Your in love with the thought of being in love?

Okay...it seems no one can give a good answer to what love is...since it's something different to everyone. My question is, when you first meet someone and you've been seeing and talking to them for about 3 -4 weeks and then bam! He/She tells you that they love you...and you've done nothing out of the ordinary to give this endearment any merit. I said that the person is just in love with the "thought" of being in love. They want to be loved and they feel that this person who shows some signs of being the one...just may be it. And how long should you be in a relationship before you say your in love...lust? I guess I'm wondering if time can only tell...do you fall in love with the thought and then later on down the line you actually fall in love with them. I don't know...what do you think?

Your in love with the thought of being in love?
I don't think it matters....it probably works differently for each of us. But so long as it works, why worry about it?
Reply:love i believe can happen any time. love is not this thing were you fall in love with ONE PERSON ONLY and u have to be with them coz they are THE ONE - i believe love can happen anytime, as it is only a feeling. for example i love my lecturer because of the way he teaches. this does not mean i go up to him and say I LOVE U RICHARD!


love at first sight is another one aswell... its amazing how u can click with someone so well just within the first 2 minutes of meeting and you go home and think about them for ages-that can be love too.


but be weary- men tend to say i love you quickly if they feel they are goin to get somewhere with you quickly too-or if they are too clingy-


enjoy life and enjoy love


while it lasts ;)
Reply:The comment "done nothing out of the ordinary" (to deserve being loved) worries me a bit. Someone should love you for who you are everyday, not because you did something special. If you feel like you have to do something special to earn love, rather than just be yourself, then the relationship is based on an act, not a person. Yes, you do need to work at a relationship; love dies without communication, compromising, and attention, but that's not the same.





Sometimes love builds over a long time, when you've known someone for years and then just suddenly see them in a new light. Or, there's love at first sight where you meet someone new and somehow you just click. Sometimes people are indeed in love with the thought of being in love; they just can't be alone and so hop to the next person before they're ready. And sometimes people overanalyze and miss out on what could be very good. (I'm an overanalyzer myself -- folks with low self esteem tend to be.)
Reply:It's all destiny: chance + choice + God's grace. That's love!

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