2 LOVE"S at one time!!!! HELP!?

i have a very good friend of mine who love's 2 ppl.


1 she really love's{{{{was not meant to be this way! }}}}} and the other she love's, and is love with! believe me she is no love struck teen, she is in mid 50s.she's going nut's because of this, and cry's a lot over it! i know she is leaning more toward's the one she is in love with, and loves, no matter what someone will be hurt!


this has never happened to he beforer, and she just dosen't know what to do.i told her to talk to someone about this, but she dos'nt trust to easy, how can a person be so indesisive, and love 2 ppl. at one time? i don't understand this. thats why it's so hard for me to help her with this! thanks.

2 LOVE"S at one time!!!! HELP!?
Only the heart knows.


In time her heart will tell her also. Hasty decisions rarely turn out, so tell her not to rush into things, be patient and the answer will come to her.


Deep down she may already know the answer but not ready to accept yet.
Reply:i think it urs story so b honest with ur love and go ahead.
Reply:She could try doing the make a list of pros and cons for each relationship. Sometimes putting things in writing makes things clearer.
Reply:it kind of sounds like she 'loves' two people in case one doesn't work out. i know it sounds bad but at 50 she's probably been hurt before and she doesn't want to be hurt again. loving two people makes it easier for her because she knows eventually she will end up with one or the other, instead of being alone. i dont know your friend, and no offense, but it sounds kind of selfish. do they know about each other? if she is really in love with either of them she needs to be honest with the other, or get rid of one. if i were you i would tell her that she's playing a dangerous game and she is likely to end up with neither if she keeps stringing both along. i personally don't believe you can whole-heartedly love more than one person. perhaps she does love one and is just infatuated with the other. or perhaps the excitement of having two has just overrun her judgement. at that age it is probably a rush to be in this kind of situation. its equally exhausting though too. you said she doesnt trust easily and is indecisive - i bet she has pretty low self esteem also. even if she doesn't let anyone know that. for a person who is insecure with themselves nothing is better than having two people gush over them. but she needs to realize it's not just them she is hurting, its herself too. let her know she is a great person and doesnt need to put herself or anyone else through the heartache that is inevitable. the only way any good could come of this is if she picks one of them and is honest about what's been going on with both of them. then if the one she picks wants to be with her - awesome. if not, she has to understand that her behavior violated some trust issues. its better now than on down the road. if she ends up with neither of them, perhaps she will learn something and find true happiness in someone else. the basis of any successful relationship is honesty, honesty with herself first, and honesty with the person she is with. she can't expect to be happy with anybody (especially 2 people) if there is no honesty. good luck to you and your friend. and to you - don't get so wrapped up..