Is it possible to love someone MORE than you loved your FIRST love.????

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 yearz. And I know that he loves me.. but I'm just afraid he'll never love me as much as he loved his first love. And I'm afraid he still loves her. I know that in some ways you will Always have feelings for your first love. But is there anyone that he could love me more than he loved her? I'm scared that if she wanted too, right now she could tell him that she wantz to be with him, and hed leave me for her. I've talked to him about it, but he says he wouldnt, and that he doesnt love her anymore. But I know he does (Itz complicated) Can I please get some advice

Is it possible to love someone MORE than you loved your FIRST love.????
Can you explain this futher (itz complicated).
Reply:Definately!





My first love will always hold a special place in my heart, but it's my husband who is on the pedestal. And I'm sure he still has feelings for his first love (as much as I hate to think it), but I know he loves me more than her.





As a female, we're predisposed to be jealous of each other. We can't help it. And whatever happened in his past relationship(s), we will always be jealous, and we always hold that little fear of "what if he leaves?". It's something we must learn to deal with, and that's where the trust comes in to play. If you don't trust him, you'll only drive yourself crazy, and will eventually ruin your relationship. Unless he has given you a reason to believe he might leave you, don't dwell on it. Enjoy the relationship you have, for if he truly loved his first love, he would be with her now, and not with you.
Reply:Everyone will keep a very special place for their first love in their heart... it's a place no one else can touch. That doesn't mean if she wanted him back he'd take her back. He can always respect what they had, but know it's over and he's got something great with you.


In order for your r-ship w/ him to excel, you need to let go of your worries about his ex. YOU have him, not her. Just let it flow, and what's meant to be will be.


Good luck!
Reply:I dont know... I haven't forgotten my first love... It's possible, but i don't know for sure. don't worry, he loves you and he won't leave you though. He will ALWAYS have feelings for her... and you know that too and so does he! However, his feelings have altered and they are all for you now! be happy with the way you are =)
Reply:Of course it is possible to love someone more than your first love. Think:do you love your bf more than your first love? That was the past, and this is your present tense. =) dont be afraid that he loves her, be confident in yourself. if he says he loves you more, and he doesn't love her anymore, trust him. relationships are stronger with trust. good luck
Reply:Yes. Especially if you realize that the first one wasn't the one you were meant to be with. You have to trust him if you really love him. Hopefully he really has gotten over her. You shouldn't try to think too much about her. Concentrate more on your current relationship. If you give him everything you have and he does leave you for her, it wasn't meant to be.
Reply:First loves are special. I've been married for over 30 years, I love my hubby with all my heart and soul, but I am still madly in love with my "first love". I was when hubby and I got married, I was when I gave birth to our first child, and I still am--but it's not the person, it's the feeling of being in love for the first time, and I'm quite sure if that person showed up on my doorstep today I'd be thrilled--then totally disappointed--because he wouldn't be the person I chose to spend my life with, the one who's been here thru all good, bad and really crappy!!! My first love was my youth, carefree, and alot of stupid. My last love, my enduring love is now--all the vows we took--richer, poorer, sickness, health---mortgage, children, dogs, kitties, leaky roofs, and each other!!!
Reply:I think it is possible for someone to love another more than their first love. The reason why people tend to put so much value on their "first" love is because it's the first person they've ever felt that strongly about.





However, the reality is that most people don't end up marrying or spending the rest of their lives with their first love. So if he says he wants to be with you, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt. I mean, he could have gone back to her, but he chose to stay with you for 2 years. That must say something.





If I had to ask, is this boyfriend your first love?
Reply:As you grow and mature, you will love much more deeply. When I look back on the relationships I had in my teens and even my 20's, I just want to laugh! I think that as you get older, you see so many more layers to love and you can appreciate them so much more. So in answer to your question, yes, you definitely can love someone more than your first love.
Reply:Of course! It was only his first love. Do u love the guy u first dated more than your love now? Love is Love, but when you are over someone, your over them. If you love him, and he loves you, then there isn't any issue. And if you keep bringing her up to him, of course he is going to leave you becuase you are being to clingy. He's a guy. Guys flirt. That doesn't mean that he likes her more than he likes you.





Good Luck with you and your man
Reply:I'm confused by your z's in your question BUT....





Your first love isn't always your greatest love.. I felt like I would never have another love like my first love until I met my current boyfriend. When you find a amazing love you will know..





If he leaves you for her then your relationship wasn't meant to be. It sucks but you just end up getting on with it and before you know it someone a million times better comes out of nowhere and sweeps you off your feet!





good luck.
Reply:yes, obviously?.. you can have a first love / boyfriend or girlfriend and say you love them a lot and stuff but sometimes you never really feel the connection but if they did have a spark then why did they breakup? ever think of that .. you should watch some romantic movies and learn from it ;) and steal some of their lines .. hahaa or let your friend tell your boyfriend that so when youre ever hanging out or on a date he'll use it on you ! hahahaha =]
Reply:WITHOUT A DOUBT... FIRST LOVE IS ALWAYS SPECIAL BUT AT A CERTAIN POINT THEY JUST BECOME APART OF THE PAST...UNLESS UR LUCKY
Reply:oh totally. now i look back, my first love was nothing but a stupid infatuation. my current boyfriend is my love for life!!! been together 3 years and counting! :-)
Reply:i can only speak for myself on this and i hope that it helps. as we grow and mature and get educated in life we really change our views on what we want, need, etc. it is kinda hard to say this but i remember intimate detail about everything about the first true love. It is a basis on what we want. please do not let your security suffer. Drop suttle things, spend some intimate time (not sex), send him flowers. the things like that to let him know that you love him. be yourself
Reply:he'll always have feelings towards that girl but not feelings that would make him leave you for her. the first will always be special but you can love someone more.
Reply:I think it is definitely possible to love someone more than your first love.


But, I think you are more worried that he still loves someone else, right? I think the only way you need really be worried is if he ever puts her first in your life right now: does he ever hang out with her over you? Does he rush to help her with her problems, ever leaving you dangling? Do you see actual differences in the way he treats you versus her? If any of this rings true, you may have reason to worry.


Otherwise, I think it may just be relationship insecurity - which we all have!


In that case, if you've never talked with him about it before, you could bring it up with him. Otherwise, you could look really insecure and that never looks attractive. If you need to obsess over it - talk to one of your most trusted friends who is most likely to tell you if you are being insecure or there's really something to be worried about.
Reply:he might love you and she was just lust
Reply:if he wouldnt love you, he wouldnt be with you in the first place.


you gotta learn how to trust. just trust him. hes telling you the truth. so just trust him.
Reply:Of course! Love evolves, so it is possible as we mature...
Reply:yes its always possible to love someone more than your first love. Very few people marry thier first love. Usually your first love is called puppy love.
Reply:depends upon how u do.i loved my first love so much but then my current bf's so caring and understanding that he fills every space and clears all scars that my first love left. be MORE+ than his first love.... and trust him.
Reply:listen to what the guy has to say.


he doesnt love her.


he loves you.


the past is the past.


what you need to worry about is you and your mans future.


im pretty sure if he still "loved" her he wouldnt be with


some other chick for 2 whole years


just trust him thats very important in a relationship


and make him feel special tell him you love him more then once a day.


--good luck--
Reply:ofcourse. A lot of times you honestly believe that you love them but once its over you think it was stupid