Love relationship in a dilemma.?! PLEASE HELP PEOPLE. genuinely help needed.?

P.S.- SORRY FOR THE QUESTION BEING TOO TOO LONG, BUT I SWEAR TO GOD, I NEED YOUR HELP. I NEED A SERIOUS AND A MATURE HELP. PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR VIEW POINTS FOR THE SITUATION. PLEASE PLEASE !! THANKS








I am 21, and was dating a 24 year old guy (we both are from India, and from same religious background – Sikh). We both shared a lovely relationship, loved each other totally. We were also involved in a physical relationship on mutual understanding. We dated for about 4 months, and then he wanted to call it off. He thought we were getting onto a serious platform day by day, and he sees no chance of us getting married in the future. (His family is totally anti-love-marriages, for many reasons. And one of them being that one of his first cousins was recently murdered by his wife after 6 months of their Love marriage). He said that he respects me and my feelings, and hence doesn’t want to hurt me in the future, by giving me fake commitment. So, he decided to call it off. We ended almost 4-5 times in last 4 months, and got back every time. Every time we got back, he was always in secured, as he knew we have no future. I always tried explaining him that we can always try and see if things work out well, but he always had a set mind that his parents are never going to accept this (he’s been seeing situations like this in his family with his cousin sibling), and he would never go against his family.


Any which ways, we would end, and we would get back again. For me it was very difficult to come over him, there have been times, when I abused him and have tortured/bothered him with the ugliest of messages, blaming him, but he never returned that stone back to me. He either did not reply to it at all, and if we would talk about it, he would very sweetly say, that please done send me such messages, they make me feel real bad.


Now, we are back again, but as friends only this time. We are not in a relationship, but he said we can remain friends. We are talking properly since 10 days now, though not regularly. We have met, but very generally. Even he is sure, we will not get physical anymore, he has not mentioned, but his gestures prove that.


Now, I don’t know, its really tough for me to accept him only as a friend. I for sure, don’t want to loose him completely, but just being friends make me go mad too most of the time. I miss all those moments I have spent with him. I know he loves me, and that is the reason, that even he is not able to end this completely. Or is he doing this only because I want to get back to him? Did he ever love me? Or he never did? Or does he still have same feelings for me, but for some reasons, he is trying to burry them? What is all this about? Why is he doing this? No, I don’t want to end this all, but, I find nothing good happening? Just being friends, why do u think, if he know he doesn’t have a future with me, and he knows he wants to call it off, even then why does he want to be just friends with me? What all could be the possibilities? I love him, I love him so much. Cant even dare to leave him, but, these questions make me wonder, what exactly would he be thinking? What all would be in his mind? Any games happening? Or does he have some genuine feelings for me? He even tries to make me jealous at times, and says it on purpose, after the discussion, that he wanted to make me feel jealous about it, and then asks me, if I really did get jealous. If we are only friends, then why would he want to make me feel jealous? He still on and off asks me, if I loved him. He still kind of thinks he has a right on me, he tells me if something about me he doesn’t like, for e.g. the other day he told me that iv started wearing deep cleavage tops, and he doesn’t like it. Also, he commented on my hairstyle, and made me change it. Why does he do all this, if we are just friends? Why does he show his right on me? And in the end says, keep meeting me, at least like friends? What is all this about?


I would like to mention, that he is a cusp of Scorpio and Sagittarius. And I am Aries.


Please friends, I know it’s a little too long, but please give me genuine and serious advices. Thanks to all of you in advance.


P.S.- if any one of you have any questions or doubts in the question, please post it in the replies, and I will answer them in additional details, and then you may please revert back after reading the answer. Please, it’s a humble request, to please answer it.

Love relationship in a dilemma.?! PLEASE HELP PEOPLE. genuinely help needed.?
okay i think he still loves you but then the time that you spent with him is not that much to say


I think you should tell him that if he just wants to be friends then he shouldnt tell you what to wear or how to do your hair


and if he asks you if you get jeolus when he talks to other girls tell him that you dont because he is just a friend


and if he really loved you then he would marry you


he would go against his parents


he will know what he missed out on


i hope this helps


GOOD LUCK
Reply:theres nothing u can do. get over him. parents from india just wont ever accept love marriages. so sorry dear.


or u can try talking to his parents... like have a lil dinner or something.... have them meet u.
Reply:I am sorry to hear of your distress. Let me first say I totally understand how you feel. You are confused and angry at the whole situation.


The relationship you have with this guy is really not going anywhere. You cannot change the fact that he is not willing to stand up for the relationship, he as shown you that his family comes first. I can also say he loves you but he is caught between loving you and honouring his families wishes.


It is not fair to the both of you but its just a part of life. You are both friends now but in his heart he sees you more than just a friend he wants you but he can't have you the way he wants you.


It not easy for me to say move on because it not that simple. Don't waste your life and your young years trying to figure out if he truly loves you , (he does), but he is not willing to choose you over his family.


Try not to get involved in a intimate relationship with him again cause you are setting up your self for a big heart break.


Try dating someone new . that is willing to choose you over all others that is what you truly deserve.


Hope my answer will help.





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