Is love still real?

With the rise of ego-identification in our culture, is it becoming more difficult for people to love in the truest sense? It seems as if everyone only wants the beautiful wedding, the successful husband, or the sexy trophy wife.





I am not a recluse or sheltered in any way. I do not live in some rural area where I do not come across people. I am a productive, educated young man. I just rarely witness true love. It is almost always a charade. I am losing hope on love. Not losing hope for myself, for I am good-looking an intelligent enough to have love in whatever capacity I choose. The only problem is that women who I engage with always fantasize about marriage a week into out meeting.





Is love dying?





Was love always needy and ego-driven?





I have always been a trusting soul, but since being in several relationships, I no longer trust the motives on a woman in "love" with me. Their love is selfish and needy. I tried to not use any negative terms, but it is ugly and disgusting

Is love still real?
I belive much of societys problem where true love is concerned is the media advertising beauty and material things are the first great importance. You have the older wealthy or famous men like Hugh Hefner who I consider not attractive at all having young drop dead playboy beauties claiming undying love. People see this and the wrong idea of love is spread around. Go back to the basics in a relationship. Think about the person in these terms: if you were sick, would they stay around, if you are poor and had to live virtually in run down locations, would that person be there for you. May be the answers you get will help GOod luck in your question.
Reply:Sorry to hear about the negatives experiences that you have had with love. We encounter problems like this as we are on a search for the "right one"...... don't give up.... you have to hang in there...... I believe love is only as real as YOU are.......
Reply:Ultimate love comes from within. Most ppl don't truly love themselves or know how to for that matter.Society today bases it's love on quick fixes. That's why there is so much depression in the world. The degradation in our media and out put in general reflects very negatively on us as a society. Our morals are at an all time low and it begins with self worth. Their is no spiritual guidance being taught in our homes and positive structuring is left up to a clueless generation.


Love shouldn't be base on a quick fix but unconditional love is a gift that is given from the Most High and you have to first obtain it and then learn how to maintain it. Let the healing begin...Madam JKrickettt...eloquence at my best...it's what I do!!!
Reply:When I feel like I am in love I will do everything in my power to prove to that person I love them....however doing that caused me to lose him. I now know it was nothing I did. I am done blaming myself. I know he knows I loved him but it was him doubting his love for me.





U will know if that person loves u by what they do for u. If u think they don't love u, u will know. We are only needy becuz we want back as much love as we give, I don't think thats to much to ask for. We are selfish becuz we don't wanna lose that love, I see nothing wrong w/ that. I will put someone I love b4 myself.





Ur just looking in the wrong places for women. actually u shouldn't look. wait for it to find u, love always finds u when u least expect it to.





So yes love is still real if u let it be. U have to trust it!
Reply:Sorry you've not had good experiences. I believe love is alive and well. I know of many couples who cherish each other, put their partner before themselves, and work on having a great relationship.





As for the women who want to marrying you a week after dating? Are they young? That tends to be a characteristic of a lot of young women and it has to do with society not love. Good luck!
Reply:I think it exists, I just think laws and agendas have bastardized it to the point where if you are in love, where and how far you want to take it is a risky proposition.





I think right now in this country and abroad, marriage %26amp; having children is a scary proposition.





Today, the divorce rate is so high due to no-fault divorce. If you have kids, for women - that means they hold all the cards. A man today has to realize that, love and "the dream" aside, the risks to men/fathers far outweigh the rewards. Check the source - some great books on just this issue.





Family court is tilted heavily in favor of women/mothers. Moms have all the rights, get all the benefits, and dad is too often relegated to a visitor in his children's lives while being an ATM machine fro mom. He can lose half (or more) of the cash, cars, house, investments, etc... and worse - the children.





Seriously, if I had known then what I know now about how the divorce machine sucks in fathers, grinds them up, and spits them out so unceremoniously, I would have never gotten married and given up my dream of having a family.





With no-fault divorce (the biggest killer of marriage and families) you don't need an excuse anymore to get a divorce. You just don't have to feel like being married anymore - and with that reality comes the truth - a marriage is no longer a contract, so what's the point except to put yourself and your future at risk when someone "doesn't feel like it anymore?" With women (who have children) initiating almost 3/4 of divorces today (most men don't even see it coming), it's the smart man who chooses not to get married and certainly not have children... and that's a shame.
Reply:Love is real but people have different definitions of love. That is why it should be a slow process to get to know each other. What is the poem that says "love is not selfish, love is not cruel, etc." and most of all, love is about caring for the other person and not about big weddings and stuff that you can buy. If any of this behaviour surfaces, then you know that she is not for you. There are genuinely caring people out there. Sometimes the flowers are hidden by the weeds. Maybe you are choosing beauty instead of character. Think about it.
Reply:Yes.......love is still well and truely real. Its hard to believe but there are people out there that are happy just the way things are....ive been with my boyfriend for 5 years and were still a 'romantic' couple and hes still a gentleman in the truest form. And my dream isnt to become a wag or have a dream wedding.....my dream is that we always stay the way that we are and never stop loving or talking to each other. And i know not all people are like that - i have a friend who would do anything to be a 'kept woman' but you cant believe that love is dying just because some women expect lot more from men - these are just not the women to go for is thats the case! And honestly, not all women are needy and selfish - if this is what you find then i think you should stop looking for love and wait for it to come to you. It might suprise you and turn up in the strangest form in the strangest place!
Reply:I wonder the same thing. It seems nobody loves no one. Yes I think love is dying