Does falling in love mean that u din get enuf luv frm ur family?

my frnd is going thru a bad phase in her lyf. she's only 14 yrs n is madly in love with a guy of22 yrs...!!


i8 discussed this with my mother n she said that such thing happen only when children dont get enough luv frm their family. my frnd's parents often go for wrk out side india leaving her behind. is my mom correct? however i beg 2 differ frm her opinion. the reason being that m 2 in love!!!! n my family has loved me ever since i was a baby...


mom doesnt know this..lolzz...


if mom is correct then can u tell me why did i fall in love inspite of being loved my family so much? i love my guy a lot..he's d best thing ever happened to me...but when i think abt wut mum said i feel low....dunno y....she trusts me n thinks dat unlike my frnd i'll never ever get in2 this stuff.


do u think by falling in love i have broken this trust? i love my family as much as i love him...did i do any thing wrong by falling in love at 15?

Does falling in love mean that u din get enuf luv frm ur family?
No. Your mom is wrong. Falling in love has nothing to with the ammount of care/love you received at home. The love you have for your family is totally different than that you have to your partner. Its a totally different thing.





However I do believe your friend is not madly in love with the guy. She's probably attracted to him or he may even resemble her father... she might be searching for an adult figure to "guide"her.
Reply:Oh please, you're 15. I'm 16 and I've seen my fair share of people falling in love at around this age. Its natural, nothing or no one can stop that. But do remember your limits and just know him well first. Most people with relationships at this age already start to make out and all.





Family is family. They love you and all. Your mom just doesn't want to tell you about teenage love, mostly. Our parent's generation don't really agree with making out at the age of 15, they care more about school, getting a job, before they finally care about you getting a spouse. Its a very common and normal problem.





But yeah, maybe your friend just wanted someone to love her back. But at any rate; You loving "your man" is a totally different thing. Adolescence is just confusing. Take care.
Reply:doesnt mean they are older that they know everything, it always depends on the situation, i mean its human nature to get attracted to someone, it just so happened 2 people were attracted at the same time righT?
Reply:It's hard to say what it means, but frankly your friend's relationship is wrong on many, many levels. 22 is an adult, though a young adult, and this guy has no business taking advantage of your friend. at 22 you're entering the working world, and are beginning or already make independent decisions about money, career, etc... At 14 essentially you're a kid (no disrespect intended).





There is nothing wrong with falling in love, but this is not love, or if it is, it is abusive and slightly sick.





I mean no disrespect but this relationship is illegal and could be potentially damaging to your friend.





My guess is your guy is more your age, and that's a completely different story.





She may have other issues which lead her to want a father figure, or a host of other reasons. the 22 year old has simply crossed the line and there's not much gray area about it.
Reply:Falling for a 22 year old may be a sign she is looking for a father figure. I don't think falling in love in general has anything to do with the lack of family love. All of us fall in love from time to time. So often we think it is love when it is only lust or the need to fill an emptiness we feel.
Reply:Yes and no.


Sometimes we think we are in love, but we aren't. I have been with my man for 7 years now, but only loved him for 5-6 years.
Reply:Most people fall in love at 15 or younger, it is part of growing up. This love may be very real but it is driven by sexual attraction of your maturing body. Not many of us in later life would choose the people we loved at that time as life partners, though at the time we strongly believed so. It really has very little to do with love and attention from our families.
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If your question was true, then no person in the world today or in history had ever felt love from their family!!!