Love and IN love...?

Im having such a terrible time explaining to someone the difference, the words just arent coming right?





How do I explain to someone that I love them but Im not IN love with them?





He doesnt understand how I can love him and not be in love with him. We are just friends, and I told him I love him and he thinks I meant that Im in love with him.





Help me explain this to him plllleeeeeease!!!!

Love and IN love...?
Then stop using the word LOVE and just say I like you very much.
Reply:well, the best way to tell him is you love him in a way that you care about him and you love him like family and would not like to see anything bad happen to him because that would hurt you. But, if you were in love with him you couldn't live without him. Just to hear his voice or see him would drive you crazy and you would feel in your heart that you couldn't live without him. You would want him for yourself and no one else. every day of your life would want to be spent with him.Nothing would matter no other man would catch your eyes, your life would somehow revolve around him. So tell him in these words" I love you so much as a friend and there is nothing i wouldn't do for you. but unfortunately i am not in love with you because my mind,body, and soul doesn't yearn for you in that way. being in love is a beautiful thing and something you share with someone you dream of having a family with and sharing every moment of your life with and no matter what they do you cant get enough of them. and i like having you as a friend because you will always be there whether i get hurt or not." So good luck!
Reply:well u love him as a friend not a husband im married and im in love and i have friends that i love like a brother or loves as i would get with them if i wasnt married and some i love jus as a friend cause ive known them for hella long and i wouldnt want anything to happen to them
Reply:Tell him you love him because you have love in your heart for him because you care about his well being and don't want anything bad to happen to him. But being IN love is a constant, live feeling that means you want to be around him, do things w/him, share your life with his and you're just not feeling that.
Reply:Take him out for a coffee or tea or something %26amp; explain to him that you really do care about him %26amp; that you love him as a friend %26amp; that your friendships are importnat to you. Maybe try to buy him a nice friendship card. Good Luck
Reply:The reason your friend is confused is probably because he has feelings for you that you don't share. Using terms with strong emotional attachments such as Love to describe your feelings for someone can lead to this confusion.





Unless you want to have awkward tension between you I would recommend having another heart to heart with your friend. In that conversation explain that you have gotten the impression that he may have misintrepreted your statements and you want to make things clear. Be descriptive and describe why you like this person and what makes being their friend special to you. Be careful how you word things. It may look silly but practice what you'll say before you say it.





(ex.) In all the time I've know you, I've come to respect you as a person. Your sense of humor has a way of making my day brighter when I feel down. Our friendship (here's clarification) means the world to me and I don't want anything to interfer with that. (Add your own personalized descriptives)
Reply:Love is caring, comforting and respecting, but In love, is I want to stare into your eyes, huge you, and make babies with you. Love could be applied to many different situations. In love is applied to a romantic relationship.
Reply:I think, first of all, there is a difference between like, and love. I believe that is where we most often start the confusion. My personal opinion is this: If you love someone truly then you are in love with them as well. You wouldn't tell someone your in love with them, but you just don't love them, right? It wouldn't make sense. therefore you saying you love someone, but your not in love with them doesn't make sense either. It all boils down to a simple misunderstanding of like and love. Its up to you to decipher the two by the way you really feel about him. Hope this has been of some help for you. -Heather Penley
Reply:he is using you.
Reply:try tell him that you love him in a way that he would love his best friend but not a lover or as a lover