I still love my ex?

ok so... and iam 20 years old. i have 1kid.. he is 1years old. i love him to death. my first love walked out of my life 3years ago and i always loved him. but then i met this great guy that maked me think about me ex all the time .. he look like him and talked like him. he loves me so much and we have a kid together.. but my love for him started to go away a long time ago. iam still with him. he wants to get marryed but my heart is not with him. my ex moved back to chicago.. he knows about my son. and all about whats going on in my life. we have been talking on the fon. and on myspace. and emails i love him alot and he wants to work things out with me. i dont know what to do should i go back to him or make myself think i dont love him any more. AND make myself love my babys dad???? my lil boy is everything i want to make him happy to. i think about what iam doing. but then i remember my mom and dad didnt love each other and i hate when they would fight... i dont want him to see that.

I still love my ex?
Wow, that is a lot. It's always good to vent. First I must say this, no one can answer this question for you. This has to be a decision that is based solely on what you feel is right. But I will say this, love is the most wonderful experience when both people involved are on the same page. But it can be the worst thing when only one person is doing all the loving. If you know deep down inside that you are not IN Love with your son's father why hold on to him? He deserves to be with someone who can and will love him with all that they have inside. If you aren't the one, there is someone out there who is. Sure it will hurt him when you let go of the relationship, but just think how much it will hurt the both of you if you hold on and try to force something that just isn't going to happen. We can't help who we love, but we can help how we love, and how we treat others. Evaluate your feelings, and from there make the best decision for you. Regardless of what decisions you make I wish you all the happiness. Everyone deserves a chance to experience true love. Also, don't worry about your son not being happy. As long as you and his fathers love for him doesn't change he will have all the happiness he


needs ;-)
Reply:You shouldn't marry someone u dont love b/c of a child. I know you think its the right thing to do and society will have us believe that also, but you baby needs you and for u to be happy. i say you resolve those feeling with the ex.





I'm 30 yrs old and i can tell u this...you will never forget your first love. The sooner you get over your ex the better, B/c u will always be comparing your new relationships to him.


And figure out what you want to do before introducing your child to anybody.....good luck
Reply:How does your ex feel about you? If he feels the same i don't even think there is a question to ask
Reply:trust ure heart
Reply:I think you should talk things over with baby daddy. Sometimes its good to rekindle old plans but sometimes it not worth it if you have someone who really loves you. Where was the guy the whole time you were with baby daddy. Dont make a decision you will regret sometimes the feelings we have for people are exaggerated becaus we are not with that person and it becomes a personal fantasy in our minds. So just have a talk with both of them and see how you feel. The ex is the ex you have a man who loves you and you all share a child dont give that up for a fantasy that should be dead and gone.Hope this helps
Reply:dont stay with someone just cuz you have a kid..... its better in the long run if you leave..... just make sure that you explain to the child that both of you love him and its not his fault what happend...... if you love your ex... think of why you guys didnt work out in the first place.... maybe that will shed some light on this new problem... you also have to ask yourself do your still really love him or are you in love with the though of what you used to have with him?
Reply:You are still young and apparently you jumped into this relationship for the wrong reasons.





If you don't love the one your are with, you need to tell him sooner rather than later so that you don't waste any more of his life while you worry about what is best for you. He gets one trip on this Earth and he shouldn't have to spend it living your lie. Tell him now and let him move on......regardless of your feelings for your ex.
Reply:Be happy. Don't think about your ex. He left. If he wanted to be with you he wouldn't have left. Let him go.