I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. and i love him very much...he knows that and i know he loves me. We took a small break couple of months ago and now we're back together. The problem is, he used to be very sweet and charming, and very open about how he feels...now that we're back again he seem very different from the guy i fell in love with 2 years ago. He doesnt really show affection anymore, he doesnt want me saying i love you all the time now, i think we used to be the sweetest couple ever and i love it that way...when we spend hours on the phone just letting eachother know how much we love eachother and planning our furture. He doesnt even do that anymore, he doesnt want me to be all sweet, he wants be to act tough and not act like the way we used to anymore...i really dont like how we are now but i really love him but he really change. i dont get him anymore and its tearing me apart! I miss the old him and I want that back. you think its worth to stay? :(
I love him but is it even worth it?? i need advice :(?
ya know? that one is hard. i have had the same situation. i say just let him know that you love him.
let me imagine u really fast:
youu lovee him alotttttt.
you know he loves youu.
i do say "stayy"
i think that's the best choice(:
Reply:No wonder he wants to run, you sound so clingy its even boring to hear even for a girl! Stop whining and give him space to breathe you sound so boring and demanding and telling sm1 u love him all the time gets boring and it's annoying.
I'm sure he met a cooler girl who doesn't whine like you do. So find sm1 who likes to hear the pukey "i love u" ALL the time. *barf*. You sound too needy and boys hate that and even girls like me hate seeing needy girls who whine all the time. Enjoy love and take it as it comes and if you don't like the way he is now then move on cos he won't be what you want him to be. You can't expect to stay the same all the time and do the things you did, times change people change feelings change as well. If you do the same ALL the time then it gets boring. Be creative and stop whining. Good luck. :-)
Reply:It gets really old. There is no reason to have to express your love every moment of the day, he probably really like the break from clingy i love you stuff.
i love my husband, but i don't hang on him, and text him and call him and just annoy him with my i love you's...
we used to be like this too, but the unspoken love it stronger than just saying it.
Reply:often people change. if he isn't being good to you it may be time to move on.
Reply:If you guys used to share things and be open to each other, how come you're posting this on yahoo answers and not telling your boyfriend? Maybe if you started to open up to him about yourself after the break he'll begin to relax and be comfortable around you again. However, if you think you've tried to get him to talk and be how he was before and it's not changing, I'd say move on. Don't waste your time, you never know when another guy is going to walk into your life. Someone better than him (:
Reply:Tell him how you feel, and if he doesn't care then leave him. Keep in mind that all couples go through what you are going through. Couples change from being lovey dovey into routine. It's part of the relationship process, don't stress it unless he's being a jerk or truly not treating you right.
Reply:you can take the chance that it may just be a phase or u can find some 1 new who u know and trust
Reply:Talk to him see what he says
But if he's changed you sure you still love him or just the idea of him %26amp; he used to be?
Reply:First of all what was the reason for the 2 months break? I mean was it mutual or was it due to some problem.
If it was due to some issue between you two, then may be all the words exchanged has made him change. Sometimes in anger we say off many things which might hurt the other person. Your BF might have taken those words seriously. Like you might have told him that you are not being a man and handling things yourself, so may be trying to be tough now.
If it was mutual then there may be some issue bothering him. Or may be he is looking for something.
Lastly you have answered your own question. As you love him more then other things and want to be with him then why you want to split from him?
Reply:tell him your feeling.try to go back to your normal life ,if it doesn't work .begin anew life .this is my opinion.i have come across a website which named seniorwoo..com .many people are finding their suit people .it may help you.good luck
Reply:Well may his feelings have changed the time you've been appart from each other ... Why don't you try talking to him ? Then you'll see if he still loves you and you'll decide if you'll stay with him ...
Reply:Truly, you never loved each other. More to claim loving each other, more to convey that you do not. Love does not need assurance every time, every second that how much one loves other. It was expected end of such love like this.
Reply:i think 2 yrs is enough he prolly found someone else sorry to say but i suggest u break it off if he would to be the speical one he would of never changed
Reply:where have i heard this before? oh yeah from me.....dont waste anymore of your time. he's changed, not worth being drug around. and he's probably cheated. sorry to say.
Reply:it's up to you..
I think he have another girlfriend yet..
He is playboy
Reply:I think he already has another one fresh like you was. So you need to give up!!
Reply:Was it a joint decision to have your break?
Sounds to me like he's still hurting...... love is one thing but without communication it just doesn't work %26amp; yes, that goes both ways.
Only time will give you the answer if he isnt open about how he feels %26amp; you're willing to give it a go.
Hope it works out for you
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Friday, April 16, 2010
FirSt LoVe!?!?
I'm 14, and I went on a mission trip to mexico with my church. I met this guy who was also going on the mission trip, and we became best friends. After the trip, I realized how perfect he is, and I really think that I'm in love with him. Does everyone have a childhood love? Who was your first love, and how old were you? Is it real love, or do you just think it's love? Cause this feels like real love to me, I love everything about him and I think we were meant to be together.
FirSt LoVe!?!?
it is probably just feels like love. everybody has a first love they think is their first love and than they have a real first love and realize their first love was not love at all. hope that makes since! but hey if you like him that much doesn't hurt to date and see where it takes you and who knows it could end up as love.
good luck
Reply:I am now 28 and miss my first love like crazy. He lives in another town far away. Everyone does have a first love. But for some, this is the ONE. Tell him how you feel, take things slow, and see where it goes. Live life to the fullest, and dance like no one's watching. Good luck! Report It
Reply:Love is what makes it real for you. I started dating when I was your age and I always look back at that experience as a great one, young and innocent love with no pressures. I think that you should contact this guy and tell him your feelings, rather live knowing you tried than to always wonder what couldve been. Good luck!
FirSt LoVe!?!?
it is probably just feels like love. everybody has a first love they think is their first love and than they have a real first love and realize their first love was not love at all. hope that makes since! but hey if you like him that much doesn't hurt to date and see where it takes you and who knows it could end up as love.
good luck
Reply:I am now 28 and miss my first love like crazy. He lives in another town far away. Everyone does have a first love. But for some, this is the ONE. Tell him how you feel, take things slow, and see where it goes. Live life to the fullest, and dance like no one's watching. Good luck! Report It
Reply:Love is what makes it real for you. I started dating when I was your age and I always look back at that experience as a great one, young and innocent love with no pressures. I think that you should contact this guy and tell him your feelings, rather live knowing you tried than to always wonder what couldve been. Good luck!
She Loves me, but she doesnt want me to marry her because of another guy she love most?
There is want girl, I expressed my love to her, she appreciated my love, welcomed my love and she even confessed that she loves me, but she cannot marry me, i asked her and she confessed yhat she has another guy that she loves most and precisely, she cannot leave the guy despite the fact that the guy has one girl friend before, but because of her, jes trying to dump the formal girl friend, hence, she cannot disapoint the guy.
I said can she make me as her friend, she said she cannot share her love with another man. but the funny situation is that, she always ask money for her feeding, hair dressing, shopping and other huge expenses. what should i do for this kind ugly situation?
She Loves me, but she doesnt want me to marry her because of another guy she love most?
Oh wow!!! You really have to ask what you should do about this situation that you've classified as ugly. She's claiming to love you because you spend money on her. You're supporting her by giving up your money. Now do you know for a fact that there is another guy or is this just a lie. Ask yourself this why would she be willing to let you go while she waits on another man to get rid of his girlfriend. Who's to say that this other man is ever going to give up his girlfriend to be with her. Man please, no real true female is going to put her life on hold while a man gets rid of his girlfriend. It's going to be put on the line it's either her or me make your choice. Her other man has made his choice to be with his girlfriend and not her. She's made her choice to not be with you. She told you already that she's not going to be with you. Now you need to make your choice. Either continue to be her sugar daddy who pays for her expensive expenses and that's it or leave her and let her other man pay her bills. If she really loved you she'd be with you since you're available and want to be with her. She wouldn't be telling you that she can't because she's waiting for another man to dump his current girlfriend so they can be together. Do yourself a favor and don't even be her friend. She's after your money and nothing else. Find someone that wants to be with you not for what you can buy for them but because they honestly love you.
I'm not saying she's a gold digger but if you were broke or stopped spending money on her she wouldn't deal with you.
Reply:Get away from her!There's a good chance she doesnt even love you and just see's your love as a window to get more from you.If she's in love with someone she's not for you.Don't lower yourself. Find someone that will love you and only you.No one deserves what you're going through.
Reply:Cut her off. SHe is not with you. SHe told you she is not going to be with you, it is a sad situation for you. Do not waste your time anymore. SHe has made it clear that there is no relationship with you. Do not give her money or anything anymore. She might think she has you by the finger and that is not right. She should not ask you for things. By cutting her off, you are showing her that you will not hang around. She has to make her decision. It seems you are being used and that angers me. Please do not give anything more to her. Find yourself someone who will love you the way you love, someone who will love you and only you.
Reply:She loves your MONEY, your ATTENTION, and your INABILITY TO SEE WHAT SHE REALLY IS!!
You are a very FOOLISH guy!! You have let yourself be taken by someone who has NO INTENTION of EVER being YOUR GIRL.
What should you do??? Get in touch with your SELF, grow some "cahonies" (don't know the spelling), and GET THIS USER out of your LIFE!!
Reply:She is using you for material items. Stop buying her food, and other expenses. Let the man that she loves so much do this stuff for her. You need to find someone who will care about you and forget about her. Again, she is using you!
Reply:She's using you for money. Stop paying for her "feeding" and other things and see if she sticks around.
Reply:You need to ask? Sheesh. Get on with your life...without HER!
Reply:She is USING YOU for your money.loose that girl.you r just gonna get hurt.
Reply:woman are cruel. i hope i dont hurt your feelings, but i think that she is using you. and she is doing this because you are letting her. you love her, and she knows it, and she is using it to stay close to you, but she loves someone else. so i think that you need to end that relationship. because its only going to get worse for your heart. her heart apparently belongs to someone else. but she comes back because you let her in with your heart, and she is using this to get what she wants from you. if she loves someone else, tell her to get her money from him. dont let her trick you that way. nothing is sincere about saying she loves you, but loves someone else more. thats a load of crap. dump her before it gets worse. and sorry for what she is doing. good luck.
Reply:Asks you for money for her feeding??????????????She is using you and it seem like you have no respect for her. Thats an easy one. Just think with your brain not your head.
I said can she make me as her friend, she said she cannot share her love with another man. but the funny situation is that, she always ask money for her feeding, hair dressing, shopping and other huge expenses. what should i do for this kind ugly situation?
She Loves me, but she doesnt want me to marry her because of another guy she love most?
Oh wow!!! You really have to ask what you should do about this situation that you've classified as ugly. She's claiming to love you because you spend money on her. You're supporting her by giving up your money. Now do you know for a fact that there is another guy or is this just a lie. Ask yourself this why would she be willing to let you go while she waits on another man to get rid of his girlfriend. Who's to say that this other man is ever going to give up his girlfriend to be with her. Man please, no real true female is going to put her life on hold while a man gets rid of his girlfriend. It's going to be put on the line it's either her or me make your choice. Her other man has made his choice to be with his girlfriend and not her. She's made her choice to not be with you. She told you already that she's not going to be with you. Now you need to make your choice. Either continue to be her sugar daddy who pays for her expensive expenses and that's it or leave her and let her other man pay her bills. If she really loved you she'd be with you since you're available and want to be with her. She wouldn't be telling you that she can't because she's waiting for another man to dump his current girlfriend so they can be together. Do yourself a favor and don't even be her friend. She's after your money and nothing else. Find someone that wants to be with you not for what you can buy for them but because they honestly love you.
I'm not saying she's a gold digger but if you were broke or stopped spending money on her she wouldn't deal with you.
Reply:Get away from her!There's a good chance she doesnt even love you and just see's your love as a window to get more from you.If she's in love with someone she's not for you.Don't lower yourself. Find someone that will love you and only you.No one deserves what you're going through.
Reply:Cut her off. SHe is not with you. SHe told you she is not going to be with you, it is a sad situation for you. Do not waste your time anymore. SHe has made it clear that there is no relationship with you. Do not give her money or anything anymore. She might think she has you by the finger and that is not right. She should not ask you for things. By cutting her off, you are showing her that you will not hang around. She has to make her decision. It seems you are being used and that angers me. Please do not give anything more to her. Find yourself someone who will love you the way you love, someone who will love you and only you.
Reply:She loves your MONEY, your ATTENTION, and your INABILITY TO SEE WHAT SHE REALLY IS!!
You are a very FOOLISH guy!! You have let yourself be taken by someone who has NO INTENTION of EVER being YOUR GIRL.
What should you do??? Get in touch with your SELF, grow some "cahonies" (don't know the spelling), and GET THIS USER out of your LIFE!!
Reply:She is using you for material items. Stop buying her food, and other expenses. Let the man that she loves so much do this stuff for her. You need to find someone who will care about you and forget about her. Again, she is using you!
Reply:She's using you for money. Stop paying for her "feeding" and other things and see if she sticks around.
Reply:You need to ask? Sheesh. Get on with your life...without HER!
Reply:She is USING YOU for your money.loose that girl.you r just gonna get hurt.
Reply:woman are cruel. i hope i dont hurt your feelings, but i think that she is using you. and she is doing this because you are letting her. you love her, and she knows it, and she is using it to stay close to you, but she loves someone else. so i think that you need to end that relationship. because its only going to get worse for your heart. her heart apparently belongs to someone else. but she comes back because you let her in with your heart, and she is using this to get what she wants from you. if she loves someone else, tell her to get her money from him. dont let her trick you that way. nothing is sincere about saying she loves you, but loves someone else more. thats a load of crap. dump her before it gets worse. and sorry for what she is doing. good luck.
Reply:Asks you for money for her feeding??????????????She is using you and it seem like you have no respect for her. Thats an easy one. Just think with your brain not your head.
How much love can you give and still have some left?
Does love grow stronger when it's given away?
Do you love each person in a new, special way?
Does loving more people make you better able to love?
If you love everyone you meet, does that mean that your love for your significant other isn't special?
If you love everyone, does that mean your love isn't worth anything?
How much love can you give and still have some left?
Love is infinite!
Love does grow stronger when given away because you get love back in return from the other person.
I do love each person in a new, special way, because everyone is different and can't be loved in the same way.
The more people you love, the better able you are to love because you've likely experienced loss as well and it makes you a stronger person.
If you love everyone you meet, the love for your significant other is just as strong as ever because they're your significant other. If it wasn't more special than your love for everyone else, then they wouldn't be your "significant other".
If you love everyone, your love is worth even more because it shows your a good person with a big heart!
You can also give love without "taking away" love from everyone else. But no two people can be loved in exactly the same way. Like, I love my mother in a different way than I love my sister or my boyfriend, and I love my boyfriend in a different way than I love my best friends or favorite teachers, I love my pets in a different way than other animals I meet, etc.
Love is powerful though, you can't just give it away to anyone you meet. They need to show that they're worthy of it and should be able to show you an equivelant level of love in return. But beware, the more you love, they more you're opening yourself up to being hurt when those people leave, die, move, etc. However, it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all!!
Reply:You're welcome! :-) Good luck! Report It
Reply:u can give as much love as u want it will never finish theres no end to it. u can give it to god, different ppl, and still have left for urself. how nice huh
Reply:Maybe you should pick one question and stick with it.
Reply:mann love is everyhing
Reply:This sounds like a song I never want to hear again.
Reply:love can make you a broken hearted idiot who feels real damn stupid right now, but love while it lasts is great
Do you love each person in a new, special way?
Does loving more people make you better able to love?
If you love everyone you meet, does that mean that your love for your significant other isn't special?
If you love everyone, does that mean your love isn't worth anything?
How much love can you give and still have some left?
Love is infinite!
Love does grow stronger when given away because you get love back in return from the other person.
I do love each person in a new, special way, because everyone is different and can't be loved in the same way.
The more people you love, the better able you are to love because you've likely experienced loss as well and it makes you a stronger person.
If you love everyone you meet, the love for your significant other is just as strong as ever because they're your significant other. If it wasn't more special than your love for everyone else, then they wouldn't be your "significant other".
If you love everyone, your love is worth even more because it shows your a good person with a big heart!
You can also give love without "taking away" love from everyone else. But no two people can be loved in exactly the same way. Like, I love my mother in a different way than I love my sister or my boyfriend, and I love my boyfriend in a different way than I love my best friends or favorite teachers, I love my pets in a different way than other animals I meet, etc.
Love is powerful though, you can't just give it away to anyone you meet. They need to show that they're worthy of it and should be able to show you an equivelant level of love in return. But beware, the more you love, they more you're opening yourself up to being hurt when those people leave, die, move, etc. However, it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all!!
Reply:You're welcome! :-) Good luck! Report It
Reply:u can give as much love as u want it will never finish theres no end to it. u can give it to god, different ppl, and still have left for urself. how nice huh
Reply:Maybe you should pick one question and stick with it.
Reply:mann love is everyhing
Reply:This sounds like a song I never want to hear again.
Reply:love can make you a broken hearted idiot who feels real damn stupid right now, but love while it lasts is great
Story of lost love. Opinions please?
Story of
Love Lost
I once had this man so handsome and true.
Everyday was bliss and our love grew and grew.
It was truly amazing the love that we shared.
It was something to cherish but I felt so scared.
Our love was undeniable and one of a kind.
True soul mates but I had been so blind.
The day had come when he knelt on one knee.
He declared his love and proposed to me.
As he said those words I began to feel ill.
The thought of marriage gave me a frightening chill.
I had dreamt of this day and it was as perfect as can be,
but to my dismay; worries got the best of me.
I told him I love you, but I don’t want to wed.
I’ll never forget the endless tears my man shed.
Shortly after he lost faith in our love.
He lost all the hopes of the life we dreamt of.
A year went by and I missed him so much.
I missed our long talks, I missed his soft touch.
I missed his smile and how he held me so tight.
I missed how much our love felt so right.
I knew in that moment I had made a mistake.
I had let him down I had given him heart ache.
As I walked to his house I didn’t know what I would say.
Did I mess up too bad because I pushed him away?
I arrived at his house scared and confused.
My heart longed for him, but his I abused.
But I got the courage to knock on his front door.
I would tell him I loved him I would hold back no more.
A women answered with a belly big and round.
I asked for him but she said he’s out of town.
She told me she missed him but soon he shall return.
My heart sank and I felt helpless and alone.
She asked for my name, but I told her a lie.
I am just an old friend, and then I said goodbye.
I ran away with tears streaming down my face.
I was so mad at my myself I felt such disgrace.
Have you ever been so scared that you made a mistake?
Did it ever take too long before you decided to awake?
If you ever have the chance to be happy for life.
don’t be scared, and become his wife.
Story of lost love. Opinions please?
hmm what do you want an opinion on?
If its on the poem itself well its straight forward and very simple rhyme. Its like a direct story with no metaphors and complicated symbolism. Its ok for yourself but as a poem itself does not really show greatness.
If you want an opinion on the story itself.
Its a sad but common case it seems. But untill you find someone who is right for you it will seem like a mistake i suppose. Everything happens for a reason since you cant change things regret is time wasted. Learn and dont let one choice mess with your future anymore.
Reply:Wow, such sorry. Frecks...It was really moving, and i understood it well. No One should have to feel the pain of heartache, but it happens to the best of us.
You did a great job on the rhyme scheme, I'm proud of you on that. You put actual emotions into this, bout made me cry. Your Poetry is a trus work of art, in a literature sense. Good job, Great job!
As Always Chica....You Rock!
Reply:This is how I feel about marriage too: scared and reluctant... I think it's a well-written poem, it teaches a very good lesson. So sad though... *sigh*
Reply:so sad, regretful and disappointing.....but beware of your grammar... 'women' part.........
Reply:that is sad
i get heartache just reading it
i know how that sort of thing feels
Reply:I love it!!!
And I completely disagree with the person above me, the length was appropriate, the poem was just great!
Loved the rhyming parts. The length was apprporiate because its a STORY of a lost love, not a poem.
Anyway, I give you 10/10, the poem was wonderful!
Reply:Very very true, I love the poem and I feel the tears. I hope I never make a similar mistake. Love lost is the worst, but sometimes its all for the best reasons in the world. Maybe your destined to be with someone who is even more special.
Good luck
Reply:Too much attention spent on rhyming.
Also, it would be more powerful as an emotion if you took all that you're feeling and put it into 3 or 4 lines. Or at least each of those sections condensed into shorter, more direct, more intense imagery.
For example, if I'd written it, I might do this:
Have you been so scared even waking up was a mistake?
If you want to be happy don’t become his wife.
Reply:Don't be mad at yourself, you did the right thing. You'll find love again, and when you're ready to marry you will, too many people get married thinking it's the last chance they'll have, and ultimately, it just doesn't work. You handled the situation with his new partner with maturity and grace. You are too good of a person to live a loveless life, so don't lose hope.
Reply:i am more depressed than i was beofre reading this..
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Love Lost
I once had this man so handsome and true.
Everyday was bliss and our love grew and grew.
It was truly amazing the love that we shared.
It was something to cherish but I felt so scared.
Our love was undeniable and one of a kind.
True soul mates but I had been so blind.
The day had come when he knelt on one knee.
He declared his love and proposed to me.
As he said those words I began to feel ill.
The thought of marriage gave me a frightening chill.
I had dreamt of this day and it was as perfect as can be,
but to my dismay; worries got the best of me.
I told him I love you, but I don’t want to wed.
I’ll never forget the endless tears my man shed.
Shortly after he lost faith in our love.
He lost all the hopes of the life we dreamt of.
A year went by and I missed him so much.
I missed our long talks, I missed his soft touch.
I missed his smile and how he held me so tight.
I missed how much our love felt so right.
I knew in that moment I had made a mistake.
I had let him down I had given him heart ache.
As I walked to his house I didn’t know what I would say.
Did I mess up too bad because I pushed him away?
I arrived at his house scared and confused.
My heart longed for him, but his I abused.
But I got the courage to knock on his front door.
I would tell him I loved him I would hold back no more.
A women answered with a belly big and round.
I asked for him but she said he’s out of town.
She told me she missed him but soon he shall return.
My heart sank and I felt helpless and alone.
She asked for my name, but I told her a lie.
I am just an old friend, and then I said goodbye.
I ran away with tears streaming down my face.
I was so mad at my myself I felt such disgrace.
Have you ever been so scared that you made a mistake?
Did it ever take too long before you decided to awake?
If you ever have the chance to be happy for life.
don’t be scared, and become his wife.
Story of lost love. Opinions please?
hmm what do you want an opinion on?
If its on the poem itself well its straight forward and very simple rhyme. Its like a direct story with no metaphors and complicated symbolism. Its ok for yourself but as a poem itself does not really show greatness.
If you want an opinion on the story itself.
Its a sad but common case it seems. But untill you find someone who is right for you it will seem like a mistake i suppose. Everything happens for a reason since you cant change things regret is time wasted. Learn and dont let one choice mess with your future anymore.
Reply:Wow, such sorry. Frecks...It was really moving, and i understood it well. No One should have to feel the pain of heartache, but it happens to the best of us.
You did a great job on the rhyme scheme, I'm proud of you on that. You put actual emotions into this, bout made me cry. Your Poetry is a trus work of art, in a literature sense. Good job, Great job!
As Always Chica....You Rock!
Reply:This is how I feel about marriage too: scared and reluctant... I think it's a well-written poem, it teaches a very good lesson. So sad though... *sigh*
Reply:so sad, regretful and disappointing.....but beware of your grammar... 'women' part.........
Reply:that is sad
i get heartache just reading it
i know how that sort of thing feels
Reply:I love it!!!
And I completely disagree with the person above me, the length was appropriate, the poem was just great!
Loved the rhyming parts. The length was apprporiate because its a STORY of a lost love, not a poem.
Anyway, I give you 10/10, the poem was wonderful!
Reply:Very very true, I love the poem and I feel the tears. I hope I never make a similar mistake. Love lost is the worst, but sometimes its all for the best reasons in the world. Maybe your destined to be with someone who is even more special.
Good luck
Reply:Too much attention spent on rhyming.
Also, it would be more powerful as an emotion if you took all that you're feeling and put it into 3 or 4 lines. Or at least each of those sections condensed into shorter, more direct, more intense imagery.
For example, if I'd written it, I might do this:
Have you been so scared even waking up was a mistake?
If you want to be happy don’t become his wife.
Reply:Don't be mad at yourself, you did the right thing. You'll find love again, and when you're ready to marry you will, too many people get married thinking it's the last chance they'll have, and ultimately, it just doesn't work. You handled the situation with his new partner with maturity and grace. You are too good of a person to live a loveless life, so don't lose hope.
Reply:i am more depressed than i was beofre reading this..
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Loves me but he's not "in love" with me?
My boyfriend told me last night, that he loves me but he's not "in love" with me. Now how in the h#ll am I suppose to take that? Everyday he tells me he loves me, but when I asked him last night if he was "in love" with me the a$$hole said no, and that it's not the type of love that he use to have for me back when we first started dating at 14 %26amp; 13...We had a five year break at 17 %26amp; 18... We got back together almost a year ago... He begged me to get back with him...We have been living together since Dec. of this year....I am 24yrs old and he's 25yr old...What should I do??...Should I pack my things and leave?....
Loves me but he's not "in love" with me?
Pack!...but understand too...at 13 %26amp; 14 neither one of you were mature enough to understand "in love"..%26amp; probably not at 17%26amp; 18 either...he's maturing %26amp; realizing while he loves you , loves your company, you are not "the" one for him...now, be honest with yourself...are you "in love" with him...or is he just safe...familiar?...like a comforatable old sweater?...It's life..we grow..we change...
Reply:wow, you must be feeling very hurt. I suppose in his defence, you asked him a question and he answered it.
You got together when you were very young I guess, and maybe he just feels he has grown apart from you? it does happen, people fall out of love for all kinds of reasons, it's just a pity when it happens that both parties involved don't fall out of love at the same time, because it normally means one gets hurt and the other does the hurting.
Maybe during that five year break he grew up a lot and realised that while he loves you and will probably always carry that love with him, it isn't the same as it was, first love is always special, but some people make the mistake of mixing up first love with true love, and maybe what he's doing is setting you free to find your true love?
I know it hurts right now, and you're obviously very angry as well, but maybe better that he said what he did rather than string you along knowing his feelings had changed.
Reply:Sounds like you're out of luck for a long-term relationship. Not that he's the one who should do the breaking up--you deserve better than to be in a relationship where he "loves you" but is not "in love with you." You are worth much more than this! Maybe he is trying to let you down easy, even though he's the one who begged you to get back together. He made a mistake. If you make a mistake and somehow marry this guy, he will NOT grow to be in love with you. It doesn't happen. Either he is "in love" or he just cares about you as a friend. Find another guy to give yourself to.
Reply:well i think you should smack the hell out of him and then sit down with him and talk find out why because if he loves you but is not in live with you i think he needs to make up his mind and let you know how he really feels so u can find out if yall have a futher together or not..don't u just hate guys i wish they could have a normal way of letting us know how they feel.. good luck with ur problem
Reply:Tell him you don't think we should continue on if you aren't in love with me. If by now he's not, he's not going to and you shouldn't waste time with him when you can be with the person who will fall in love with you. He's not going to ask you to marry him if he's not in love with you. I would definitly move out and tell him that you have a problem with him since you guys have been together for years and he's not in love with you. Tell him you want to find someone that will fall in love with you and have a future together. You are not there to help him kill time until he finds someone he can fall in love with. Do not settle!!!
Reply:I'm sorry to have to tell you this honey but yes. If someone doesn't love you why stay with them. I hope you find someone who loves you.
Loves me but he's not "in love" with me?
Pack!...but understand too...at 13 %26amp; 14 neither one of you were mature enough to understand "in love"..%26amp; probably not at 17%26amp; 18 either...he's maturing %26amp; realizing while he loves you , loves your company, you are not "the" one for him...now, be honest with yourself...are you "in love" with him...or is he just safe...familiar?...like a comforatable old sweater?...It's life..we grow..we change...
Reply:wow, you must be feeling very hurt. I suppose in his defence, you asked him a question and he answered it.
You got together when you were very young I guess, and maybe he just feels he has grown apart from you? it does happen, people fall out of love for all kinds of reasons, it's just a pity when it happens that both parties involved don't fall out of love at the same time, because it normally means one gets hurt and the other does the hurting.
Maybe during that five year break he grew up a lot and realised that while he loves you and will probably always carry that love with him, it isn't the same as it was, first love is always special, but some people make the mistake of mixing up first love with true love, and maybe what he's doing is setting you free to find your true love?
I know it hurts right now, and you're obviously very angry as well, but maybe better that he said what he did rather than string you along knowing his feelings had changed.
Reply:Sounds like you're out of luck for a long-term relationship. Not that he's the one who should do the breaking up--you deserve better than to be in a relationship where he "loves you" but is not "in love with you." You are worth much more than this! Maybe he is trying to let you down easy, even though he's the one who begged you to get back together. He made a mistake. If you make a mistake and somehow marry this guy, he will NOT grow to be in love with you. It doesn't happen. Either he is "in love" or he just cares about you as a friend. Find another guy to give yourself to.
Reply:well i think you should smack the hell out of him and then sit down with him and talk find out why because if he loves you but is not in live with you i think he needs to make up his mind and let you know how he really feels so u can find out if yall have a futher together or not..don't u just hate guys i wish they could have a normal way of letting us know how they feel.. good luck with ur problem
Reply:Tell him you don't think we should continue on if you aren't in love with me. If by now he's not, he's not going to and you shouldn't waste time with him when you can be with the person who will fall in love with you. He's not going to ask you to marry him if he's not in love with you. I would definitly move out and tell him that you have a problem with him since you guys have been together for years and he's not in love with you. Tell him you want to find someone that will fall in love with you and have a future together. You are not there to help him kill time until he finds someone he can fall in love with. Do not settle!!!
Reply:I'm sorry to have to tell you this honey but yes. If someone doesn't love you why stay with them. I hope you find someone who loves you.
Love is so cruel it can brake your heart.?
Last night i told my first love the following "Can we talk? I just want to say sorry.., Sorry for texting you while i was with another girl... Sorry for trying to make you jealous but in he process i was hurting you. I know that you know i love you. but due time i will tell if this is true love. I also want to let you know, i don't want to interfer with you and (her boyfriend name) relationship and if i have than I'm sorry. The necklace , the flowers wasn't to buy your love, it was to show you my love.. my love for you.... Then she replies back by saying "You didn't hurt me.. thats all i have to say about that." o been very sad for the last 14 hours.. i seen her during school and had no words to say, not even "hi". Is she telling me at the same time she doesn't like me? Also should i just move on with the rest of my life
Love is so cruel it can brake your heart.?
Love is never cruel. We tend to create our own hell on earth. If someone turns their back on you it signifies that they have lost the ability to see what a great and wonderful person you really are. If the other person doesn't recognize your value, then you don't really want to have relationship with them. I know you value yourself, recognize that you are your own best friend, and that you honor yourself by how you treat yourself and by your choice of friends. You have now discovered, possibly, that one of your choices didn't turn out as well as you hoped. So, get on with life, consider new choices and look for someone who will truly honor you as you honor them. Good luck. Remember, you are great. Don't ever let anybody tell you differently.
Reply:Grief is perhaps the most difficult of human emotions to face, although it has the potential for being the most therapeutic as well. Grief is not a bad thing, for grief is the cost of having loved. If we had not cared, we would not grieve.
Reply:well let her come to you if she doesn't move one
Reply:Yes it can "brake" your heart, but a little tramp like yourself will rebound magnificently no doubt.
Reply:Not always
Love is so cruel it can brake your heart.?
Love is never cruel. We tend to create our own hell on earth. If someone turns their back on you it signifies that they have lost the ability to see what a great and wonderful person you really are. If the other person doesn't recognize your value, then you don't really want to have relationship with them. I know you value yourself, recognize that you are your own best friend, and that you honor yourself by how you treat yourself and by your choice of friends. You have now discovered, possibly, that one of your choices didn't turn out as well as you hoped. So, get on with life, consider new choices and look for someone who will truly honor you as you honor them. Good luck. Remember, you are great. Don't ever let anybody tell you differently.
Reply:Grief is perhaps the most difficult of human emotions to face, although it has the potential for being the most therapeutic as well. Grief is not a bad thing, for grief is the cost of having loved. If we had not cared, we would not grieve.
Reply:well let her come to you if she doesn't move one
Reply:Yes it can "brake" your heart, but a little tramp like yourself will rebound magnificently no doubt.
Reply:Not always
POLL: What is love? Is there a one true love or several?
I know a guy that is 27 and married to a girl he met when they where 16. 50 cents fell in love with his wife when they where 11.
Is there a one true love? A love even children can feel cause it's not sexual at all?
I know that most of us Guy's have troubles differenting between a strong sexual desire and love.
Girls might want to be in love so bad that they make themselves believe that they love someone so much that they would cut their own heart out and give it to their lover?
Is there a one true love or are there many loves out there?
POLL: What is love? Is there a one true love or several?
I have met my soul mate and I feel he is my one true love! I have never felt this way before in my adult life!!
Reply:Love is defined as very intense feelings of care and devotion towards another. We may fall in and out of love often throughout life, but God has created one soul mate for each of us to make us whole. When we find that special someone, two souls are united as one and the feelings of that are indescribable.
Reply:I think there are many people you could love and who could love you back. (I have loved several men this way). But I think there are only a few that you can love completely and forever...like soul mates. I'm not joking and I'm not young. I'm 45 and it took me until I was 40 to find him (of course I was married to someone else).
My advice: Hold out for the ONE(s). Have an open mind and give a guy/girl a chance. My first impression of my 'one'? I wasn't going on a second date, but I did and not I'm more in love than 5 years ago when I met him!!!
Know yourself well enough to know what you can and can't compromise on. Don't ever think you can change someone. Never accept abuse (men or women). Keep your eyes open.
He/she is out there.
Reply:Wow that was good..Have a star
There's many loves, but I think there's only one love for me
He doesn't understand that if he didn't exist, I'd be dead...*emo*.....I love him with all my heart and he loves me too!♥♥♥
Reply:i think we have many possibilities for love out there
Is there a one true love? A love even children can feel cause it's not sexual at all?
I know that most of us Guy's have troubles differenting between a strong sexual desire and love.
Girls might want to be in love so bad that they make themselves believe that they love someone so much that they would cut their own heart out and give it to their lover?
Is there a one true love or are there many loves out there?
POLL: What is love? Is there a one true love or several?
I have met my soul mate and I feel he is my one true love! I have never felt this way before in my adult life!!
Reply:Love is defined as very intense feelings of care and devotion towards another. We may fall in and out of love often throughout life, but God has created one soul mate for each of us to make us whole. When we find that special someone, two souls are united as one and the feelings of that are indescribable.
Reply:I think there are many people you could love and who could love you back. (I have loved several men this way). But I think there are only a few that you can love completely and forever...like soul mates. I'm not joking and I'm not young. I'm 45 and it took me until I was 40 to find him (of course I was married to someone else).
My advice: Hold out for the ONE(s). Have an open mind and give a guy/girl a chance. My first impression of my 'one'? I wasn't going on a second date, but I did and not I'm more in love than 5 years ago when I met him!!!
Know yourself well enough to know what you can and can't compromise on. Don't ever think you can change someone. Never accept abuse (men or women). Keep your eyes open.
He/she is out there.
Reply:Wow that was good..Have a star
There's many loves, but I think there's only one love for me
He doesn't understand that if he didn't exist, I'd be dead...*emo*.....I love him with all my heart and he loves me too!♥♥♥
Reply:i think we have many possibilities for love out there
Love Poem, Anybody?
WOMAN'S LOVE POEM
Before I lay me down to sleep,
I pray for a man, who's not a creep,
One who's handsome, smart and strong.
One who loves to listen long,
One who thinks before he speaks,
One who'll call, not wait for weeks?
I pray he's gainfully employed,
When I spend his cash, won't be annoyed.
Pulls out my chair and open s my door,
Massages my back and begs to do more.
Oh! Send me a man who'll make love to my mind,
Knows what to answer to "how big is my behind?"
I pray that this man will love me to no end,
And always be my very best friend.
MAN'S LOVE POEM
I pray for a deaf-mute nymphomaniac with
huge boobs who owns a bar on a golf course,
and loves to send me fishing and hunting This
doesn't rhyme and I don't give a ****.
Love Poem, Anybody?
excellent-eloquent!!! LMAO!!!
Reply:umm.....ok
Reply:Woman's is good, but the man's is just idiotic. 90% of most guys don't care for that stuff, and for the other 10% who do don't deserve to get anyone.
Reply:I liked the first one :))
Reply:LOL amusing!
Reply:oh....lol...funny!
Reply:love it, VERY sterotypical however!!
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Before I lay me down to sleep,
I pray for a man, who's not a creep,
One who's handsome, smart and strong.
One who loves to listen long,
One who thinks before he speaks,
One who'll call, not wait for weeks?
I pray he's gainfully employed,
When I spend his cash, won't be annoyed.
Pulls out my chair and open s my door,
Massages my back and begs to do more.
Oh! Send me a man who'll make love to my mind,
Knows what to answer to "how big is my behind?"
I pray that this man will love me to no end,
And always be my very best friend.
MAN'S LOVE POEM
I pray for a deaf-mute nymphomaniac with
huge boobs who owns a bar on a golf course,
and loves to send me fishing and hunting This
doesn't rhyme and I don't give a ****.
Love Poem, Anybody?
excellent-eloquent!!! LMAO!!!
Reply:umm.....ok
Reply:Woman's is good, but the man's is just idiotic. 90% of most guys don't care for that stuff, and for the other 10% who do don't deserve to get anyone.
Reply:I liked the first one :))
Reply:LOL amusing!
Reply:oh....lol...funny!
Reply:love it, VERY sterotypical however!!
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Help Me!!! Love Troubles!!! Real Story!!! Help Help Help!!!! Plz!!!?
im in love with my ex boi friend and he has a girlfriends now. his twin brother is in love with me but i dont love him. my ex's new gf is cheating on him and i dont like that. i dont want to make him unhappy by telling him, but i kno i have to. and how do i deal with his twin, how can i tell him that im not in love with him
p.s
im 13
black/native-many tribes/polish/white/indian(cra... i kno)
plz dont say that bcuz im a minor that this is something silly, bcuz its not. im not in love with him bcuz of his body or anything, i love him bcuz of the way he touches me, the way he talks to me, the way he get nervouse when i talk to him, the way he is always so sweet to me, how he used to never look at other girls when he was near me, how he always called at the perfect time, and how when im sad he makes me forget my troubles, how he isnt afraid of showing his love for me to the world, how he stares at me from across the room, how he always supported me he loved me even when kno else did...
Help Me!!! Love Troubles!!! Real Story!!! Help Help Help!!!! Plz!!!?
well um... you're 13..... i don't think you LOVE him but you probably like him a lot. you don't have to tell him anything. don't get invovled in a big drama. this already seems complicated enough don't make it bigger because thats worse. After all she is his girl friend.... you're not... meaning that if worse comes to worse even if he's mad at her.... he'll forgive her eventually... if something goes wrong again and you tell him again he may start to not believe you and blame you for troubles... after all he is a silly little boy... don't get invovled... be the one thats there for him. he'll see what your worth soon enough. because one day he's bound to break up with her and then you'll be there as a support..... and about the twin.. just tell him you don't like him....
p.s
im 13
black/native-many tribes/polish/white/indian(cra... i kno)
plz dont say that bcuz im a minor that this is something silly, bcuz its not. im not in love with him bcuz of his body or anything, i love him bcuz of the way he touches me, the way he talks to me, the way he get nervouse when i talk to him, the way he is always so sweet to me, how he used to never look at other girls when he was near me, how he always called at the perfect time, and how when im sad he makes me forget my troubles, how he isnt afraid of showing his love for me to the world, how he stares at me from across the room, how he always supported me he loved me even when kno else did...
Help Me!!! Love Troubles!!! Real Story!!! Help Help Help!!!! Plz!!!?
well um... you're 13..... i don't think you LOVE him but you probably like him a lot. you don't have to tell him anything. don't get invovled in a big drama. this already seems complicated enough don't make it bigger because thats worse. After all she is his girl friend.... you're not... meaning that if worse comes to worse even if he's mad at her.... he'll forgive her eventually... if something goes wrong again and you tell him again he may start to not believe you and blame you for troubles... after all he is a silly little boy... don't get invovled... be the one thats there for him. he'll see what your worth soon enough. because one day he's bound to break up with her and then you'll be there as a support..... and about the twin.. just tell him you don't like him....
Relationships and love?
Love is such a complicated issue. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months, and I know he cares about me. He reassures me this from time to time, but there's that whole love issue. We have never said "I love you" to each other, and we had a good discussion about it and its meaning. He says that he doesn't want to say those three words without really meaning it, and I am very glad and definitely respect that, for I know those words are often said too easily these days.
However, I know that he has said "I love you" to one of his ex-girlfriends (and they were together for a little more than a year). At the time, I believe he also felt that love was a great risk to take, but I feel as if he was willing to risk that love for her, to risk acknowledging that he did love her...but maybe not so much with me. I'm not even sure if "love" is the main issue here...maybe I'm just feeling like I'm second best, like well...yes. Something along those lines.
Thanks I greatly appreciate this.
Relationships and love?
If you look at it those girls are exactly what they are his EX's and he may want to take a slower approach to your relationship, because he has learned from past mistakes and doesnt want to hurt you or your relationship with him...just let nature take its course and enjoy your relationship as it grows and develops and dont compare past relationships because people are different and situations are different :) good luck
Reply:Be patient, maybe he's being carefull not to throw those 3 words around because he's been hurt once. As you said, he told his EX, that he loved her, maybe that changed their relationship in a way (obviously he's not with her anymore) so he is really trying to be extra careful with using those words with you, because he doesn't want to lose you. I had guys tell me they love me, I dump them, seriously, i didn't want or wasn't ready for that. Your boyfriend may have had a girl dump him once for those words(do I know your man? :-) So he doesn't want to be dumped by you...if your affraid of those words too.
Reply:alright listen to me, love doesn't exist. there everything is simple now no?
Reply:He is affected by his past relationship and since he said I Love you to his ex and they broke up, he is probably afraid to say them to you.
Reply:Maybe he's just knew the real meaning of those three words.You know what I mean.Maybe he always said it to his ex and thought that the three words should always been told to any couple but without meaning it..So he followed it.But,things weren't going right and they break up.So,when your boyfriend started a new relationship,that's with you,he doesn't want to do the same thing to his ex.Don't worry,if he made you happy,that's the meaning of the true love.
Reply:I'm not really sure what your question is. :(
Love yourself. Don't look to him for validation and security. Don't worry about the ex-gf. He's no longer with her. So "second best" doesn't really apply, you know?
Saying "I love you" isn't so much a risk as it is a sentiment full of heartfelt emotion and actions. He sounds like a great boyfriend. I wouldn't push him to say it or to feel like he has to say it just to please you. Enjoy being with him. There are plenty of guys who say it all the time and never mean it.
Reply:sounds like you are worried that he doesnt care for you as much as he did for his ex, but i dont think thats the case, he might be finding it harder to say he loves you because the last time he said it to someone it didnt last, he might just want to be sure that he really does love you, that its the "real" thing if you like....if you love him dont be afraid to tell him, but also be sure to let him know that there is no pressure in him saying it back to you....good luck
Reply:what's the question, exactly?
However, I know that he has said "I love you" to one of his ex-girlfriends (and they were together for a little more than a year). At the time, I believe he also felt that love was a great risk to take, but I feel as if he was willing to risk that love for her, to risk acknowledging that he did love her...but maybe not so much with me. I'm not even sure if "love" is the main issue here...maybe I'm just feeling like I'm second best, like well...yes. Something along those lines.
Thanks I greatly appreciate this.
Relationships and love?
If you look at it those girls are exactly what they are his EX's and he may want to take a slower approach to your relationship, because he has learned from past mistakes and doesnt want to hurt you or your relationship with him...just let nature take its course and enjoy your relationship as it grows and develops and dont compare past relationships because people are different and situations are different :) good luck
Reply:Be patient, maybe he's being carefull not to throw those 3 words around because he's been hurt once. As you said, he told his EX, that he loved her, maybe that changed their relationship in a way (obviously he's not with her anymore) so he is really trying to be extra careful with using those words with you, because he doesn't want to lose you. I had guys tell me they love me, I dump them, seriously, i didn't want or wasn't ready for that. Your boyfriend may have had a girl dump him once for those words(do I know your man? :-) So he doesn't want to be dumped by you...if your affraid of those words too.
Reply:alright listen to me, love doesn't exist. there everything is simple now no?
Reply:He is affected by his past relationship and since he said I Love you to his ex and they broke up, he is probably afraid to say them to you.
Reply:Maybe he's just knew the real meaning of those three words.You know what I mean.Maybe he always said it to his ex and thought that the three words should always been told to any couple but without meaning it..So he followed it.But,things weren't going right and they break up.So,when your boyfriend started a new relationship,that's with you,he doesn't want to do the same thing to his ex.Don't worry,if he made you happy,that's the meaning of the true love.
Reply:I'm not really sure what your question is. :(
Love yourself. Don't look to him for validation and security. Don't worry about the ex-gf. He's no longer with her. So "second best" doesn't really apply, you know?
Saying "I love you" isn't so much a risk as it is a sentiment full of heartfelt emotion and actions. He sounds like a great boyfriend. I wouldn't push him to say it or to feel like he has to say it just to please you. Enjoy being with him. There are plenty of guys who say it all the time and never mean it.
Reply:sounds like you are worried that he doesnt care for you as much as he did for his ex, but i dont think thats the case, he might be finding it harder to say he loves you because the last time he said it to someone it didnt last, he might just want to be sure that he really does love you, that its the "real" thing if you like....if you love him dont be afraid to tell him, but also be sure to let him know that there is no pressure in him saying it back to you....good luck
Reply:what's the question, exactly?
Do you love your wife like this? (I wish that my husband did)?
If you can honestly say Yes, please explain why?
HAVE YOU EVER REALLY LOVED A WOMAN ? (Bryan Adams)
To really love a woman
To understand her
You gotta know her deep inside
Hear every thought
See every dream
And give her wings when she wants to fly
......
When you love a woman
You tell her that she’s really wanted
When you love a woman
You tell her that she’s the one
She needs somebody
To tell her that it’s gonna last forever
So tell me have you ever really
Really really ever loved a woman
To really love a woman
Let her hold you
Do you know how she needs to be touched?
You gotta breath her
Really taste her
Until you can feel her in your blood
Then when you can see your unborn children in her eyes
You know you really love a woman
.....
She needs somebody
To tell her that you’ll always be together
....
You got to give her some faith
Hold her tight
A little tenderness
You gotta treat her right
She’ll be there for you
Taking good care of you
You really gotta love your woman
..
Do you love your wife like this? (I wish that my husband did)?
I think having such a romantic view of life is like living in your dreams and not facing up to reality. One day you will wake up from your dream but it might take something really unpleasent to wake up a person who is dreaming.
You should not have such high expectations or else you have to learn to live with disappointment. It is better to live and let live and love and be loved.
Reply:good to imagine. it takes u in a dream world where u can only fantasize about such a guy. i wish i had one myself but its impossible.
Reply:that's just a bunch of b.s. i don't need my hubby to fulfill ever dream, know every thought, feel me in his blood(don't even know how one could do that)and i been breathing on my own for some time now.my faith is strong rather hes by my side or not...this is just another sappy song.
Reply:It's a song, not a ruler by which to measure your relationship.
Maybe you should ask your husband to find a song that *does* describe how he feels about you -- surely there's something out there that reminds him of you. Just don't be too judgmental if it's not what you have in mind.
Reply:well, one, the song really isn't that complex, i'm sure plenty of guys can do most of the things in it, as far as 'hearing every thought', etc., sorry but that's a supernatural talent that no human has at this time, and it's unreasonable to expect it; no one can read your mind, all you do is communicate to the best of your ability, on both sides, and don't expect your guy to automatically know all about you--some things he will never know, to tell you the truth--enjoy your differences, enjoy the things he does do for you, and you'll get by fine.
Reply:I know my husband loves me. He tells me everyday 3-4 times. I gave him a beautiful child and we have a great life. If he did some of the things in the song, it would probably just be irritating.
Reply:It's a good song, but that's all it is. Reality isn't like that at all.
Reply:My fiance (getting married in 19 days) made me a CD a few years ago of songs he felt described his feelings for me and this was one of them. I read and re-read the lyrics that you have posted here, and he loves me like that. I don't agree with the pp who said that this type of man would be boring. Obviously she doesn't or has never had a relationship in which she was truly loved and respected. We have our issues and life is not always rosy, but it's great to have a man who is still crazy about you after almost 7 years together and can still look at you sick and shivering and tell you that you're cute with your nose stuffed up. I can honestly say that my fiance is my best friend and he does all the things mentioned in the song. All your husband has to do is open his ears and listen to you, pay attention to your wants, needs and desires, and be willing to take steps to ensure that you are happy. Unfortuneatly, this is not something that you can teach him or force him to do. Either he's this type of guy or he's not.
Reply:No, because it's a stupid song from some loser hack of a one-hit-wonder. Pathetic.
Reply:I wish mine loved me like that, i think man have selfish way of loving, they only lust, very few men love a woman like that
Reply:I know my hubby does he told me so... (this happened BEFORE we were married)
One night we had just made love (him on top), it was over but we were still "together" and looking into each others eyes, and he started to cry...
He kissed me like never before and told me that he KNEW that I was to be the mother of his children, and they were going to be as beautiful as I was.... He said at that moment he could see into my soul I knew I was the one...
Reply:It is not possible to love in real life like this.
Reply:yes and no.
yes because I love her.
no because I am not her. Meaning that we do sure common interest but not everything she like I like and in reverse. Think about it, guy like sport, and one of the boring sport is baseball, are you willing to sit everyday for 3-5 hours for a baseball game. I know basegame is not everyday and you have work to. But think about it, in a marriage, you have to be with them after work. Neither it is spenting time with the kids, buying food, or whatever is afterwork right?
So even when you said "I love you with all my heart" that is not going to be true. Try just picking him up after work. Traffic is going to be a *****, if he is late coming out and you got a ticket because of double parking, who are you going to curse. Granded that I have done what I have said and took everything inside, but hey my girl still won't like my hobbies. My hobbies is reading comic books and she doesn't even want to give it a chance.
See my point. Would you give it a chance. It can be boring as hell to you and all we will talk about for days is just comics. Can you do that?
So the song you have is not trulty correct. Just as man and woman are. Nothing is 100 percent. 60-80 percent is good enough. The other 20 percent is the dreaming part. And be honest 365 days, can you dream of you husband every night? Not sleeping next to him for 365 days, i mean dreaming from night till day for 365 days.
Reply:i LOATHE this song.
Reply:I do love my wife like that. I guess I learned how to love from my parents, who were married for 66 years.
I'm grateful for every night we go to bed, always making some sort of physical contact while we sleep, even if it's just our toes touching.
I'm grateful for every morning we wake up, for I know we have another joyous day ahead of us.
I'm grateful for everything she does for me, and I try to return her love in kind.
I'm grateful to God, for sending me the true love of my life.
Reply:Sometimes my hubby is like that. Sometimes he isn't, I think all marriages take work and eventually you either fall more in love with that person everyday or you realize how miserable you are. Good luck finding your Mr Right!
Reply:Here's an idea. Ask Cecilie Thomsen if Bryan Adams actually gets the true meaning of what he has written, after his purported affair with Princess Diana.
Your husband will treat you as you require of him.
Reply:this only possible when ur lovers ¬ husband and wife,love can only bloom and exist when there's freedom and unconditionality and not bound by legalities
Reply:I love my wife more than your husband Yours VRVRAO
Reply:I can't hear her thoughts, but sometimes I say exactly what she was going to say at exactly the same time.
I can't give her wings, but I don't try to restrict her freedom.
I have told her it's going to last forever, and I meant it.
She has occasionally remarked happily that I have learned exactly how to touch her in the ways she most enjoys.
I don't know what "breathe her" or "feel her in your blood means". I am not poetic like that. I'm a literalist.
Tasting her is one of my favorite things to do!
There are no unborn children in her eyes: our youngest was born almost 10 years ago, and that's enough.
I do indeed hold her tenderly and/or tightly and I do treat her right.
Reply:yeah i love my wife like that all night
Reply:My husband does!!! and it has lasted for 15 years and still going! i have been blessed! Thank you God!
Reply:im not married yet but these are strong phrases. : )
Reply:Yes..I did... to my sweet wife and .still i am doing it....I felt like this song written and sung for me and my wife....
And last May 20 th was our 14th wedding anniversary., to be frank with you that we do argue and fight but all those was regarding our two boys mischiefs or something silly and it lasts only hours or usually it ends on the bed.
Reply:My husband says he loves me like that song, but his actions say otherwise. I'll never know. BUT...DillHoleL is so right on. Who wants a boring schmuck? It's all about the bad boy!
HAVE YOU EVER REALLY LOVED A WOMAN ? (Bryan Adams)
To really love a woman
To understand her
You gotta know her deep inside
Hear every thought
See every dream
And give her wings when she wants to fly
......
When you love a woman
You tell her that she’s really wanted
When you love a woman
You tell her that she’s the one
She needs somebody
To tell her that it’s gonna last forever
So tell me have you ever really
Really really ever loved a woman
To really love a woman
Let her hold you
Do you know how she needs to be touched?
You gotta breath her
Really taste her
Until you can feel her in your blood
Then when you can see your unborn children in her eyes
You know you really love a woman
.....
She needs somebody
To tell her that you’ll always be together
....
You got to give her some faith
Hold her tight
A little tenderness
You gotta treat her right
She’ll be there for you
Taking good care of you
You really gotta love your woman
..
Do you love your wife like this? (I wish that my husband did)?
I think having such a romantic view of life is like living in your dreams and not facing up to reality. One day you will wake up from your dream but it might take something really unpleasent to wake up a person who is dreaming.
You should not have such high expectations or else you have to learn to live with disappointment. It is better to live and let live and love and be loved.
Reply:good to imagine. it takes u in a dream world where u can only fantasize about such a guy. i wish i had one myself but its impossible.
Reply:that's just a bunch of b.s. i don't need my hubby to fulfill ever dream, know every thought, feel me in his blood(don't even know how one could do that)and i been breathing on my own for some time now.my faith is strong rather hes by my side or not...this is just another sappy song.
Reply:It's a song, not a ruler by which to measure your relationship.
Maybe you should ask your husband to find a song that *does* describe how he feels about you -- surely there's something out there that reminds him of you. Just don't be too judgmental if it's not what you have in mind.
Reply:well, one, the song really isn't that complex, i'm sure plenty of guys can do most of the things in it, as far as 'hearing every thought', etc., sorry but that's a supernatural talent that no human has at this time, and it's unreasonable to expect it; no one can read your mind, all you do is communicate to the best of your ability, on both sides, and don't expect your guy to automatically know all about you--some things he will never know, to tell you the truth--enjoy your differences, enjoy the things he does do for you, and you'll get by fine.
Reply:I know my husband loves me. He tells me everyday 3-4 times. I gave him a beautiful child and we have a great life. If he did some of the things in the song, it would probably just be irritating.
Reply:It's a good song, but that's all it is. Reality isn't like that at all.
Reply:My fiance (getting married in 19 days) made me a CD a few years ago of songs he felt described his feelings for me and this was one of them. I read and re-read the lyrics that you have posted here, and he loves me like that. I don't agree with the pp who said that this type of man would be boring. Obviously she doesn't or has never had a relationship in which she was truly loved and respected. We have our issues and life is not always rosy, but it's great to have a man who is still crazy about you after almost 7 years together and can still look at you sick and shivering and tell you that you're cute with your nose stuffed up. I can honestly say that my fiance is my best friend and he does all the things mentioned in the song. All your husband has to do is open his ears and listen to you, pay attention to your wants, needs and desires, and be willing to take steps to ensure that you are happy. Unfortuneatly, this is not something that you can teach him or force him to do. Either he's this type of guy or he's not.
Reply:No, because it's a stupid song from some loser hack of a one-hit-wonder. Pathetic.
Reply:I wish mine loved me like that, i think man have selfish way of loving, they only lust, very few men love a woman like that
Reply:I know my hubby does he told me so... (this happened BEFORE we were married)
One night we had just made love (him on top), it was over but we were still "together" and looking into each others eyes, and he started to cry...
He kissed me like never before and told me that he KNEW that I was to be the mother of his children, and they were going to be as beautiful as I was.... He said at that moment he could see into my soul I knew I was the one...
Reply:It is not possible to love in real life like this.
Reply:yes and no.
yes because I love her.
no because I am not her. Meaning that we do sure common interest but not everything she like I like and in reverse. Think about it, guy like sport, and one of the boring sport is baseball, are you willing to sit everyday for 3-5 hours for a baseball game. I know basegame is not everyday and you have work to. But think about it, in a marriage, you have to be with them after work. Neither it is spenting time with the kids, buying food, or whatever is afterwork right?
So even when you said "I love you with all my heart" that is not going to be true. Try just picking him up after work. Traffic is going to be a *****, if he is late coming out and you got a ticket because of double parking, who are you going to curse. Granded that I have done what I have said and took everything inside, but hey my girl still won't like my hobbies. My hobbies is reading comic books and she doesn't even want to give it a chance.
See my point. Would you give it a chance. It can be boring as hell to you and all we will talk about for days is just comics. Can you do that?
So the song you have is not trulty correct. Just as man and woman are. Nothing is 100 percent. 60-80 percent is good enough. The other 20 percent is the dreaming part. And be honest 365 days, can you dream of you husband every night? Not sleeping next to him for 365 days, i mean dreaming from night till day for 365 days.
Reply:i LOATHE this song.
Reply:I do love my wife like that. I guess I learned how to love from my parents, who were married for 66 years.
I'm grateful for every night we go to bed, always making some sort of physical contact while we sleep, even if it's just our toes touching.
I'm grateful for every morning we wake up, for I know we have another joyous day ahead of us.
I'm grateful for everything she does for me, and I try to return her love in kind.
I'm grateful to God, for sending me the true love of my life.
Reply:Sometimes my hubby is like that. Sometimes he isn't, I think all marriages take work and eventually you either fall more in love with that person everyday or you realize how miserable you are. Good luck finding your Mr Right!
Reply:Here's an idea. Ask Cecilie Thomsen if Bryan Adams actually gets the true meaning of what he has written, after his purported affair with Princess Diana.
Your husband will treat you as you require of him.
Reply:this only possible when ur lovers ¬ husband and wife,love can only bloom and exist when there's freedom and unconditionality and not bound by legalities
Reply:I love my wife more than your husband Yours VRVRAO
Reply:I can't hear her thoughts, but sometimes I say exactly what she was going to say at exactly the same time.
I can't give her wings, but I don't try to restrict her freedom.
I have told her it's going to last forever, and I meant it.
She has occasionally remarked happily that I have learned exactly how to touch her in the ways she most enjoys.
I don't know what "breathe her" or "feel her in your blood means". I am not poetic like that. I'm a literalist.
Tasting her is one of my favorite things to do!
There are no unborn children in her eyes: our youngest was born almost 10 years ago, and that's enough.
I do indeed hold her tenderly and/or tightly and I do treat her right.
Reply:yeah i love my wife like that all night
Reply:My husband does!!! and it has lasted for 15 years and still going! i have been blessed! Thank you God!
Reply:im not married yet but these are strong phrases. : )
Reply:Yes..I did... to my sweet wife and .still i am doing it....I felt like this song written and sung for me and my wife....
And last May 20 th was our 14th wedding anniversary., to be frank with you that we do argue and fight but all those was regarding our two boys mischiefs or something silly and it lasts only hours or usually it ends on the bed.
Reply:My husband says he loves me like that song, but his actions say otherwise. I'll never know. BUT...DillHoleL is so right on. Who wants a boring schmuck? It's all about the bad boy!
Is this love yes or no.?
Me and my boyfriend, jarrett have been going out for 3 months now and he is the best boyfriend i ever had, he respects me and i know he loves me very much. He told me he would give the world to spend his life with me and he loves my eyes and all that mushy stuff, lol. I love when he hugs me from behind and i love when he wispers in my ear "i love you"while we are cuddling on the couch. also our first kiss was in the rain =] it was the best moment of my WHOLE entire life. If i didnt have him, or if i lost him i'd kill myself, well thats just me over exxagerating [cant spell] one day he came up hugged me from behind, turned me around and said "i pinky promise we'll be together forever"
ohh god i love him.
he isnt disrespectful and he isnt only focused on getting some eather, he has never touched me butt,boobs or anything like that, he has never even talked about sex, he doesnt care, he just loves me.
do you really think this is love?
Is this love yes or no.?
It's either love, hormones depending on your age, or a really big lie.
Reply:Could be
Reply:It's too soon to tell and you're still in the lovey dovey stage.
Reply:sounds promising, don't know your ages
Reply:I don't know. But he certainly isn't afraid to tell you. Maybe he's sexually shy and waiting till the right moment when you're certain rather than he being certain.
Other than that, learn how to spell!
Reply:It might be, but do yourself a favor, and don't rush into anything. And if you're going to make a major desicion, talk to someone else about it as well and try to remain neutral about it. I say this because I have been through some very hard(to put it mildly) relationships and its because I thought with my heart not my head, I wish I could change a few things. Give it time, if he doesn't start wearing off in about a year, then its for real. I know you think you'll feel the same in a year, I did too, a few times. Now I walk around looking over my shoulder more often than I'd like.
Reply:YEA MAYBE HE DOES TRULY LOVE YOU, BUT STILL EVEN IF HE TRULY DOES LOVE YOU RIGHT NOW YOU SHOULDN'T GIVE IT (YOU KNOW WHAT 'IT' IS) ALL UP TO HIM.....YET, JUST WAIT A BIT LONGER AND THEN YOU'LL SEE!
Reply:oh my god that is sooo cute!!!
im sure it is. yyour real lucky gal never asked for sex or anything.
i soo jelouse
keep him he is a keeper :D
Bye.x
Reply:yeah its love alright
Reply:yea,totally love.
Reply:It sounds like love when you stop asking and you have this feeling that hey (i know) this is love theres your answer.It won't be a question anymore,you'll know!
Reply:aww dis i sos cute it may be luv or its just puppy love ethier one dis is cute
Reply:Hmmm, it sounds like puppy love.
You have to wait until you guys get into your first fight or disagreement and see how the both of you resolve it. It's too soon to tell.
Reply:I think that he is tellin you the truth and that he does love you very much...
But...
i think you already knew that....and just wanted some reassurance...
WELL...
in that case...
he really does love you, and as long as you love him, you two should make a perfect couple...
sorta like the one from titanic..only no one dies.! =D
Reply:yea it sounds like it.......
toothache
ohh god i love him.
he isnt disrespectful and he isnt only focused on getting some eather, he has never touched me butt,boobs or anything like that, he has never even talked about sex, he doesnt care, he just loves me.
do you really think this is love?
Is this love yes or no.?
It's either love, hormones depending on your age, or a really big lie.
Reply:Could be
Reply:It's too soon to tell and you're still in the lovey dovey stage.
Reply:sounds promising, don't know your ages
Reply:I don't know. But he certainly isn't afraid to tell you. Maybe he's sexually shy and waiting till the right moment when you're certain rather than he being certain.
Other than that, learn how to spell!
Reply:It might be, but do yourself a favor, and don't rush into anything. And if you're going to make a major desicion, talk to someone else about it as well and try to remain neutral about it. I say this because I have been through some very hard(to put it mildly) relationships and its because I thought with my heart not my head, I wish I could change a few things. Give it time, if he doesn't start wearing off in about a year, then its for real. I know you think you'll feel the same in a year, I did too, a few times. Now I walk around looking over my shoulder more often than I'd like.
Reply:YEA MAYBE HE DOES TRULY LOVE YOU, BUT STILL EVEN IF HE TRULY DOES LOVE YOU RIGHT NOW YOU SHOULDN'T GIVE IT (YOU KNOW WHAT 'IT' IS) ALL UP TO HIM.....YET, JUST WAIT A BIT LONGER AND THEN YOU'LL SEE!
Reply:oh my god that is sooo cute!!!
im sure it is. yyour real lucky gal never asked for sex or anything.
i soo jelouse
keep him he is a keeper :D
Bye.x
Reply:yeah its love alright
Reply:yea,totally love.
Reply:It sounds like love when you stop asking and you have this feeling that hey (i know) this is love theres your answer.It won't be a question anymore,you'll know!
Reply:aww dis i sos cute it may be luv or its just puppy love ethier one dis is cute
Reply:Hmmm, it sounds like puppy love.
You have to wait until you guys get into your first fight or disagreement and see how the both of you resolve it. It's too soon to tell.
Reply:I think that he is tellin you the truth and that he does love you very much...
But...
i think you already knew that....and just wanted some reassurance...
WELL...
in that case...
he really does love you, and as long as you love him, you two should make a perfect couple...
sorta like the one from titanic..only no one dies.! =D
Reply:yea it sounds like it.......
toothache
Any one need love click here!!!?
PEOPLE SAY THEY "find" love, as if it were an object hidden by a rock. But love takes many forms,and it is never the same for any man and woman. What people find is a Certain love.I havent found a certain love with someone ,a greatful love,a deep but quit love,..................!
love dose not require two persons to look at each other ,but thy look togather to the same direction ..
what is Ur respond? feeling? toughts? what is love..can we own all the world by having love?
Any one need love click here!!!?
k, In a lot of respect the first paragraph is very true,
the following two sentences babble on about crap, and the title has very little to do with anything you wrote.
Love is what you make it out as. If you think you find it, you look, if you think it finds you, you wait.
If you don't care about it you wait ~♥%26gt;3
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My feelings? Thoughts?
~
Love is a wonderful thing, but to me It's too hard to bother trying to find, So never having experienced it, I've just given up on it altogether.
~
Can we own the world by having love?
Depends if you literally mean "Own the world" or it's metaphorical.
Reply:well i have found love and we r strong despite the opposition and intervention. Love is have deep affection for someone there are so many different types of love. Love from God is different from the one ur mom gives u.
Reply:i didn't understand ur question.
love dose not require two persons to look at each other ,but thy look togather to the same direction ..
what is Ur respond? feeling? toughts? what is love..can we own all the world by having love?
Any one need love click here!!!?
k, In a lot of respect the first paragraph is very true,
the following two sentences babble on about crap, and the title has very little to do with anything you wrote.
Love is what you make it out as. If you think you find it, you look, if you think it finds you, you wait.
If you don't care about it you wait ~♥%26gt;3
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My feelings? Thoughts?
~
Love is a wonderful thing, but to me It's too hard to bother trying to find, So never having experienced it, I've just given up on it altogether.
~
Can we own the world by having love?
Depends if you literally mean "Own the world" or it's metaphorical.
Reply:well i have found love and we r strong despite the opposition and intervention. Love is have deep affection for someone there are so many different types of love. Love from God is different from the one ur mom gives u.
Reply:i didn't understand ur question.
Is this love? does age matter? what do I do?
Ok, well I'm 15 years and I fell in love with a man around 50. I have about a year knowing him and he has been very sweet and kind.And I don't simply like/love him, this is the first time I've ever felt such strong love. I swear this change my life. This love makes me stronger, happier, and joyful; but I love him so much that I cry to just think that we'll never be together. I know I' m 15 but I'm waiting to turn into an adult so this person knows that I'm not playing and I'm deeply in love with him. I don't care how old he is and how his appreance is, the only thing I know is that I love him. But I am afraid to loose our friendship when I let him know how much I love him. I'm afraid to loose him and afraid to get him mad. I tearfully ask you for tips and help.
Is this love? does age matter? what do I do?
Honey don't listen to everyone telling you it's not meant to be, your the only one that knows how your heart feels. Nobody knows whats in your heart but you. Atleast wait till your 18 though so no one gets into any trouble. I am very happy for you. I was 18 and I wasn't in love but I liked this 35 year old and age didn't matter to me, and what he looked like didn't matter to me either. If it don't matter to you what he looks like then you must definitely love him. Listen to your heart hun only you can make the descision to be with him nobody else can make that descision for you. Good Luck and I wish you the best.
Reply:Ok....How about instead of concentrating on being "in Love" with a 50 y/o Granpa, you put forth the effort in being a resposible young adult and make something good with your life....like.....GO TO COLLEGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Instead of becoming a pregnant teen ager that's going to eat up our taxes. Sorry if it sounds too harsh......but you should be looking out for your future, if he "loves you in return" he will understand and wait for you. Just because someone is sweet and kind to you doesn't mean he "loves you" love is a very powerful word. My Question to you is.....where are your parents????? It's situations like this that drives the teen ager pregnancy issue sky high.....and who's left to pay?
Reply:girl are u mad, felling in love with a man that old be ur father and that can take of u like a child to him.pls stop that is not to go for somebody like u felling in love with dat 50yearold man at 15,that is no love and age matter so much in this.u know wat if u want a man go for very samll boys of 2year old than u.one more thing go and face ur study well and stop felling in love with that old man.
Reply:Listen carefully hon, your a young girl with very strong emotions for an older man, and these emotions, 'All though you wont believe me' will change towards this older person as you get more mature! Logic and the gradual realisation of what you are up against will hit you hard! your whole life will change, you will have to make critical decisions affecting your family and your social life! i.e. your older man wont want to go out with fifteen or sixteen year old friends, would he? How about children? will your son or daughter be happy with a old man of sixty or seventy when their mom is in her twenty's or thirties? You need counselling on this problem kiddo, and real quick! The man in question should be mature enough to see the problems he is causing, and walk away from you! He's two steps away from paedophilia, and he knows it!!!!!
Reply:you should really consider the enormous difference of age..........in this case..love realy has an age.
besides....you are still a child at 15.......give yourself some time to live your childhood and then fall inlove.
Reply:he is a peado
Reply:when you love someone it is always called LOVE. in my opinion and as far as I'm concerned age have nothing to do with love. my friend is also in love with an older man and i truly hope they will end up together.
YOU should not be ashamed of your feelings, but I suggest that you wait for a little longer until you feel that he is ready to know the truth (you'll know when the time comes) and than be sincere.
You sholud also wait untill you're 18 (to cause no legal troubles)
good luck!
Reply:Are you sure?
1. Calm and close your eyes. Who the first appear in your mind? If the man doesn't appear means no love.
You have father? Or your father had ...? Maybe you just thirst for father's love?
LOVE is universal and never matters age, sex, race, religion etc.
HUMAN defines love by themselves and always confuses by it.
MAKE clear that love is about caring and make one happy and safe and more.
Reply:It is not love. Its crush or infatuation. It will wither away soon. When you will be in your prime age of 35 yrs, he will be 70 and hanging his feet in the grave. Dont waste yourself, sweety. You are too young to FALL in love. Instead, FLY in fun.
Reply:your not in love you are just seeing the father figure in him which makes you feel loved. you dont like him in a sexual way though, he just makes you feel comfortable. its just like having a crush on your teacher you will get over it. dont act on it just wait and some boy your age will come into your life and then you will forget about it.
Reply:Your 15 and he's 50?He's old enough to be your Dad...think about it this way...what if your Dad fell in love with one of your friends?...Wouldn't that creep you out?...
Reply:This maybe be harsh but think back has he always been there in your life. and has he done things to you Sexually
If yes you should report it to your parents or to the police. They understand these things can happen, Even though you don't feel like he has done anything to you it is because they have a good way of manipulating you to think it's all normal.
Take that on board and if that's the case talk to someone but not him. Just remember he can't hurt you anymore when he is put away,
Sorry if it sounds harsh but it could be true.
Reply:HAHAHAHHAHAHA.
you want to be an adult fast, huh.??? well, honey, if you hang around the 50 year old, you'll be AN OLD PERSON fast!! slow down.
Reply:This may sound harsh, but it's not meant to, but I really do not think that this is a healthy relationship, he is more than old enough to be your father, and this would be viewed by most people as totally wrong, he would be looked upon as a pervert if he was to start a relationship with you. It may hurt, but I honestly do not see this working out at all, sorry.
Reply:Yikes !!! get a grip on your life girl dont go down this road, you are at a age when you are gonna meet loads on blokes and your head will whizzz - pick someone near to your own age
Reply:i think you should try and find someone closer to your age. there is a very big gap between 15 and 50. and i doubt your parents would let you get involved with a guy that is older then them. so my advice is to get a bf your age. and you are too young to know what love is.
Reply:Find someone closer to your own age! A love that can never be is a sad thing!
Reply:You may think you are in love and possibly you are. However in 3 years when you are 18 you won't be the same person as you are now. I suggest you wait and grow older and more mature before acting on this. Even if he wasn't 50 I would still say the same thing. We grow so much as people from 18 to 30 even. You should keep things in focus and make sure you are your priority and not build your life around someone else. You need concentrate on finishing high school and hopefully going to college or starting a career. You want to share your life, but don't forget to have one..
Reply:it might be and age dosnt matter just have fun
Is this love? does age matter? what do I do?
Honey don't listen to everyone telling you it's not meant to be, your the only one that knows how your heart feels. Nobody knows whats in your heart but you. Atleast wait till your 18 though so no one gets into any trouble. I am very happy for you. I was 18 and I wasn't in love but I liked this 35 year old and age didn't matter to me, and what he looked like didn't matter to me either. If it don't matter to you what he looks like then you must definitely love him. Listen to your heart hun only you can make the descision to be with him nobody else can make that descision for you. Good Luck and I wish you the best.
Reply:Ok....How about instead of concentrating on being "in Love" with a 50 y/o Granpa, you put forth the effort in being a resposible young adult and make something good with your life....like.....GO TO COLLEGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Instead of becoming a pregnant teen ager that's going to eat up our taxes. Sorry if it sounds too harsh......but you should be looking out for your future, if he "loves you in return" he will understand and wait for you. Just because someone is sweet and kind to you doesn't mean he "loves you" love is a very powerful word. My Question to you is.....where are your parents????? It's situations like this that drives the teen ager pregnancy issue sky high.....and who's left to pay?
Reply:girl are u mad, felling in love with a man that old be ur father and that can take of u like a child to him.pls stop that is not to go for somebody like u felling in love with dat 50yearold man at 15,that is no love and age matter so much in this.u know wat if u want a man go for very samll boys of 2year old than u.one more thing go and face ur study well and stop felling in love with that old man.
Reply:Listen carefully hon, your a young girl with very strong emotions for an older man, and these emotions, 'All though you wont believe me' will change towards this older person as you get more mature! Logic and the gradual realisation of what you are up against will hit you hard! your whole life will change, you will have to make critical decisions affecting your family and your social life! i.e. your older man wont want to go out with fifteen or sixteen year old friends, would he? How about children? will your son or daughter be happy with a old man of sixty or seventy when their mom is in her twenty's or thirties? You need counselling on this problem kiddo, and real quick! The man in question should be mature enough to see the problems he is causing, and walk away from you! He's two steps away from paedophilia, and he knows it!!!!!
Reply:you should really consider the enormous difference of age..........in this case..love realy has an age.
besides....you are still a child at 15.......give yourself some time to live your childhood and then fall inlove.
Reply:he is a peado
Reply:when you love someone it is always called LOVE. in my opinion and as far as I'm concerned age have nothing to do with love. my friend is also in love with an older man and i truly hope they will end up together.
YOU should not be ashamed of your feelings, but I suggest that you wait for a little longer until you feel that he is ready to know the truth (you'll know when the time comes) and than be sincere.
You sholud also wait untill you're 18 (to cause no legal troubles)
good luck!
Reply:Are you sure?
1. Calm and close your eyes. Who the first appear in your mind? If the man doesn't appear means no love.
You have father? Or your father had ...? Maybe you just thirst for father's love?
LOVE is universal and never matters age, sex, race, religion etc.
HUMAN defines love by themselves and always confuses by it.
MAKE clear that love is about caring and make one happy and safe and more.
Reply:It is not love. Its crush or infatuation. It will wither away soon. When you will be in your prime age of 35 yrs, he will be 70 and hanging his feet in the grave. Dont waste yourself, sweety. You are too young to FALL in love. Instead, FLY in fun.
Reply:your not in love you are just seeing the father figure in him which makes you feel loved. you dont like him in a sexual way though, he just makes you feel comfortable. its just like having a crush on your teacher you will get over it. dont act on it just wait and some boy your age will come into your life and then you will forget about it.
Reply:Your 15 and he's 50?He's old enough to be your Dad...think about it this way...what if your Dad fell in love with one of your friends?...Wouldn't that creep you out?...
Reply:This maybe be harsh but think back has he always been there in your life. and has he done things to you Sexually
If yes you should report it to your parents or to the police. They understand these things can happen, Even though you don't feel like he has done anything to you it is because they have a good way of manipulating you to think it's all normal.
Take that on board and if that's the case talk to someone but not him. Just remember he can't hurt you anymore when he is put away,
Sorry if it sounds harsh but it could be true.
Reply:HAHAHAHHAHAHA.
you want to be an adult fast, huh.??? well, honey, if you hang around the 50 year old, you'll be AN OLD PERSON fast!! slow down.
Reply:This may sound harsh, but it's not meant to, but I really do not think that this is a healthy relationship, he is more than old enough to be your father, and this would be viewed by most people as totally wrong, he would be looked upon as a pervert if he was to start a relationship with you. It may hurt, but I honestly do not see this working out at all, sorry.
Reply:Yikes !!! get a grip on your life girl dont go down this road, you are at a age when you are gonna meet loads on blokes and your head will whizzz - pick someone near to your own age
Reply:i think you should try and find someone closer to your age. there is a very big gap between 15 and 50. and i doubt your parents would let you get involved with a guy that is older then them. so my advice is to get a bf your age. and you are too young to know what love is.
Reply:Find someone closer to your own age! A love that can never be is a sad thing!
Reply:You may think you are in love and possibly you are. However in 3 years when you are 18 you won't be the same person as you are now. I suggest you wait and grow older and more mature before acting on this. Even if he wasn't 50 I would still say the same thing. We grow so much as people from 18 to 30 even. You should keep things in focus and make sure you are your priority and not build your life around someone else. You need concentrate on finishing high school and hopefully going to college or starting a career. You want to share your life, but don't forget to have one..
Reply:it might be and age dosnt matter just have fun
Is to love to suffer?
Isn't to love to suffer? It seems so to me. So to avoid suffering one must not love....but then one suffers from not loving.
So to love is to suffer and to not love is to suffer.... but to be happy is to love...so to be happy is then to suffer...and suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or maybe suffer from too much happiness. Can you follow me on this?
If so, i would like your opinions and reasons why you believe what you believe
Is to love to suffer?
is to love is to suffer? this is your main question that leads you to make funny equations,your main question is not bad,but your equations make me feel bad,by the way the main question has no proof and not applicable to all people by all means. how come that there are people who are not sufferring but still loving and living happily with their love ones?and there are sufferring but not loving as vice versa ,so if something happen to a certain person or to people,we can not generalize it,simply because it didn't happen to all people, might have some but not all.
Reply:love and suffering makes you feel alive dude! I saw this article on the internet about love and dating maybe it could make you see love on a new light. http://gotblab.com/what-makes-people-fal...
Reply:Love does bring suffering at times. I'd rather deal with those times of unhappiness, than happiness all the time from being alone and never loving. Although according to a book I once read "Love means never having to say you are sorry". I would think that would mean no suffering. I could be wrong though, wouldn't be the first time.
Reply:let's see ... to live is to suffer . why r u making equations love = happiness / love= suffer ... etc
i think u should just go with the flow without thinking about every thing u do , that was my problem when i was a kid . i thought too much , i analysed every single thing and look at me , it didn't get me anywhere . i didn't know the real happiness before i started to take risks , that' s the point of life , making choices ... be wise and trust yourself and i assure you , no more sadness (hopefully)
Reply:...you cannot suffer if you will not love......love and pain are like brother and sister....
Reply:I totally agree with you...anything i've ever loved has broken my heart...sister died...dad became an abusive/drug addict...last boyfriend who i was in love with abused me. so i personally think love is just gay. but idk its a totally confuzing thing.
So to love is to suffer and to not love is to suffer.... but to be happy is to love...so to be happy is then to suffer...and suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or maybe suffer from too much happiness. Can you follow me on this?
If so, i would like your opinions and reasons why you believe what you believe
Is to love to suffer?
is to love is to suffer? this is your main question that leads you to make funny equations,your main question is not bad,but your equations make me feel bad,by the way the main question has no proof and not applicable to all people by all means. how come that there are people who are not sufferring but still loving and living happily with their love ones?and there are sufferring but not loving as vice versa ,so if something happen to a certain person or to people,we can not generalize it,simply because it didn't happen to all people, might have some but not all.
Reply:love and suffering makes you feel alive dude! I saw this article on the internet about love and dating maybe it could make you see love on a new light. http://gotblab.com/what-makes-people-fal...
Reply:Love does bring suffering at times. I'd rather deal with those times of unhappiness, than happiness all the time from being alone and never loving. Although according to a book I once read "Love means never having to say you are sorry". I would think that would mean no suffering. I could be wrong though, wouldn't be the first time.
Reply:let's see ... to live is to suffer . why r u making equations love = happiness / love= suffer ... etc
i think u should just go with the flow without thinking about every thing u do , that was my problem when i was a kid . i thought too much , i analysed every single thing and look at me , it didn't get me anywhere . i didn't know the real happiness before i started to take risks , that' s the point of life , making choices ... be wise and trust yourself and i assure you , no more sadness (hopefully)
Reply:...you cannot suffer if you will not love......love and pain are like brother and sister....
Reply:I totally agree with you...anything i've ever loved has broken my heart...sister died...dad became an abusive/drug addict...last boyfriend who i was in love with abused me. so i personally think love is just gay. but idk its a totally confuzing thing.
Which love you think is real?
There are two family love i have seen which one do u think is really write
its between two girls and two boys which are cousins
first one is the girl (A) loves a Boy (A) but she dosent show her family that she really loves him and she dosent show the boy too but she gives him some actions cause she is quite shy
and the other girl (B) loves the boy (B) but she doent care about family and she plays with the boy and she shows every one that she felt in love with this boy but she dosent tell them straight
which love do u think is real love
Which love you think is real?
Generally speaking, non of the two is real love. The first one comes a little close to it, though. Love is loud, not silent when you look into it.
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its between two girls and two boys which are cousins
first one is the girl (A) loves a Boy (A) but she dosent show her family that she really loves him and she dosent show the boy too but she gives him some actions cause she is quite shy
and the other girl (B) loves the boy (B) but she doent care about family and she plays with the boy and she shows every one that she felt in love with this boy but she dosent tell them straight
which love do u think is real love
Which love you think is real?
Generally speaking, non of the two is real love. The first one comes a little close to it, though. Love is loud, not silent when you look into it.
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Which Kind of Love is more successful for the entire LIFE SPAN?
Is the love which comes at the instance when we see the partner or the love which starts as friendship and understanding the deep inner feelings and at the end loving without reason.
Is the love can start with friendship or is the love must start with love only?
Please everyone who reads express ur true feelings...
Which Kind of Love is more successful for the entire LIFE SPAN?
I believe the love which starts with friendship will endure forever. My husband, for instance, is my best friend. There is NOTHING I wouldn't tell him and vice versa. You have to be friends or when you get old, you'll have nothing to talk about!
Reply:Start with friendship. You want to live with someone you can still be friends with, the chemical that creates the feeling of love goes down a lot after a few years. And after thats gone, friendship is the preferable thing to have left, but you don't know what it will be if all you ever had before is gone.
Reply:Wish I knew!! In one that started as friendship, yet, still issues all around us. The other, well, that one fizzled, yet, hey, that is kinda just lust, right?
Is the love can start with friendship or is the love must start with love only?
Please everyone who reads express ur true feelings...
Which Kind of Love is more successful for the entire LIFE SPAN?
I believe the love which starts with friendship will endure forever. My husband, for instance, is my best friend. There is NOTHING I wouldn't tell him and vice versa. You have to be friends or when you get old, you'll have nothing to talk about!
Reply:Start with friendship. You want to live with someone you can still be friends with, the chemical that creates the feeling of love goes down a lot after a few years. And after thats gone, friendship is the preferable thing to have left, but you don't know what it will be if all you ever had before is gone.
Reply:Wish I knew!! In one that started as friendship, yet, still issues all around us. The other, well, that one fizzled, yet, hey, that is kinda just lust, right?
Which kind of LOVE is more successful for the ENTIRE LIFE SPAN?
Is the love which comes at the instance when we see the partner or the love which starts as friendship and understanding the deep inner feelings and at the end loving without reason.
Is the love can start with friendship or is the love must start with love only?
Please everyone who reads express ur true feelings...pls
Which kind of LOVE is more successful for the ENTIRE LIFE SPAN?
I don't know if this will be a complete answer, but from scientific literature, there appears to be three fairly distinct stages that love (at least romantic love) goes through as measured by certain biological indicators: Lust, Attraction, Attachment.
The deeply intense love felt during the attraction phase (first six months or so) does not appear to be able to be sustainable. Does this mean that a couple that has been together for two months and cannot keep the other out of their thoughts is more in love than the couple who just celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary? Absolutely not. Just that love changes and looks different over time.
As for the age old question as to whether or not it is preferable to fall in love with a friend, or somebody you were immediately attracted to...the answer is that, over time, it really makes no difference how the relationship evolved, both paths are valid. With that said, I would venture to guess that a relationship that has a larger number of sustainable factors (compatibility, common interests, companionship) is more likely to last beyond the six month attraction phase. After this time, partners no longer find the annoying habits of the others cute and are therefore harder to ignore and easier to resent.
Hope this helps.
Reply:The type of love,you are talking about it just happens anytime doesn't see the place, time, age, race anything no matter u love after friendship or within one second just click their hearts and feel each other..no matter who is that...they love for what they are..as they are.n..accept eachother sameway they are...Love is just for giving, never expect anything to have from the one whom you love...
Reply:A love which does not expect anything in return
Reply:Love may start with friendship and also from love it depends upon our feelings and understanding but when whenever we start loving we should always be truthful in our love and if have the habit of asking unwanted questins in a doubtful way to your lover because it a big painkiller of our love and also our life.
Reply:I would say the love which starts as friendship and understanding the deep inner feelings and at the end loving without reason is better. This is better than just infatuation which is love whcih comes at the instance...Love can start with friendship absolutely..and it can start with love too...
Is the love can start with friendship or is the love must start with love only?
Please everyone who reads express ur true feelings...pls
Which kind of LOVE is more successful for the ENTIRE LIFE SPAN?
I don't know if this will be a complete answer, but from scientific literature, there appears to be three fairly distinct stages that love (at least romantic love) goes through as measured by certain biological indicators: Lust, Attraction, Attachment.
The deeply intense love felt during the attraction phase (first six months or so) does not appear to be able to be sustainable. Does this mean that a couple that has been together for two months and cannot keep the other out of their thoughts is more in love than the couple who just celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary? Absolutely not. Just that love changes and looks different over time.
As for the age old question as to whether or not it is preferable to fall in love with a friend, or somebody you were immediately attracted to...the answer is that, over time, it really makes no difference how the relationship evolved, both paths are valid. With that said, I would venture to guess that a relationship that has a larger number of sustainable factors (compatibility, common interests, companionship) is more likely to last beyond the six month attraction phase. After this time, partners no longer find the annoying habits of the others cute and are therefore harder to ignore and easier to resent.
Hope this helps.
Reply:The type of love,you are talking about it just happens anytime doesn't see the place, time, age, race anything no matter u love after friendship or within one second just click their hearts and feel each other..no matter who is that...they love for what they are..as they are.n..accept eachother sameway they are...Love is just for giving, never expect anything to have from the one whom you love...
Reply:A love which does not expect anything in return
Reply:Love may start with friendship and also from love it depends upon our feelings and understanding but when whenever we start loving we should always be truthful in our love and if have the habit of asking unwanted questins in a doubtful way to your lover because it a big painkiller of our love and also our life.
Reply:I would say the love which starts as friendship and understanding the deep inner feelings and at the end loving without reason is better. This is better than just infatuation which is love whcih comes at the instance...Love can start with friendship absolutely..and it can start with love too...
Love or "In Love"?
What's the difference between being "in love" and loving someone that loves you back? I'm in the longest relationship I've ever been in and we both have already said that we love each other and someone asked me if we loved each other or if we were "in love" so what's the difference, if there is any!
Love or "In Love"?
Basically there are two types of people and two types of romantic love (although type two has a variation for most types of platonic relationships also. You see it often with mothers toward their children.) I think when people say "In Love" they mean eros.
Love type one: Eros love
- This is what they are talking about when you read about the love chemical. It has a huge effect on this stage of love. This is the love Jack and Rose had for each other in Titanic. You feel it in the beginning of a relationship. You are completely obsessed with the other person. Passion and fire is rampant. You rarely think of other things. You tell people you are in love. They can do no wrong in your eyes. It is exciting. You feel completely desired, wanted, and worthwhile. This love has an expiration date. It wears off. You start to see their flaws. It gets old. I've heard this can last up to about three years. Some people let the "love" go, saying it has become boring and they don't feel the same way. Often this is for the best, but sometimes they let go because of immaturity and look for the next best thing, the next high. This first stage of love has to happen to get to the next one. I'm sort of glad it expires, because you wouldn't be very productive or balanced if you were completely obsessed with a person forever.
Love type two: Agape love (agape is an old greek word for "love feast" and I've often heard it adopted in this culture to describe this second type of love)
- If you are lucky, you go into this second stage. This is commitment love. It is characterised by unconditional positive regard, patience, and self-sacrifice. There are ups and downs, but you stick with it bc you realize that real love isn't a feeling, it's actions, loyalty, and grace. This takes maturity and you generally have to have developed a real friendship with the person that will whether the ebb and flow of emotions. Sometimes the fire re-surfaces on special occasions, but it's not as all-consuming or long-lasting and brainless as eros was. This is what the 80 year olds celebrating their 60th anniversary have. This love protects the other's heart and shows love with actions even when they don't FEEL love for the other. Obviously, it seems like this is rare, and it is pretty rare. It requires unselfishness and for people to lay down their pride from time to time. That also takes intelligence. But it happens. They may not always be perfect to each other, but by and large, they go the distance because the majority of the time spent together is this kind of eternal love. You just have to realize that in real life, it's not the fantasy people represent it to be. It's work, it's family. It's not everlasting eros. There is more of a choice, and I think this means more. If it's easy to love and treat you right, you should expect it. If it's a constant effort that reaps sweet rewards, it means a lot.
Love is patient, Love is kind,
It does not envy, it does not boast,
It is not proud, It is not rude,
It is not self-seeking,
It is not easily angered,
It keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil,
but rejoices with the truth.
Love always protects, always trusts,
always hopes, always perseveres.
Love bears all things, believes all things,
hopes all things, endures all things.
L o v e N e v e r F a i l s.
Two types of people: people capable of agape, and people who aren't.
Reply:You can love anyone for any reason. I love my brother, but am not in love with him. You can love a stranger because he is a fellow human being, but you don't know him and have no strong attraction or connection so you can't be in love with him.
If you love your boyfriend (or girlfriend) as a human and good friend, the relationship will always be platonic. Love is platonic. Being in love is deeper and more of a committed feeling.
Love or "In Love"?
Basically there are two types of people and two types of romantic love (although type two has a variation for most types of platonic relationships also. You see it often with mothers toward their children.) I think when people say "In Love" they mean eros.
Love type one: Eros love
- This is what they are talking about when you read about the love chemical. It has a huge effect on this stage of love. This is the love Jack and Rose had for each other in Titanic. You feel it in the beginning of a relationship. You are completely obsessed with the other person. Passion and fire is rampant. You rarely think of other things. You tell people you are in love. They can do no wrong in your eyes. It is exciting. You feel completely desired, wanted, and worthwhile. This love has an expiration date. It wears off. You start to see their flaws. It gets old. I've heard this can last up to about three years. Some people let the "love" go, saying it has become boring and they don't feel the same way. Often this is for the best, but sometimes they let go because of immaturity and look for the next best thing, the next high. This first stage of love has to happen to get to the next one. I'm sort of glad it expires, because you wouldn't be very productive or balanced if you were completely obsessed with a person forever.
Love type two: Agape love (agape is an old greek word for "love feast" and I've often heard it adopted in this culture to describe this second type of love)
- If you are lucky, you go into this second stage. This is commitment love. It is characterised by unconditional positive regard, patience, and self-sacrifice. There are ups and downs, but you stick with it bc you realize that real love isn't a feeling, it's actions, loyalty, and grace. This takes maturity and you generally have to have developed a real friendship with the person that will whether the ebb and flow of emotions. Sometimes the fire re-surfaces on special occasions, but it's not as all-consuming or long-lasting and brainless as eros was. This is what the 80 year olds celebrating their 60th anniversary have. This love protects the other's heart and shows love with actions even when they don't FEEL love for the other. Obviously, it seems like this is rare, and it is pretty rare. It requires unselfishness and for people to lay down their pride from time to time. That also takes intelligence. But it happens. They may not always be perfect to each other, but by and large, they go the distance because the majority of the time spent together is this kind of eternal love. You just have to realize that in real life, it's not the fantasy people represent it to be. It's work, it's family. It's not everlasting eros. There is more of a choice, and I think this means more. If it's easy to love and treat you right, you should expect it. If it's a constant effort that reaps sweet rewards, it means a lot.
Love is patient, Love is kind,
It does not envy, it does not boast,
It is not proud, It is not rude,
It is not self-seeking,
It is not easily angered,
It keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil,
but rejoices with the truth.
Love always protects, always trusts,
always hopes, always perseveres.
Love bears all things, believes all things,
hopes all things, endures all things.
L o v e N e v e r F a i l s.
Two types of people: people capable of agape, and people who aren't.
Reply:You can love anyone for any reason. I love my brother, but am not in love with him. You can love a stranger because he is a fellow human being, but you don't know him and have no strong attraction or connection so you can't be in love with him.
If you love your boyfriend (or girlfriend) as a human and good friend, the relationship will always be platonic. Love is platonic. Being in love is deeper and more of a committed feeling.
Love a married man? Who is getting a divorce/ or your best friend?
NUMBER 1: Do you choose the one you love with all your heart, the one that you feel like you can't live without. The one who hurt you once, but you love him unconditionally. The one that his family %26amp; friends say that you are the "perfect" match. The one who has improved his way of living. Who really loves you and actually means it when he says it. He does not want you to change, he loves you for who you are. When you kiss him you feel magic, wen you stare into his eyes you feel want - I need you, I want you, your my true love. Although most people do not want you with him... They say hes bad? (Hes getting a divorce)
NUMBER 2: Your best friend for 6 years, who you love and care about. But it's not the same. The one who is goal orientated, full of passion, doing something for his life, but You don't want to hurt him, hes you best friend and love. He wants you to change physically-%26gt; but never tells you
Love a married man? Who is getting a divorce/ or your best friend?
That's tough. You have to ask yourself, why is No. 2 my bestfriend? Shouldn't the one you be completely in love with be your bestfriend?
Reply:neither, sounds like you need to keep looking.
edit: you claim you're a christian but you're really a homewrecker
Reply:Number one, as long as you are sure it is love and not lust
Reply:the both are not the one for you sorry ..
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NUMBER 2: Your best friend for 6 years, who you love and care about. But it's not the same. The one who is goal orientated, full of passion, doing something for his life, but You don't want to hurt him, hes you best friend and love. He wants you to change physically-%26gt; but never tells you
Love a married man? Who is getting a divorce/ or your best friend?
That's tough. You have to ask yourself, why is No. 2 my bestfriend? Shouldn't the one you be completely in love with be your bestfriend?
Reply:neither, sounds like you need to keep looking.
edit: you claim you're a christian but you're really a homewrecker
Reply:Number one, as long as you are sure it is love and not lust
Reply:the both are not the one for you sorry ..
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May 1st Global Love Day?
We all know of valentines day being the day of romantic love, but now their is advocation of a day for GLOBAL LOVE ( http://www.thelovefoundation.com/Global_... ), a day dedicated not for those we find easy to love, but for all beings, even the ones we think we hate. I call this aspiration, as many of you will know, Metta, or Loving Kindness, or in Local tongue kenjallys graihagh although it can be called altruism, or universal love.
Do you think such a day for Global Love is neccesary? what are your views on this aspiration? and who do you think could benefit from this day?
As always I ask this question with Metta/Loving Kindness/Global Love.
(((((May Love fill you)))))
Thank-you for answering
May 1st Global Love Day?
I would like to suggest that we practice this every day. That way when May 1st rolls around each year; we will be better equipped to get it right. All beings would benefit in all ways.
Reply:May the 1st is Beltain (Celtic Cross quarter day/festival) and already embodies much of what you're talking about, at least to those of the Pagan faiths.
It's also International Workers' Day which has in recent years linked into the anti-globalisation/ecological causes, allowing the many "protests" which often happen on this day.
"Taking over" a day, I object to, but adding to it is another thing entirely...
Reply:I think its just a strategy to sell more consumer garbage like "global love day cards %26amp; chocolates".
People will start to expect gifts and others will ask us, "did you buy all your global love day presents yet?"
No, I am NOT for it. We can love each other and we should love each other every day. Those of us who are mindful enough should remind those of us who are not to do so (love each other) every chance they get.
No, no global love day for me- ridiculous.
Reply:That is a foolish idea. It implies that love can be restricted to one day. That is hardly loving-kindness. It would simply be 'going through the motions'
Reply:Couldn't hurt although I know everyone come to the truth in their own way and in their own time ...{{hugs}}
Reply:May 1st is my birthday. So you can all feel free to love me that day.
Reply:whats love but a second hand emotion...
Do you think such a day for Global Love is neccesary? what are your views on this aspiration? and who do you think could benefit from this day?
As always I ask this question with Metta/Loving Kindness/Global Love.
(((((May Love fill you)))))
Thank-you for answering
May 1st Global Love Day?
I would like to suggest that we practice this every day. That way when May 1st rolls around each year; we will be better equipped to get it right. All beings would benefit in all ways.
Reply:May the 1st is Beltain (Celtic Cross quarter day/festival) and already embodies much of what you're talking about, at least to those of the Pagan faiths.
It's also International Workers' Day which has in recent years linked into the anti-globalisation/ecological causes, allowing the many "protests" which often happen on this day.
"Taking over" a day, I object to, but adding to it is another thing entirely...
Reply:I think its just a strategy to sell more consumer garbage like "global love day cards %26amp; chocolates".
People will start to expect gifts and others will ask us, "did you buy all your global love day presents yet?"
No, I am NOT for it. We can love each other and we should love each other every day. Those of us who are mindful enough should remind those of us who are not to do so (love each other) every chance they get.
No, no global love day for me- ridiculous.
Reply:That is a foolish idea. It implies that love can be restricted to one day. That is hardly loving-kindness. It would simply be 'going through the motions'
Reply:Couldn't hurt although I know everyone come to the truth in their own way and in their own time ...{{hugs}}
Reply:May 1st is my birthday. So you can all feel free to love me that day.
Reply:whats love but a second hand emotion...
Cute love sayings...?
i need cute love sayings because i am making a collage for my boyfriend...but when you come up with a love saying u have to think of like a picture...for example if you said something about love you'd say a heart...or something about music a music note or treble clef...umm not long sayings short enough so i can squeeze a bunch onto one piece of paper..no dorky ones and im only 15 so nothing like about anything inappropriate..the extent is kissing nothing else.... we are in total love and he loves music..guitars and anything cute that explains us...he loves my green eyes my dark hair and my body and personality...i love his hair and eyes and everything about him..hes sweet and would love anything cute i give him...so a lot of short sayings and then i have 1 long saying but if you have one u think is amazing give it to me and maybe ill like it more or just take parts out of it to use...no longer than a page long tho...thanks so much!!! answers asap.....thanks a bunch and be creative!!☺
Cute love sayings...?
i love u like hendrix loved his guitar
Reply:I've needed quotes before so.. You can go to www.xanga.com, click on blogrings, and search for love quotes. You'll find a lot of sites that have a million of them listed :)
Reply:only the dead have seen the end of war
Reply:Never lie, steal, cheat or drink.
If you must Lie, then lie in the arms of the ones you love,
If you must Steal, steal away from bad company,
If you must Cheat, Cheat Death,
If you must Drink, drink for the moments that take your breath away.
Cute love sayings...?
i love u like hendrix loved his guitar
Reply:I've needed quotes before so.. You can go to www.xanga.com, click on blogrings, and search for love quotes. You'll find a lot of sites that have a million of them listed :)
Reply:only the dead have seen the end of war
Reply:Never lie, steal, cheat or drink.
If you must Lie, then lie in the arms of the ones you love,
If you must Steal, steal away from bad company,
If you must Cheat, Cheat Death,
If you must Drink, drink for the moments that take your breath away.
What does love look like?
What Love Looks Like
"My little children, let us not love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth."
— 1 John 3:18
Have you ever felt like a spiritual failure? If so, then you're in good company. Even the apostle Peter felt that way after he denied the Lord.
When Jesus told the disciples they would abandon Him in His hour of need, Peter insisted that he never would. But Jesus said that Peter would deny Him three times before the rooster crowed that day. And he did.
Now, Peter finds himself in an awkward moment. Jesus was crucified and had risen on the third day. He suddenly appears to them at the Sea of Galilee. Before they knew it, Jesus was cooking breakfast for everyone with the fish He had just helped them catch. Maybe as they ate, Peter was remembering when, not all that long ago, he denied the Lord by the glow of another fire.
Eventually, the Lord breaks the silence. He asks Peter a series of questions, each with the same phrase: "Do you love Me?"
Peter had learned his lesson. Instead of boasting of his love for the Lord, he simply answers, "Yes Lord; You know that I love you" (John 21:15–17). In the original language, the word Peter used for "love" was phileo. It could be translated, "have an affection for."
At least Peter was being honest. We can talk all day about how much we love God, but never act on it. Peter eventually proved his love for the Lord. A leader in the early church and the writer of two New Testament epistles, he reportedly was crucified upside-down as a martyr for his faith.
How about you? Is your love for the Lord expressed more by your words than your actions?
What does love look like?
a bulldog eating mayonaise.....oh wait....thats not love.....
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Reply:Jesus.
Reply:husband and kids
i dont have to rprove myself to strangers....i have a minister
Reply:Love hurts and Valentine's day sucks
nice rythm, uh?
Reply:Like Jesus.
Thank You Jesus.
Reply:The face of a 2-year-old who has been abandoned at a daycare for 8 long hours when his mother walks through the door.
That's how my face will look when Jesus steps out on the Eastern sky to tell us it is time to go home!
Reply:I dont have love for a God that doesnt exist, I love things that do. =)
"My little children, let us not love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth."
— 1 John 3:18
Have you ever felt like a spiritual failure? If so, then you're in good company. Even the apostle Peter felt that way after he denied the Lord.
When Jesus told the disciples they would abandon Him in His hour of need, Peter insisted that he never would. But Jesus said that Peter would deny Him three times before the rooster crowed that day. And he did.
Now, Peter finds himself in an awkward moment. Jesus was crucified and had risen on the third day. He suddenly appears to them at the Sea of Galilee. Before they knew it, Jesus was cooking breakfast for everyone with the fish He had just helped them catch. Maybe as they ate, Peter was remembering when, not all that long ago, he denied the Lord by the glow of another fire.
Eventually, the Lord breaks the silence. He asks Peter a series of questions, each with the same phrase: "Do you love Me?"
Peter had learned his lesson. Instead of boasting of his love for the Lord, he simply answers, "Yes Lord; You know that I love you" (John 21:15–17). In the original language, the word Peter used for "love" was phileo. It could be translated, "have an affection for."
At least Peter was being honest. We can talk all day about how much we love God, but never act on it. Peter eventually proved his love for the Lord. A leader in the early church and the writer of two New Testament epistles, he reportedly was crucified upside-down as a martyr for his faith.
How about you? Is your love for the Lord expressed more by your words than your actions?
What does love look like?
a bulldog eating mayonaise.....oh wait....thats not love.....
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Reply:Jesus.
Reply:husband and kids
i dont have to rprove myself to strangers....i have a minister
Reply:Love hurts and Valentine's day sucks
nice rythm, uh?
Reply:Like Jesus.
Thank You Jesus.
Reply:The face of a 2-year-old who has been abandoned at a daycare for 8 long hours when his mother walks through the door.
That's how my face will look when Jesus steps out on the Eastern sky to tell us it is time to go home!
Reply:I dont have love for a God that doesnt exist, I love things that do. =)
I love it when..... Girls?
Girls I love it when you look at me that certain way that makes me blush, I love it when you giggle after somthing I say. I love When you want to be held and I love it when you need me more than anything. I love it when You need me to protect you and I love it when you sai you love me. But what do you love I have no idea so enlighten me.
I love it when..... Girls?
i love to her what u love about me
Reply:aw thanks im flattered!
Reply:okay theres no question here so, baddie
Reply:I love it when a guy takes the time in bed to worry about my needs... awww thats love, HA!
Reply:compliments and help with the house work
Reply:We love to be treated with respect.
Reply:lollllll sweet ;)
Reply:Jose, you sound so.......gay.
Reply:i like you liking all the things we do, i feel like hugging someone now =]
Reply:u seem like a very sweet guy
Reply:girls love to be looked at a certain way. like you admire them and love them. they like to laugh. they like to feel. we like to feel accepted and not have to change for anyone. we like to feel comfortable and loved in a guys arms.
Reply:I think they love men that are not co-dependent...
Reply:the same thing you love.
that was sweet.
Reply:I love it when a boy gives me his sweater when im cold. Tells me he loves me at the most random and perfect moment. Understands when im not feeling good. Helps me when im upset. Tells me im beautiful , not hot. Holds me tight. Kisses me softly.
Reply:I love it when he plays in my hair.. I love it when his smiles and stare at me. I love when he say he love me and I say I love you more.. I love it all.
Reply:I like it when guys act like big brothers. When you go crying to a guy and they ask who's a$$ they are kicking. I love it when you hold a guys hand and nothing can touch you or when you look in a guys eyes and get lost in them. I love it when guys don't act like jerks when they are around his friends. I love sensitive guys.
Don't ever let a guy or girl make fun of you for what you just said. Girls love those kinds of things. Guys who think thats stupid just don't get us. We love guys like you. You are one in a million!
Reply:Honestly I really think women and men like about the same kind of thing......us women just have a different way of thinking about stuff then you guys. But when it boils down to it, we both pretty much like the same things about each other. Especially the part about being loved! You sound like a sweet guy!
Reply:I love it when you ask me to enlighten you!
Reply:i love it when my man gives me a hug or kiss for no reason, i love it when he protects me without me having to ask, i love it when he notices i'm wearing something new or i've changed my hair, i love it when he tells me i'm beautiful (not hot), i love it when he cooks for me, i love it when he invites me along with his friends because i can be like one of the guys, i love it when he cuddles with me as i fall asleep.
i could go on and on!
Reply:I love it when my guy just wraps me up in his arms like he'll never let me go. I love it when we tickle fight or play wrestle. Or when we just lay there looking at each other and just feel so at peace. I love when he tells me and beautiful and brushes the hair out of my face. I love it when, even after we fight, he'll wipe all my tears away. I love when he tells me he loves me and that he's never felt so strongly about another girl.
Reply:Everything you said. Love it.
Reply:Dude that sounds really retarded. No girl is gonna fall for that, sorry....
Reply:it sounds more to me u need to get a grlfriend..........or a boyfriend☻.
Reply:Boys i love it when you make me feel special, i love it when you give me attendtion, i love it when you try so hard just to get notice, i love it when you embaress yourself in front of me..lol..i think thats cute.....i love every little cute thing you do.
i love alot of things . Did i answer your question? Did i enlighten you?
Reply:i love it when im told im cute i love it when im kissed for no reason or when my bf is not affraid of public display, i LOVE it when im not pushed to have s*x but they go for it when im ready i also like honest guys and guys who laugh at my jokes even is they are not funny
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I love it when..... Girls?
i love to her what u love about me
Reply:aw thanks im flattered!
Reply:okay theres no question here so, baddie
Reply:I love it when a guy takes the time in bed to worry about my needs... awww thats love, HA!
Reply:compliments and help with the house work
Reply:We love to be treated with respect.
Reply:lollllll sweet ;)
Reply:Jose, you sound so.......gay.
Reply:i like you liking all the things we do, i feel like hugging someone now =]
Reply:u seem like a very sweet guy
Reply:girls love to be looked at a certain way. like you admire them and love them. they like to laugh. they like to feel. we like to feel accepted and not have to change for anyone. we like to feel comfortable and loved in a guys arms.
Reply:I think they love men that are not co-dependent...
Reply:the same thing you love.
that was sweet.
Reply:I love it when a boy gives me his sweater when im cold. Tells me he loves me at the most random and perfect moment. Understands when im not feeling good. Helps me when im upset. Tells me im beautiful , not hot. Holds me tight. Kisses me softly.
Reply:I love it when he plays in my hair.. I love it when his smiles and stare at me. I love when he say he love me and I say I love you more.. I love it all.
Reply:I like it when guys act like big brothers. When you go crying to a guy and they ask who's a$$ they are kicking. I love it when you hold a guys hand and nothing can touch you or when you look in a guys eyes and get lost in them. I love it when guys don't act like jerks when they are around his friends. I love sensitive guys.
Don't ever let a guy or girl make fun of you for what you just said. Girls love those kinds of things. Guys who think thats stupid just don't get us. We love guys like you. You are one in a million!
Reply:Honestly I really think women and men like about the same kind of thing......us women just have a different way of thinking about stuff then you guys. But when it boils down to it, we both pretty much like the same things about each other. Especially the part about being loved! You sound like a sweet guy!
Reply:I love it when you ask me to enlighten you!
Reply:i love it when my man gives me a hug or kiss for no reason, i love it when he protects me without me having to ask, i love it when he notices i'm wearing something new or i've changed my hair, i love it when he tells me i'm beautiful (not hot), i love it when he cooks for me, i love it when he invites me along with his friends because i can be like one of the guys, i love it when he cuddles with me as i fall asleep.
i could go on and on!
Reply:I love it when my guy just wraps me up in his arms like he'll never let me go. I love it when we tickle fight or play wrestle. Or when we just lay there looking at each other and just feel so at peace. I love when he tells me and beautiful and brushes the hair out of my face. I love it when, even after we fight, he'll wipe all my tears away. I love when he tells me he loves me and that he's never felt so strongly about another girl.
Reply:Everything you said. Love it.
Reply:Dude that sounds really retarded. No girl is gonna fall for that, sorry....
Reply:it sounds more to me u need to get a grlfriend..........or a boyfriend☻.
Reply:Boys i love it when you make me feel special, i love it when you give me attendtion, i love it when you try so hard just to get notice, i love it when you embaress yourself in front of me..lol..i think thats cute.....i love every little cute thing you do.
i love alot of things . Did i answer your question? Did i enlighten you?
Reply:i love it when im told im cute i love it when im kissed for no reason or when my bf is not affraid of public display, i LOVE it when im not pushed to have s*x but they go for it when im ready i also like honest guys and guys who laugh at my jokes even is they are not funny
orthodontics
God and Love?
In all my (former) years of being a Christian I could never understand why God was considered a loving God, to me love is not blood and suffering. Love is not murdering your son to appease your own vanity. Love is not hatred or wrath, consigning billions of people to eternal torture because they have offended your ego or disobeyed your rules. Love is not obedience, conformity, or submission. True love is respect and admiration, compassion and kindness. True love is what God fails to show, even in Holy Scripture true love rarely shows its face. After growing up in a Christian household, God seemed like a abusive father, focused on installing fear in the hope I would always obey him, imposing immense amounts of guilt every time I did something against his will, striking me every time I disobeyed him. I am familiar with tough love, but God seems to have taken it a bit too far. If God really exists, I hope he isn’t even comparable to the God Christians put forth today. What's you opinion?
God and Love?
wow! very eloquent!
(the avatar is scary-cool, dude!)
Reply:that many people have different opinions but by far i support yours because it's well explains the relationship us Christians have with god and love. I even question my self sometimes! Report It
Reply:imagine a love that will allow you to do all the things you want, helping you in everything you do, a love without struggles in becoming perfect or creating something perfect... Gods love is justice and fairness. we actually dont have the right to question anything about God, the fact that he made you alive is enough reason for you to believe him and obey him... all the struggles and sufferings you have are just preparing you to be in Gods kingdom... i have asked him a thousand times of whys and what... though i dont get all the answers this questions made me think af the answer and search on my own....
Reply:If you created a creature and gave that creature the freedom to choose and that creature betrayed you wouldn't you be angry too? What right does a creation have to question the creator? The reason God is love is because as the creator he had no reason to not destroy his creation but he chose to even offer his creation eternal life for the sake of the few that chose to follow him.
Reply:My opinion is that the God of the Bible is not the only God in the Cosmos.
The Gods of many of the polytheistic religions are not like abusive parents. Perhaps you are being called in that direction......
Reply:God is not loving in any other way than the fact that he will save us from our torturous lives with a death and a invite to heaven.
Too bad he is a metaphor to help the poor people cope with not having the things the rich people have.....
Reply:If i cud shake your hand for the words you've wrote.What is the reason for all this is it merely some sick game for his veiwing pleasure?
Reply:I dont want to force my opinions on anyone, but I dont think there really was a god. Jesus walked earth but air was filled with SO much crap, people went delusional. Just like in scientology, bible was probably written by some dreamer, a writer with a wonderful and brutal imagination. That would be my opinion.
I think there might be SOMETHING watching over us, but i doubt it's interfering with our daily lives...
But lets say so many people ARE wrong, and god does exist, and all those things did happen, yes, he would be a very cruel god.
Reply:That God is merely a tool of the church to do exactly that, cause fear for dominance.
There is no God.
Reply:Humans are the ones who sin..God is perfect.. IT WASNT MURDER...HE WILLINGLY WAS CRUCIFIED SO WHEN we repent we can live again...you arent fit to judge God...obviously you arent born again.. Be sure to get some sun..
Reply:God means love, if we love each other that means we LOVE God
Reply:I agree with you. Well put!
Reply:Its funny you ask this question because I have been having trouble with understanding it. Recently I have found something that actually gave me greater comfort.
Could God prevent the tragedies? Yes, the Lord is omnipotent, with all power and control over our lives. But he will not. The same way I am not able to shield my child from disappointments, temptation, sorrow, or suffering.
This is our free will to develop for us to choose carefully, and grow in our faith.
"No pain we suffer, no trial that we experience is wasted. It ministers to our education, to development of such qualities as patience, faith, fortitude,and humility. All that we suffer and endure, especially when we endure it patiently, builds up our characters, purifies our heart, expands our souls, and makes us charitable, more worthy to be called the children of God.... and it is through sorrow and suffering, toil and tabulations, that we gain the education that we come here to acquire and which will make us more like our Father in heaven...." by Orson F. Whitney
Reply:another one of those common questions people thinking they are smart ask after they see it on the web. i remember seeing on this on some comedian's show, forgot his name.
i use this analogy:
do parents not love their children?
but if their child was to go commit murder, rape people, rob banks, won't the parents punish their child and let him go to juvi, or would they go, oh i love him, despite him raping and murdering he deserves to be set free?
well if your parents are like that, then i can understand why you asked this question.
(btw im not proving or defending god, im just saying stupid teens watching tv shows and looking up google, let the more muture and intellectual athiests argue their points)
Reply:I'm a very practicising catholic but I find you should ask those questions. But you should ask them with humility and without a doubt on faith.
There is no bigger love than to give his own live for others.
Love are not only words but love is the most profound reality of our life. So love can't be only with actions of the mouth but it has to be with all our existence.
The Martyrs have made love of their lifes.
And so did all the apostels. (John was also martyrized but didn't die by that.)
That's what God asks from us. He doesn't want love to be an external attribute of us but a deep reality in our life.
His Son is the example so he asked the same for him.
But you are really right. It is a bad manner of some christian sects to speak allways of the punishment of hell.
The bible recognices the reality of hell to give importance to our decision but not to make us fear.
If you know that hell exists you are more free with your will. You don't fear the punishment of your senses and you can choose what is the real truth by rational thinkings. Our senses often fight against the spirit the thinking of hell helps us against those forces to be free in our decision.
@shiafiul
Yes, the person you are speaking about has now seen that the Islam is a religion of hatred and want to come back to the true faith. But it's not possible. The muslim kill everybody who follow the free decision of faith.
Reply:Sherry Hamblen - My Journey to Islam
Stories of the New Muslims
When I was small, going to church was a major event. First, I got to wear a fancy dress with frills and bows and more often than not it was itchy! I tried my best not to fidget in it. At Vacation Bible School there was a craft! And then.. the event of all events, the snack!! Wow, served on a colored paper plate with a napkin. I would look at the pictures of Jesus on the walls and think about him, for I was told that the blonde, blue-eyed Jesus was God. The western Christian idea of God was firmly implanted, along with the snack.
As I grew I tried hard to maintain my religion. When my parents divorced, I went to church alone. When the Pastor said that reading the Bible brought you closer to God, I read it. When he said prayer was the key, I prayed. Even as a kid I ached in my heart for God.
I ended up marrying a man who was to become a Pastor. I continued reading the Bible, and praying, and aching in my heart. I concentrated on rearing my children and keeping the house and yet in my heart I ached for God so much. Something was not right.
I began to think.
That's when the “trouble” began. I got the bright idea that I would read the Bible through and in one shot get all my questions answered. I ended up reading it more than once, and didn't get my questions answered! Why did God favor David so much when he committed adultery, and had Uriah killed? Gee I didn't do that and.. felt God was far away. Jesus was God, I was taught; and yet.. there is a story where this man comes up to Jesus and calls him "good master", and Jesus replies asking “Why callest thou me good? There is none good but One that is God.” Now why would God say that?? I had many other questions besides this. I started asking my questions, and got into trouble. I was told I had no faith, and I was messing in details of no concern. Nothing was making sense!
The true turning point came after revival one night. I was exhausted from over an hour of singing, and at the dinner table my husband was going over the fine points of his sermon. I had questions and asked them and he erupted in an angry tirade. I went outside crying and again felt that ache in my heart that I was so familiar with. I talked to God. I told him I didn't know Him, but I wanted to so very much. I told Him I had done all that I knew to do. I asked Him to reveal Himself to me no matter what it took, or what I had to lose. I had to find God.
Eruptions at home were becoming commonplace. The Pastor's wife must not confide her troubles to anyone in the church! Gossip and much trouble can start that way. To have someone to talk to I began going into Christian chat rooms. One day in that room I met a muslim. Tarek was the first Muslim I had ever met. I had to win him to Jesus! Tarek was a little unnerving because he seemed to sense my discontent. I was trying very hard to lead him to Jesus and show Tarek I had the truth, and he wasn't buying it. That day began a relationship that was a war of words. We wrote for months; I sent him my objections to Islam, and he answered with facts. When Tarek sent articles on the fallacies in the Bible, I would cringe. Many of them I had already studied; but more? Back and forth we went. Things at home and at church were escalating at a dizzying pace. I could no longer sit on the front pew of the church in the honored Pastor's wife position and open my Bible in the same way. Things were now tainted with questions. Answered questions.
At this time in my life I was in a well, so to speak. I couldn't read the Bible with the same zeal anymore; I wasn't sure if my prayers were right; church was a big fiasco as far as I was concerned because I could no longer tell what was the truth and what wasn't. Tarek started telling me to read the Quran and issued me a formal challenge! I thought it over for a couple of days as if I did this I would have to make a major effort and I had to face the possibility of conversion. Part of me was also desperate for God by this time. Church was becoming more and more painful. At this time I was missing song services as I could no longer sing the songs. The words bothered me so, the emotionalism in the people that got us no where. Everything was coming into clarity and it was very, very frightening as I was the only one seeing things this way. When you are on the platform or on the first row of the pew you can't hide spiritual discontent! Many times during the sermon I would hear something I knew to be false and I just couldn't take it I would get up and walk out. What a sight, me leaving and walking down that long center aisle out the door in plain view of the whole church.
I now had to get a copy of the Quran. The library had one, but it was gone. No bookstore around had a copy. That left one place that I knew of , and that was ISNA (Islamic Society of North America)!! I had heard from Christians that there were snipers on the roof who shot at people who trespassed! I went anyway I was so desperate for God and there I met Habibe. She talked to me for a long while and was very sweet. Not only did I get a copy of the Quran but she also gave me prayer books , general books and pamphlets. Tarek had sent me some studies and a beautiful picture of a star nebula that I printed off and before that evening I had read all the pamphlets. I made a mistake though; I left my studies on the couch where my husband found them. He threw them and the picture of the nebula in the fire and yelled that I was bringing Satan into the home. He said if he found my Quran he would roast it either in the oven or in the fire and I hid it. He tore up the house looking for it. I began planning my day so I would come home when he left, and leave when he came home. For the week we might see each other for only 15 minutes or so. My marriage was nearly over. The rest of the time I was studying or in my favorite spot in the forestry where I would cry and talk to God.
One Friday I went to the mosque for prayer. I sat on the side and the first time I heard the Azzan I cried. I felt relaxed there for the first time in months. What was happening to me??
I was reading the Quran every day. Things were coming into sharp focus. The view of God in the Quran is very different from the Biblical God. This God made sense. At this time some of the leadership at church approached me to be president of a chapter of a nationwide women's organization. One of the "outreaches" of this organization is to lead Muslim women out of Islam and into Chrisitianity! I had just met Habibe.. she didn't needed converting! She was more together than any woman I knew at church! I told them tentatively that I was not the one for this job when they told me God had told them (and God had spoken to the statewide people too) that I was the one! Wow ! So now I had God “against” me. I told them I would preside over the first few meetings and the first meeting was packed with many women. I led the song service, and spoke very neutrally. I actually just spent my time on empty verbage as I couldn't talk a Christian message.
Then I read the Quran some more and something clicked. That was it. I quit song service and presiding over the women's group. I attended mosque and quit attending church. One night when I didn't expect my husband to come home, he did. After a violent outburst I asked him to leave the house and surprisingly, he did. Things began unraveling. My family was so upset at what I was doing; my marriage was over; the church couldn't believe what had happened, and news travels fast in a small town. I had to set my face for anything just to go to the store. Still I searched! News began to fly that I had become a Muslim. I hadn't pronounced my Shahadah (testimony of faith) yet!
I told Tarek that all my questions were answered except one: about the diety of Jesus. I remembered Sunday School and being so afraid of not accepting Jesus right because he was the only way to God, you see. Tarek didn't send me a lot at this time actually only two concentrated studies. I printed them and studied. In one study, 1 John 5:7 was said to be an addition to the text, not an original verse. That verse became my Ace.. if that verse was in question, then I had to admit Jesus may not be God. I went to the State Library and did some research. I found that the information was correct, that this verse was indeed in question. I sat in the library for a long time in a daze.
I went home and admitted to God that He was God alone. There was no one beside him. Instead of being struck with lightning I felt peace! People in the town would approach me and say things, but I had a peace I had never had before. The town printed my divorce in the paper. I read a book on Tawheed and made my decision to take my Shahadah. One night I admitted to God that He was One and Only God and Mohammed was the messenger of God. I had no doubts as I had studied through every single one. That night I prayed my first prayer, Fajr. I was broken as circumstances were very difficult for me, as my family was upset and not accepting to say the least. After my prayer with my head on the floor I talked to God about everything and I knew He heard me. I knew it! I can't tell you what that was like for me, it was as if I had been in a thirst so deep my throat was burning fire and then I had a cool drink of healing. It was everything I had ever wanted from God all wrapped up in a few moments of time.
Since then I have had to move, and had to deal with staples in my tires from angry people who are blaming all Muslims for September 11th; I have been yelled at, spit at; my family is still not accepting. This is small compare
God and Love?
wow! very eloquent!
(the avatar is scary-cool, dude!)
Reply:that many people have different opinions but by far i support yours because it's well explains the relationship us Christians have with god and love. I even question my self sometimes! Report It
Reply:imagine a love that will allow you to do all the things you want, helping you in everything you do, a love without struggles in becoming perfect or creating something perfect... Gods love is justice and fairness. we actually dont have the right to question anything about God, the fact that he made you alive is enough reason for you to believe him and obey him... all the struggles and sufferings you have are just preparing you to be in Gods kingdom... i have asked him a thousand times of whys and what... though i dont get all the answers this questions made me think af the answer and search on my own....
Reply:If you created a creature and gave that creature the freedom to choose and that creature betrayed you wouldn't you be angry too? What right does a creation have to question the creator? The reason God is love is because as the creator he had no reason to not destroy his creation but he chose to even offer his creation eternal life for the sake of the few that chose to follow him.
Reply:My opinion is that the God of the Bible is not the only God in the Cosmos.
The Gods of many of the polytheistic religions are not like abusive parents. Perhaps you are being called in that direction......
Reply:God is not loving in any other way than the fact that he will save us from our torturous lives with a death and a invite to heaven.
Too bad he is a metaphor to help the poor people cope with not having the things the rich people have.....
Reply:If i cud shake your hand for the words you've wrote.What is the reason for all this is it merely some sick game for his veiwing pleasure?
Reply:I dont want to force my opinions on anyone, but I dont think there really was a god. Jesus walked earth but air was filled with SO much crap, people went delusional. Just like in scientology, bible was probably written by some dreamer, a writer with a wonderful and brutal imagination. That would be my opinion.
I think there might be SOMETHING watching over us, but i doubt it's interfering with our daily lives...
But lets say so many people ARE wrong, and god does exist, and all those things did happen, yes, he would be a very cruel god.
Reply:That God is merely a tool of the church to do exactly that, cause fear for dominance.
There is no God.
Reply:Humans are the ones who sin..God is perfect.. IT WASNT MURDER...HE WILLINGLY WAS CRUCIFIED SO WHEN we repent we can live again...you arent fit to judge God...obviously you arent born again.. Be sure to get some sun..
Reply:God means love, if we love each other that means we LOVE God
Reply:I agree with you. Well put!
Reply:Its funny you ask this question because I have been having trouble with understanding it. Recently I have found something that actually gave me greater comfort.
Could God prevent the tragedies? Yes, the Lord is omnipotent, with all power and control over our lives. But he will not. The same way I am not able to shield my child from disappointments, temptation, sorrow, or suffering.
This is our free will to develop for us to choose carefully, and grow in our faith.
"No pain we suffer, no trial that we experience is wasted. It ministers to our education, to development of such qualities as patience, faith, fortitude,and humility. All that we suffer and endure, especially when we endure it patiently, builds up our characters, purifies our heart, expands our souls, and makes us charitable, more worthy to be called the children of God.... and it is through sorrow and suffering, toil and tabulations, that we gain the education that we come here to acquire and which will make us more like our Father in heaven...." by Orson F. Whitney
Reply:another one of those common questions people thinking they are smart ask after they see it on the web. i remember seeing on this on some comedian's show, forgot his name.
i use this analogy:
do parents not love their children?
but if their child was to go commit murder, rape people, rob banks, won't the parents punish their child and let him go to juvi, or would they go, oh i love him, despite him raping and murdering he deserves to be set free?
well if your parents are like that, then i can understand why you asked this question.
(btw im not proving or defending god, im just saying stupid teens watching tv shows and looking up google, let the more muture and intellectual athiests argue their points)
Reply:I'm a very practicising catholic but I find you should ask those questions. But you should ask them with humility and without a doubt on faith.
There is no bigger love than to give his own live for others.
Love are not only words but love is the most profound reality of our life. So love can't be only with actions of the mouth but it has to be with all our existence.
The Martyrs have made love of their lifes.
And so did all the apostels. (John was also martyrized but didn't die by that.)
That's what God asks from us. He doesn't want love to be an external attribute of us but a deep reality in our life.
His Son is the example so he asked the same for him.
But you are really right. It is a bad manner of some christian sects to speak allways of the punishment of hell.
The bible recognices the reality of hell to give importance to our decision but not to make us fear.
If you know that hell exists you are more free with your will. You don't fear the punishment of your senses and you can choose what is the real truth by rational thinkings. Our senses often fight against the spirit the thinking of hell helps us against those forces to be free in our decision.
@shiafiul
Yes, the person you are speaking about has now seen that the Islam is a religion of hatred and want to come back to the true faith. But it's not possible. The muslim kill everybody who follow the free decision of faith.
Reply:Sherry Hamblen - My Journey to Islam
Stories of the New Muslims
When I was small, going to church was a major event. First, I got to wear a fancy dress with frills and bows and more often than not it was itchy! I tried my best not to fidget in it. At Vacation Bible School there was a craft! And then.. the event of all events, the snack!! Wow, served on a colored paper plate with a napkin. I would look at the pictures of Jesus on the walls and think about him, for I was told that the blonde, blue-eyed Jesus was God. The western Christian idea of God was firmly implanted, along with the snack.
As I grew I tried hard to maintain my religion. When my parents divorced, I went to church alone. When the Pastor said that reading the Bible brought you closer to God, I read it. When he said prayer was the key, I prayed. Even as a kid I ached in my heart for God.
I ended up marrying a man who was to become a Pastor. I continued reading the Bible, and praying, and aching in my heart. I concentrated on rearing my children and keeping the house and yet in my heart I ached for God so much. Something was not right.
I began to think.
That's when the “trouble” began. I got the bright idea that I would read the Bible through and in one shot get all my questions answered. I ended up reading it more than once, and didn't get my questions answered! Why did God favor David so much when he committed adultery, and had Uriah killed? Gee I didn't do that and.. felt God was far away. Jesus was God, I was taught; and yet.. there is a story where this man comes up to Jesus and calls him "good master", and Jesus replies asking “Why callest thou me good? There is none good but One that is God.” Now why would God say that?? I had many other questions besides this. I started asking my questions, and got into trouble. I was told I had no faith, and I was messing in details of no concern. Nothing was making sense!
The true turning point came after revival one night. I was exhausted from over an hour of singing, and at the dinner table my husband was going over the fine points of his sermon. I had questions and asked them and he erupted in an angry tirade. I went outside crying and again felt that ache in my heart that I was so familiar with. I talked to God. I told him I didn't know Him, but I wanted to so very much. I told Him I had done all that I knew to do. I asked Him to reveal Himself to me no matter what it took, or what I had to lose. I had to find God.
Eruptions at home were becoming commonplace. The Pastor's wife must not confide her troubles to anyone in the church! Gossip and much trouble can start that way. To have someone to talk to I began going into Christian chat rooms. One day in that room I met a muslim. Tarek was the first Muslim I had ever met. I had to win him to Jesus! Tarek was a little unnerving because he seemed to sense my discontent. I was trying very hard to lead him to Jesus and show Tarek I had the truth, and he wasn't buying it. That day began a relationship that was a war of words. We wrote for months; I sent him my objections to Islam, and he answered with facts. When Tarek sent articles on the fallacies in the Bible, I would cringe. Many of them I had already studied; but more? Back and forth we went. Things at home and at church were escalating at a dizzying pace. I could no longer sit on the front pew of the church in the honored Pastor's wife position and open my Bible in the same way. Things were now tainted with questions. Answered questions.
At this time in my life I was in a well, so to speak. I couldn't read the Bible with the same zeal anymore; I wasn't sure if my prayers were right; church was a big fiasco as far as I was concerned because I could no longer tell what was the truth and what wasn't. Tarek started telling me to read the Quran and issued me a formal challenge! I thought it over for a couple of days as if I did this I would have to make a major effort and I had to face the possibility of conversion. Part of me was also desperate for God by this time. Church was becoming more and more painful. At this time I was missing song services as I could no longer sing the songs. The words bothered me so, the emotionalism in the people that got us no where. Everything was coming into clarity and it was very, very frightening as I was the only one seeing things this way. When you are on the platform or on the first row of the pew you can't hide spiritual discontent! Many times during the sermon I would hear something I knew to be false and I just couldn't take it I would get up and walk out. What a sight, me leaving and walking down that long center aisle out the door in plain view of the whole church.
I now had to get a copy of the Quran. The library had one, but it was gone. No bookstore around had a copy. That left one place that I knew of , and that was ISNA (Islamic Society of North America)!! I had heard from Christians that there were snipers on the roof who shot at people who trespassed! I went anyway I was so desperate for God and there I met Habibe. She talked to me for a long while and was very sweet. Not only did I get a copy of the Quran but she also gave me prayer books , general books and pamphlets. Tarek had sent me some studies and a beautiful picture of a star nebula that I printed off and before that evening I had read all the pamphlets. I made a mistake though; I left my studies on the couch where my husband found them. He threw them and the picture of the nebula in the fire and yelled that I was bringing Satan into the home. He said if he found my Quran he would roast it either in the oven or in the fire and I hid it. He tore up the house looking for it. I began planning my day so I would come home when he left, and leave when he came home. For the week we might see each other for only 15 minutes or so. My marriage was nearly over. The rest of the time I was studying or in my favorite spot in the forestry where I would cry and talk to God.
One Friday I went to the mosque for prayer. I sat on the side and the first time I heard the Azzan I cried. I felt relaxed there for the first time in months. What was happening to me??
I was reading the Quran every day. Things were coming into sharp focus. The view of God in the Quran is very different from the Biblical God. This God made sense. At this time some of the leadership at church approached me to be president of a chapter of a nationwide women's organization. One of the "outreaches" of this organization is to lead Muslim women out of Islam and into Chrisitianity! I had just met Habibe.. she didn't needed converting! She was more together than any woman I knew at church! I told them tentatively that I was not the one for this job when they told me God had told them (and God had spoken to the statewide people too) that I was the one! Wow ! So now I had God “against” me. I told them I would preside over the first few meetings and the first meeting was packed with many women. I led the song service, and spoke very neutrally. I actually just spent my time on empty verbage as I couldn't talk a Christian message.
Then I read the Quran some more and something clicked. That was it. I quit song service and presiding over the women's group. I attended mosque and quit attending church. One night when I didn't expect my husband to come home, he did. After a violent outburst I asked him to leave the house and surprisingly, he did. Things began unraveling. My family was so upset at what I was doing; my marriage was over; the church couldn't believe what had happened, and news travels fast in a small town. I had to set my face for anything just to go to the store. Still I searched! News began to fly that I had become a Muslim. I hadn't pronounced my Shahadah (testimony of faith) yet!
I told Tarek that all my questions were answered except one: about the diety of Jesus. I remembered Sunday School and being so afraid of not accepting Jesus right because he was the only way to God, you see. Tarek didn't send me a lot at this time actually only two concentrated studies. I printed them and studied. In one study, 1 John 5:7 was said to be an addition to the text, not an original verse. That verse became my Ace.. if that verse was in question, then I had to admit Jesus may not be God. I went to the State Library and did some research. I found that the information was correct, that this verse was indeed in question. I sat in the library for a long time in a daze.
I went home and admitted to God that He was God alone. There was no one beside him. Instead of being struck with lightning I felt peace! People in the town would approach me and say things, but I had a peace I had never had before. The town printed my divorce in the paper. I read a book on Tawheed and made my decision to take my Shahadah. One night I admitted to God that He was One and Only God and Mohammed was the messenger of God. I had no doubts as I had studied through every single one. That night I prayed my first prayer, Fajr. I was broken as circumstances were very difficult for me, as my family was upset and not accepting to say the least. After my prayer with my head on the floor I talked to God about everything and I knew He heard me. I knew it! I can't tell you what that was like for me, it was as if I had been in a thirst so deep my throat was burning fire and then I had a cool drink of healing. It was everything I had ever wanted from God all wrapped up in a few moments of time.
Since then I have had to move, and had to deal with staples in my tires from angry people who are blaming all Muslims for September 11th; I have been yelled at, spit at; my family is still not accepting. This is small compare
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