True Love: out of our hands or just in our minds?

How often do we hear the same line? "I've always believed that true love was such-and-such, and now I feel it with you" --- possibly as an introduction to a marriage proposal.





It makes me wonder, people have their own opinion about true love. They make up an image of their perfect partner in their minds and eventually they find a partner that fits the description. They feel that feeling being with, thinking about that partner, think they've found true love.





But is it really true love, or is "true love" just a part of our imagination, and do we just keep on looking for a person to meet the requirements with a trial-and-error attitude and *eventually* find that *one* person...





If a child learns that true love is feeling safe around someone, will they grow up avoiding that feeling and when they do, think that they are in love?





Vice versa, if a child learns that true love is losing all control, will they grow up being responsible control freaks, etc... ?

True Love: out of our hands or just in our minds?
love is about feeling the whole roller coaster of emotions, its knowing that no matter whether times are good or bad, theres someone there that loves you for who you are
Reply:Love is just a moment of giving and marraige is when we admit our parents were right.
Reply:I think it's just in our minds...
Reply:I dont think you can help who you fall in love with.. To say it doesn't come from the heart sounds ludicrous to me... I believe it involves the heart, the brain and every emotion you ever had, and some you may not have even realised were there.... Your whole world changes the moment you realise he's/she's the one for you.. With true love, your views of self gain stop.. You are no longer out for number one, you will do anythink to ensure their happiness is of utmost importance... True love is strong enough to help you through the toughest times as well as the smooth... True lover's never give up on each other..


Love is a very powerful emotion, one that I feel I have no control over.. He means everything to me... I would rather die than be without him... (I've been married 18 years)
Reply:Love is not felt by the heart. It is an emotion, and all emotions are controlled by the brain. Well a section in the brain called the madulaoblangota.(I think I spelt that wrong). So technically we make ourselves fall in and out if love. It is not this uncontrolable urge. There is no such thing. You just have to discipline your mind.
Reply:why donot you live it ..........yourself ..........love is like a as if you are struck by a train ...."that comes without knowing" westlife. it is something you cannot explain coz when it comes to true pure love ...your heart has the upper hand over you brains .........even if you want to stop it ,it wonnot stop.
Reply:whoa, how do you rite that much?!
Reply:Out of our hands. When in our minds, it's just for a short time. After a little while the butterfly metamorphoses either into habit to conform with the realm of boredom, or into hatred if its freedom is threatened to fly over other fields.
Reply:ya sure in your mind, your pants, in a town near you,who cares, you start looking for reason in love your pissing in the wind
Reply:Hi =)





I beg to differ with the view that says Love is not felt by the heart. You're right, True love should be felt by the Being, the Soul and spirit. Bodily lust and infatuation are often mistaken for as heart love when it's only biochemistry at play here.


Fantasies and idealizations are for people who dont have the guts to face reality and deal with themselves, or their own lack of self-love. That's why they go on projecting all these images onto external circumstances and people.





It has been said that man cannot live without lies, and i can;t agree more. Think about it, if you take away all the romance and poetry, your love will be just pure carnal appetites, sex energy for procreation because one knows that he is ephemeral and before he dies, he wants to create another specimen of him.. so this is what 99% of people call love and relationships. It's absurd and almost profane.





I am more for the view that if you really love someone, the number one thing to bear in mind is not to destroy each other. And this includes not treating each other as a mere possession. On the contrary, it's all about giving enough freedom, space and autonomy to be your own individual. You can never know what will be the outcome putting your trust in someone like that but all we have to do is work on ourselves and know what we do is with a clear conscience.





Dont mean to rattle on like a train...just got me thinking. Good question. Have a good week ahead, yah?