasons in the world. Maybe your destined to be with someone who is even more special.
Good luck
Reply:Too much attention spent on rhyming.
Also, it would be more powerful as an emotion if you took all that you're feeling and put it into 3 or 4 lines. Or at least each of those sections condensed into shorter, more direct, more intense imagery.
For example, if I'd written it, I might do this:
Have you been so scared even waking up was a mistake?
If you want to be happy don’t become his wife.
Reply:Don't be mad at yourself, you did the right thing. You'll find love again, and when you're ready to marry you will, too many people get married thinking it's the last chance they'll have, and ultimately, it just doesn't work. You handled the situation with his new partner with maturity and grace. You are too good of a person to live a loveless life, so don't lose hope.
Reply:i am more depressed than i was beofre reading this..
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Love Lost
I once had this man so handsome and true.
Everyday was bliss and our love grew and grew.
It was truly amazing the love that we shared.
It was something to cherish but I felt so scared.
Our love was undeniable and one of a kind.
True soul mates but I had been so blind.
The day had come when he knelt on one knee.
He declared his love and proposed to me.
As he said those words I began to feel ill.
The thought of marriage gave me a frightening chill.
I had dreamt of this day and it was as perfect as can be,
but to my dismay; worries got the best of me.
I told him I love you, but I don’t want to wed.
I’ll never forget the endless tears my man shed.
Shortly after he lost faith in our love.
He lost all the hopes of the life we dreamt of.
A year went by and I missed him so much.
I missed our long talks, I missed his soft touch.
I missed his smile and how he held me so tight.
I missed how much our love felt so right.
I knew in that moment I had made a mistake.
I had let him down I had given him heart ache.
As I walked to his house I didn’t know what I would say.
Did I mess up too bad because I pushed him away?
I arrived at his house scared and confused.
My heart longed for him, but his I abused.
But I got the courage to knock on his front door.
I would tell him I loved him I would hold back no more.
A women answered with a belly big and round.
I asked for him but she said he’s out of town.
She told me she missed him but soon he shall return.
My heart sank and I felt helpless and alone.
She asked for my name, but I told her a lie.
I am just an old friend, and then I said goodbye.
I ran away with tears streaming down my face.
I was so mad at my myself I felt such disgrace.
Have you ever been so scared that you made a mistake?
Did it ever take too long before you decided to awake?
If you ever have the chance to be happy for life.
don’t be scared, and become his wife.
Story of lost love. Opinions please?
hmm what do you want an opinion on?
If its on the poem itself well its straight forward and very simple rhyme. Its like a direct story with no metaphors and complicated symbolism. Its ok for yourself but as a poem itself does not really show greatness.
If you want an opinion on the story itself.
Its a sad but common case it seems. But untill you find someone who is right for you it will seem like a mistake i suppose. Everything happens for a reason since you cant change things regret is time wasted. Learn and dont let one choice mess with your future anymore.
Reply:Wow, such sorry. Frecks...It was really moving, and i understood it well. No One should have to feel the pain of heartache, but it happens to the best of us.
You did a great job on the rhyme scheme, I'm proud of you on that. You put actual emotions into this, bout made me cry. Your Poetry is a trus work of art, in a literature sense. Good job, Great job!
As Always Chica....You Rock!
Reply:This is how I feel about marriage too: scared and reluctant... I think it's a well-written poem, it teaches a very good lesson. So sad though... *sigh*
Reply:so sad, regretful and disappointing.....but beware of your grammar... 'women' part.........
Reply:that is sad
i get heartache just reading it
i know how that sort of thing feels
Reply:I love it!!!
And I completely disagree with the person above me, the length was appropriate, the poem was just great!
Loved the rhyming parts. The length was apprporiate because its a STORY of a lost love, not a poem.
Anyway, I give you 10/10, the poem was wonderful!
Reply:Very very true, I love the poem and I feel the tears. I hope I never make a similar mistake. Love lost is the worst, but sometimes its all for the best reasons in the world. Maybe your destined to be with someone who is even more special.
Good luck
Reply:Too much attention spent on rhyming.
Also, it would be more powerful as an emotion if you took all that you're feeling and put it into 3 or 4 lines. Or at least each of those sections condensed into shorter, more direct, more intense imagery.
For example, if I'd written it, I might do this:
Have you been so scared even waking up was a mistake?
If you want to be happy don’t become his wife.
Reply:Don't be mad at yourself, you did the right thing. You'll find love again, and when you're ready to marry you will, too many people get married thinking it's the last chance they'll have, and ultimately, it just doesn't work. You handled the situation with his new partner with maturity and grace. You are too good of a person to live a loveless life, so don't lose hope.
Reply:i am more depressed than i was beofre reading this..
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Loves me but he's not "in love" with me?
My boyfriend told me last night, that he loves me but he's not "in love" with me. Now how in the h#ll am I suppose to take that? Everyday he tells me he loves me, but when I asked him last night if he was "in love" with me the a$$hole said no, and that it's not the type of love that he use to have for me back when we first started dating at 14 %26amp; 13...We had a five year break at 17 %26amp; 18... We got back together almost a year ago... He begged me to get back with him...We have been living together since Dec. of this year....I am 24yrs old and he's 25yr old...What should I do??...Should I pack my things and leave?....
Loves me but he's not "in love" with me?
Pack!...but understand too...at 13 %26amp; 14 neither one of you were mature enough to understand "in love"..%26amp; probably not at 17%26amp; 18 either...he's maturing %26amp; realizing while he loves you , loves your company, you are not "the" one for him...now, be honest with yourself...are you "in love" with him...or is he just safe...familiar?...like a comforatable old sweater?...It's life..we grow..we change...
Reply:wow, you must be feeling very hurt. I suppose in his defence, you asked him a question and he answered it.
You got together when you were very young I guess, and maybe he just feels he has grown apart from you? it does happen, people fall out of love for all kinds of reasons, it's just a pity when it happens that both parties involved don't fall out of love at the same time, because it normally means one gets hurt and the other does the hurting.
Maybe during that five year break he grew up a lot and realised that while he loves you and will probably always carry that love with him, it isn't the same as it was, first love is always special, but some people make the mistake of mixing up first love with true love, and maybe what he's doing is setting you free to find your true love?
I know it hurts right now, and you're obviously very angry as well, but maybe better that he said what he did rather than string you along knowing his feelings had changed.
Reply:Sounds like you're out of luck for a long-term relationship. Not that he's the one who should do the breaking up--you deserve better than to be in a relationship where he "loves you" but is not "in love with you." You are worth much more than this! Maybe he is trying to let you down easy, even though he's the one who begged you to get back together. He made a mistake. If you make a mistake and somehow marry this guy, he will NOT grow to be in love with you. It doesn't happen. Either he is "in love" or he just cares about you as a friend. Find another guy to give yourself to.
Reply:well i think you should smack the hell out of him and then sit down with him and talk find out why because if he loves you but is not in live with you i think he needs to make up his mind and let you know how he really feels so u can find out if yall have a futher together or not..don't u just hate guys i wish they could have a normal way of letting us know how they feel.. good luck with ur problem
Reply:Tell him you don't think we should continue on if you aren't in love with me. If by now he's not, he's not going to and you shouldn't waste time with him when you can be with the person who will fall in love with you. He's not going to ask you to marry him if he's not in love with you. I would definitly move out and tell him that you have a problem with him since you guys have been together for years and he's not in love with you. Tell him you want to find someone that will fall in love with you and have a future together. You are not there to help him kill time until he finds someone he can fall in love with. Do not settle!!!
Reply:I'm sorry to have to tell you this honey but yes. If someone doesn't love you why stay with them. I hope you find someone who loves you.
Loves me but he's not "in love" with me?
Pack!...but understand too...at 13 %26amp; 14 neither one of you were mature enough to understand "in love"..%26amp; probably not at 17%26amp; 18 either...he's maturing %26amp; realizing while he loves you , loves your company, you are not "the" one for him...now, be honest with yourself...are you "in love" with him...or is he just safe...familiar?...like a comforatable old sweater?...It's life..we grow..we change...
Reply:wow, you must be feeling very hurt. I suppose in his defence, you asked him a question and he answered it.
You got together when you were very young I guess, and maybe he just feels he has grown apart from you? it does happen, people fall out of love for all kinds of reasons, it's just a pity when it happens that both parties involved don't fall out of love at the same time, because it normally means one gets hurt and the other does the hurting.
Maybe during that five year break he grew up a lot and realised that while he loves you and will probably always carry that love with him, it isn't the same as it was, first love is always special, but some people make the mistake of mixing up first love with true love, and maybe what he's doing is setting you free to find your true love?
I know it hurts right now, and you're obviously very angry as well, but maybe better that he said what he did rather than string you along knowing his feelings had changed.
Reply:Sounds like you're out of luck for a long-term relationship. Not that he's the one who should do the breaking up--you deserve better than to be in a relationship where he "loves you" but is not "in love with you." You are worth much more than this! Maybe he is trying to let you down easy, even though he's the one who begged you to get back together. He made a mistake. If you make a mistake and somehow marry this guy, he will NOT grow to be in love with you. It doesn't happen. Either he is "in love" or he just cares about you as a friend. Find another guy to give yourself to.
Reply:well i think you should smack the hell out of him and then sit down with him and talk find out why because if he loves you but is not in live with you i think he needs to make up his mind and let you know how he really feels so u can find out if yall have a futher together or not..don't u just hate guys i wish they could have a normal way of letting us know how they feel.. good luck with ur problem
Reply:Tell him you don't think we should continue on if you aren't in love with me. If by now he's not, he's not going to and you shouldn't waste time with him when you can be with the person who will fall in love with you. He's not going to ask you to marry him if he's not in love with you. I would definitly move out and tell him that you have a problem with him since you guys have been together for years and he's not in love with you. Tell him you want to find someone that will fall in love with you and have a future together. You are not there to help him kill time until he finds someone he can fall in love with. Do not settle!!!
Reply:I'm sorry to have to tell you this honey but yes. If someone doesn't love you why stay with them. I hope you find someone who loves you.
Love is so cruel it can brake your heart.?
Last night i told my first love the following "Can we talk? I just want to say sorry.., Sorry for texting you while i was with another girl... Sorry for trying to make you jealous but in he process i was hurting you. I know that you know i love you. but due time i will tell if this is true love. I also want to let you know, i don't want to interfer with you and (her boyfriend name) relationship and if i have than I'm sorry. The necklace , the flowers wasn't to buy your love, it was to show you my love.. my love for you.... Then she replies back by saying "You didn't hurt me.. thats all i have to say about that." o been very sad for the last 14 hours.. i seen her during school and had no words to say, not even "hi". Is she telling me at the same time she doesn't like me? Also should i just move on with the rest of my life
Love is so cruel it can brake your heart.?
Love is never cruel. We tend to create our own hell on earth. If someone turns their back on you it signifies that they have lost the ability to see what a great and wonderful person you really are. If the other person doesn't recognize your value, then you don't really want to have relationship with them. I know you value yourself, recognize that you are your own best friend, and that you honor yourself by how you treat yourself and by your choice of friends. You have now discovered, possibly, that one of your choices didn't turn out as well as you hoped. So, get on with life, consider new choices and look for someone who will truly honor you as you honor them. Good luck. Remember, you are great. Don't ever let anybody tell you differently.
Reply:Grief is perhaps the most difficult of human emotions to face, although it has the potential for being the most therapeutic as well. Grief is not a bad thing, for grief is the cost of having loved. If we had not cared, we would not grieve.
Reply:well let her come to you if she doesn't move one
Reply:Yes it can "brake" your heart, but a little tramp like yourself will rebound magnificently no doubt.
Reply:Not always
Love is so cruel it can brake your heart.?
Love is never cruel. We tend to create our own hell on earth. If someone turns their back on you it signifies that they have lost the ability to see what a great and wonderful person you really are. If the other person doesn't recognize your value, then you don't really want to have relationship with them. I know you value yourself, recognize that you are your own best friend, and that you honor yourself by how you treat yourself and by your choice of friends. You have now discovered, possibly, that one of your choices didn't turn out as well as you hoped. So, get on with life, consider new choices and look for someone who will truly honor you as you honor them. Good luck. Remember, you are great. Don't ever let anybody tell you differently.
Reply:Grief is perhaps the most difficult of human emotions to face, although it has the potential for being the most therapeutic as well. Grief is not a bad thing, for grief is the cost of having loved. If we had not cared, we would not grieve.
Reply:well let her come to you if she doesn't move one
Reply:Yes it can "brake" your heart, but a little tramp like yourself will rebound magnificently no doubt.
Reply:Not always
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