Love. I need some advice on this extremely difficult situation.?

I'm gay. My best friend (female) loves me in a 'wanting to get married' sort of way. But that's not the problem. I've been dating this guy for a month and a half.





I have to break up with him because he's very emotional and he lets his emotions get the best of him. No problem right. Well I really care about the way this guy feels. I need to break up with him, but I care about his feelings.





He loves me. And he thinks that I love him, which I do NOT. I'm ready to see other people. I like the guy, he just has a lot of issues that need to be worked out. He thinks I love him. He loves me, and he's VERY EMOTIONAL.





This is the same situation me and my best friend had. They love me, and I do NOT return their feelings. And since I know how painful this whole LOVE process can be, having gone through it before with my best friend, this HAS TO END! IT MUST END NOW!





How I do make this easy on him, and let him down with the least amount of pain inflicted possible?

Love. I need some advice on this extremely difficult situation.?
Honesty is always the best policy. I'm wondering if you know that to keep the 'love' relationship going, when you don't romantically love him, is actually hurtful too...it keeps you from moving on and it keeps him from finding someone who does love him that way. Your not wanting to hurt him tells me that you really do care for him as a 'friend'...even a 'close friend'...but not as a partner. You'll do both of you a favor if you let him know as soon as possible. After you tell him, it's important that you not avoid him...when you see him be nice but not overly friendly then go on your way...don't accept any invitations or gifts from him...subconsciously he may think that these things obligate you. So...here's what I'd say... Tom, I'd like to talk to you. I want to let you know that I understand how you feel about me, but, my caring about you is not romantically motivated. I may be right for you, but you're not right for me. We just don't match. I don't want to hurt you but I do want to see other people. I want to remain friends with you, but only platonic friends. If you can't handle it that way, then I will have to stay away from you. I hope you understand. Please don't make this any more difficult than it already is. ..........that should do it.
Reply:just be honest and open....try to be as understanding as you can


and let him know you care about his feelings
Reply:dude, if you gay-don't marry the chick--let her down gently and break things off with the guy without him noticing because if he's that damn emotional and you're obvious with it, he'll probably kill himself or make the next guy suffer for it.....you don't wanna cause trouble TRUST ME


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