Relationships and love?

Love is such a complicated issue. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months, and I know he cares about me. He reassures me this from time to time, but there's that whole love issue. We have never said "I love you" to each other, and we had a good discussion about it and its meaning. He says that he doesn't want to say those three words without really meaning it, and I am very glad and definitely respect that, for I know those words are often said too easily these days.





However, I know that he has said "I love you" to one of his ex-girlfriends (and they were together for a little more than a year). At the time, I believe he also felt that love was a great risk to take, but I feel as if he was willing to risk that love for her, to risk acknowledging that he did love her...but maybe not so much with me. I'm not even sure if "love" is the main issue here...maybe I'm just feeling like I'm second best, like well...yes. Something along those lines.





Thanks I greatly appreciate this.

Relationships and love?
If you look at it those girls are exactly what they are his EX's and he may want to take a slower approach to your relationship, because he has learned from past mistakes and doesnt want to hurt you or your relationship with him...just let nature take its course and enjoy your relationship as it grows and develops and dont compare past relationships because people are different and situations are different :) good luck
Reply:Be patient, maybe he's being carefull not to throw those 3 words around because he's been hurt once. As you said, he told his EX, that he loved her, maybe that changed their relationship in a way (obviously he's not with her anymore) so he is really trying to be extra careful with using those words with you, because he doesn't want to lose you. I had guys tell me they love me, I dump them, seriously, i didn't want or wasn't ready for that. Your boyfriend may have had a girl dump him once for those words(do I know your man? :-) So he doesn't want to be dumped by you...if your affraid of those words too.
Reply:alright listen to me, love doesn't exist. there everything is simple now no?
Reply:He is affected by his past relationship and since he said I Love you to his ex and they broke up, he is probably afraid to say them to you.
Reply:Maybe he's just knew the real meaning of those three words.You know what I mean.Maybe he always said it to his ex and thought that the three words should always been told to any couple but without meaning it..So he followed it.But,things weren't going right and they break up.So,when your boyfriend started a new relationship,that's with you,he doesn't want to do the same thing to his ex.Don't worry,if he made you happy,that's the meaning of the true love.
Reply:I'm not really sure what your question is. :(





Love yourself. Don't look to him for validation and security. Don't worry about the ex-gf. He's no longer with her. So "second best" doesn't really apply, you know?





Saying "I love you" isn't so much a risk as it is a sentiment full of heartfelt emotion and actions. He sounds like a great boyfriend. I wouldn't push him to say it or to feel like he has to say it just to please you. Enjoy being with him. There are plenty of guys who say it all the time and never mean it.
Reply:sounds like you are worried that he doesnt care for you as much as he did for his ex, but i dont think thats the case, he might be finding it harder to say he loves you because the last time he said it to someone it didnt last, he might just want to be sure that he really does love you, that its the "real" thing if you like....if you love him dont be afraid to tell him, but also be sure to let him know that there is no pressure in him saying it back to you....good luck
Reply:what's the question, exactly?